Here's a reiteration of the 5 key activities for boosting happiness/success:
1. Three new gratitudes each day will teach your brain to retain a pattern of scanning the world not for the negative, but for the positive first.
2. Journaling about one positive experience you've had over the past 24 hours allows your brain to re-live it.
3. Exercise teaches your brain that your behavior matters.
4. Meditation allows your brain to get over the cultural ADHD that we've been creating by trying to do multiple tasks at once.
5. Random or conscious acts of kindness - send a positive e-mail to thank or praise someone in your social support network.
1. I am thankful for the love of my life (let's call him Mr. T). No person on earth has ever known EVERYTHING about my sordid past and accepted me so openly. No one has ever made it their mission to constantly tell and show me how very much I am loved. No one has ever believed in me the way that he believes in me.
We met when I was just 16 and he was my date to my jr. prom. We dated for about 7 months, but we lived 30 mins away from each other and, in the age of landline telephones, our parents were not happy about the long distance bills every month.
We remained friends throughout high school and college, although we didn't keep in touch too often. We lost track of each other after college. Through the miracle of Facebook, we became friends again in 2008. We rarely messaged each other, but when we did, it was always a cheerful or helpful comment, then months of silence.
As we both headed for divorce around the same time, we connected through our shared pain and confusion over our imploding family lives. We found common ground and our friendship deepened. And somehow over the months, love returned. It is a miracle that we have been given a second chance. We sometimes say it is like a Nicholas Sparks novel...except our story is better.
We love each other. Our kids love our choice of partner. This relationship has brought me more happiness than I ever thought was possible.
2. I am thankful for a great office assistant. No, not the cat from my previous blog. My real life assistant (we'll call him Mr. D). This young man had never had a day of office experience in his life when I hired him to help me with various admin and clerical duties, but he came in ready to learn and he sure did learn quickly!
He anticipates my business needs, completes everything correctly and efficiently, pays attention to the details and, as a bonus, he has a very kind soul. I am lucky to share an office with him and to have someone helping me that is as bright as he is, personally and professionally.
3. I am thankful for a home computer. Without it, this blog would not have made it online today. I was just way too busy at work to type it out (even on my lunch break, I was still working). It's the little things we take for granted every day.
The most positive experience I've had in the last 24 hours occurred just one hour ago...when Mr. T walked in my door and kissed me hello. It's been a total of only 3 days since I last saw him, but I hate having him so far away (about an hour drive) and, when he appears at my doorstep, the rest of the world disappears.
I am sad to say I did not exercise today. I might get a few crunches in before bed, just to say I did something. Haha!
I had a lovely time of meditation in the car this morning. No radio. Just silence and me alone with my thoughts.
RANDOM ACT OF KINDNESS