Wednesday, July 17, 2013
You may be a really hard worker or a parent or really doting on a spouse or taking care of parents. Where does that leave you?
At certain times of our lives, we're dedicating all of our time to others, completely forgetting about ourselves. We work from sun up to sun down to please all those other people. We may not even take the time to sit down to a meal, especially if you're a caregiver, because you say you don't have the time.
You think you have to do it all, there will be time to sit and relax when the kids move out, you're retired or hit a certain age.
I hate to tell you, life only changes, it doesn't necessarily get easier.
If you're not taking the time for yourself now, you'll be burnt out quickly. It may turn into anger or depression. You may be frustrated with your position, "why won't (s)he help out?", "Why am I working so hard and not seeing the work pay off?", "why won't those kids just listen?"
You need to speak up for yourself. Do you have a spouse that just won't help out? Are you given all the work at your job? Do you feel like you're the only one that can take care of a situation?
Have a conversation with those that can help. You need the time for decompression or you'll go crazy! There is help out there. Learn to say no to people who are pushing work off onto you. Learn to get the help at home. Situations are always up for negotiation, control can be let go of without the world falling apart. Things might not get done as well as you'd like, but they're still getting done. Especially at home, if you're feeling like you're doing all the work without any help, ask for the help and allow yourself some relaxing time.
You need to be able to do some fun stuff for yourself. It may be as simple as a fun salad for lunch or a quick run to a night out with friends or a week long vacation. Taking as little as 15 minutes a day to yourself can help in the long run. When you're feeling overwhelmed, go for a walk to decompress and think out solutions.
When you're letting stress eat you up, you're eating everything unhealthy in sight to make up for it. Sit down for meals. If you're feeding the family too, sit down with them to the meal, you gain a lot of information over the dinner table and have been able to dish up a good meal onto your plate too.
Slow down and see the beautiful things in life. When you're rushing you miss a lot, then you wonder how you got there? Be sure to take the time to enjoy your journey through life, you only get one trip, see all the sights on your way and enjoy the new things and the old ones. Be a traveler, not just automatic.
When you find your balance, everyone will be happier around you and that will make you even happier. So go enjoy the sights today! You are worth 15 minutes out of your day for yourself!
Today's Holidays: Wrong Way Day, Disnelyland Opened 1955, Yellow Pig Day and National Peach Ice Cream Day (make it healthier, puree some frozen peaches with a little bit of coconut oil and you still get the creaminess with fewer calories).