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Toxic people...

Wednesday, July 17, 2013

My husband and I haven't had anything to do with his family in four years. The situation just grew too toxic, so we decided it was in our best interest to avoid them and that entire situation. I have been communicating a little bit with my mother-in-law and spent four hours talking to my sister-in-law today. My other sister-in-law hasn't changed at all...but she probably never will and I don't care about repairing anything with her. It was really nice talking to my sister-in-law today...really nice.

Do you have a toxic relationship? How have you dealt with it? Feel free to unload. I've been there...goodness knows we need to unload sometimes.

Member Comments About This Blog Post:
CBLENS 7/18/2013 12:45PM

    SO nice that you can work on renewing the relationship.

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BLUEROSE73 7/18/2013 9:58AM

    I've had many of those in my life. I currently have one still in my life. It is so much easier and healthier to cut them out until they change.

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NANCYPAT1 7/18/2013 12:30AM

    I have backed out of those relationships that have been toxic to me - not always fast enough though.

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BUCKEYEMOM8 7/17/2013 11:10PM

  Since my dad died seven years ago, my brother and his wife and children have ignored our elderly, memory impaired mom. My husband and sons have been rocks in supporting me in efforts to take care of my mom. My brother does not visit or call my mom and his wife makes fun of my mom's memory slip ups in front of the grandchildren. Things came to a head when I suggested to my SIL that her family visit or call mom and she told me I should detach from being my mom's daughter and put her in a home. I hung up on her and decided I need not have her or my brother in our family's lives. I miss neither my SIL nor brother. Throughout our adult lives, they have alienated virtually our entire side of the family. I should have cut SIL off when she did not show up for my mother in law's funeral . They are toxic and I feel much better not having to deal with them. My brother will have to answer to my dad either in his conscience or when they meet again before The Lord. It took a long time but it is better to avoid them.

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KAB7801 7/17/2013 10:41PM

    I rarely talk to my sister
Very sad, but she is so yuppityuppie!
So we are cordial when we see each other, only about twice year!
Thank God!
I would like something different but not too concerned, we live 15 hours away from each other.
Nice blog, hit home!

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