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My Secret, Slightly Embarrassing Goals...UPDATE


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Tuesday, July 16, 2013

This was one of my 1st blogs I wrote on Thursday, January 31, 2013. I had no idea that I would meet these goals so soon. When I wrote them 6 months ago, they seemed so far out there.

Here is my original blog with my updates added in. Thank you, everyone, for your support. I couldn't have done it without you!

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OK, so I'm about to tell my secret goals on my SparkPage--won't be all that secret anymore, but I feel the need to tell them. Not sure if this is for other people, who may find solace knowing someone else may have the same feelings or desires, or if I just want to get it out there, so it doesn't have power over me anymore. Either way, I release the fear the shame that these goals represent.

1. My first goal is to weigh less than my husband.

This has brought me great shame over the years, especially since he is 6'4", and I'm not even close to that. I miss that I never got carried over the threshold, and not because he couldn't, but because I was embarrassed that I'd put his back out or kill him or something when he tried to lift me. Not sure if he knows what I weigh. Not sure if he's ever peeked at the Dr.'s office or at me updating my weight on SparkPeople. All I know is that he has never made me feel fat (even though I am) and that he tells me that I'm beautiful every single day, and for that, I'm grateful.

UPDATE: July 16, 2013 - I officially weigh less than my husband for the first time in over 10 years of marriage. Yay!

2. My second goal is to actually be able to take my wedding ring off.

It was kind of tight when we first got it over 10 years ago, but I was embarrassed to get a larger size. (There is that shame again.) Over the years, it has gotten so tight, that I haven't been able to take it off. I actually have dreams of taking it off, but then I wake up to my chubby little finger :).

UPDATE: March 13, 2013 - WooHoo! I was able to take my wedding ring off for the 1st time in over 9 years! So excited!

3. My third goal is to buy off the rack in any store and not from the "Women's section".

Not an uncommon goal, but still embarrassing. I was an athlete, a tomboy growing up. I didn't really start to gain weight until my twenties, but I wasn't shaped like other little girls either. I can still remember being at Sears and the salesperson telling my mom that I needed the "husky" size. My heart sank then, and it does now whenever I go and try on clothes. Fluorescent lighting and three-way mirrors should be outlawed in dressing rooms, as far as I'm concerned.

UPDATE: For the last month of so, I've been able to shop in the regular sections. I wear a large or x-large shirt, coming from a 2X-3X and a size 14 jeans, coming from a 24W a year and a half ago. Not where I want to end up, but I'm getting there.

So there they are. Ahhhhhhhh, I do feel liberated. emoticon

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And as I continue to shed the weight, I feel even more liberated!
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TERRIJ7 1/17/2014 11:55AM

    Whoa--did you read my journal? I have exactly the same secret goals!

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TAMKAT79 9/24/2013 12:33PM

    emoticon on meeting your goals. they may have been embarrassing to shate initially but they are inspiring to people like me who are not seeing much progress yet. thanks for sharing.

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MARITZA_TIRADO 9/14/2013 9:27AM

    Great blog! Feeling a little sorry for your finger in all those years, ouch!
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TRIXIETEXAS 9/12/2013 3:23PM

    We have so much in common. My husband is 6'5" and I am 5'5". I was much smaller than him at first but the last few years we've been hovering around the same weight. I've never told anyone that and I was so embarrassed. I'm sure he didn't know how much I weigh. I am 60 pounds lighter than him now and no longer embarrassed to tell him what I weigh.

I had to take my wedding ring off about 5 years ago when it started cutting off my circulation! I finally got it back on last week. Yay!

And I have also recently made some purchases in the regular women's section -- it's so nice! I'm still going back and forth between the regular and plus sizes, but at least I am wearing the smallest sizes at Lane Bryant now. Won't be too much longer before I don't need to shop there at all!

You have great goals, and I'm proud of you for achieving them. I know you are proud of yourself. GO GIRL! Let's keep running our asses off!

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URBANAUDREYE 9/11/2013 10:08PM

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NASFKAB 9/3/2013 6:17AM

  emoticon emoticon very inspiring

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GRAMPIAN 8/31/2013 3:04PM

  Brilliant! emoticon

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AURIANNE67 8/27/2013 1:10PM

    Awesome blog! I too have the goal of weighing less than my boyfriend of 7 years and I hate when I can't find clothing in my size at stores I want to shop in because the store doesn't carry it large enough. There is nothign quite so depressing as going shopping with friends and your sad armload is determined not by what you were interested in but by what you figured you could squeeze into.

Congratulations to you and I hope that you have a new list of goals that you can triumph with as your journey continues!

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PHOENIS5513 8/24/2013 1:23AM

    This is a very inspiring post. Congratulations on meeting your goals. I do not think they are silly at all. They brought back memories of my junior high and high school days. I didn't lose any weight until my mid 20's...

And boy, can I relate to wanting to weigh less than your husband. Except for me it is all the men is my family: my father and three brothers. My mom was a petite little women and I was a cow. It was horrible. Now I can at least wear a size 14 pant, again, like you not where I want to be however I am no longer the fat lady in the room, car or store.

I too remember going "back to school" shopping and having the sale person telling my mom or dad that I needed the "husky" section or to maybe look in the mens section, not the boys but the MENS.section. And any dresses I had were so matronly. It was a tough time for me however now I know what it takes and am willing to work for i t. That's not to say I don't have slip ups. I am re-loosing 10 pounds and finally tackling the final 15.

Thank you for your post; it is truly inspirational.
_Necia



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LIVELYGIRL2 8/19/2013 11:43PM

  This is super GREAT !!!! Yah. You go girlfriend. emoticon emoticon

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FLOATNRN 8/3/2013 12:56AM

    That is so awesome! So happy for you ! emoticon

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BENTOGYRL 8/2/2013 1:18AM

    Yay!!


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JILLRY03 7/30/2013 1:39PM

    This is an awesome blog!! My first unofficial goal was to weigh less than my husband!! He is 6'8" and thin as a rail while I am 5'3" and ummm not so thin! lol I now weigh less than him and couldn't be happier!! Thank god for these amazing men in our lives that love us unconditionally!!! Congrats on meeting your goals and good luck on your future endeavors!!

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-SATRIA- 7/29/2013 11:45PM

    Hurray! Great job! You are an inspiration because I share many of the same goals.
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MONTREAL12 7/29/2013 4:54PM

  Great accomplishment! You're living proof that emoticon

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ZAPPATTACK 7/29/2013 10:12AM

    This is amazing!! Thank you for sharing, you should definitely be proud of your progress!

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REALKIEKEY 7/28/2013 3:11PM

    emoticon That's awesome! Keep up the great work.

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IMNOTSTOPPIN 7/24/2013 12:18AM

    emoticon That's what you call Freedom!! Thanks for sharing. Truly inspirational.

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KANDOLAKER 7/23/2013 2:14PM

    You totally rock! Big congratulations on hitting all your goals - and I think they are all great goals. I'm with you on the wedding ring, I can get it off now - it I really work at it. But, there were years that there was no way. Keep up the great work and congrats!!

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FITWITHIN 7/22/2013 6:44PM

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JADAEMBERLY 7/21/2013 7:11PM

    So proud of you girl! Keep up the good work and inspiring others!! You rock!!

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LEANMEAN2 7/21/2013 7:32AM

    Congratulations!

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CURVYGURL8 7/21/2013 12:24AM

    Whoo hoo!! Thanks for sharing. You have motivated me!


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FITGRANDMA120 7/21/2013 12:21AM

    Very thought out. emoticon

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KHENRY67 7/20/2013 10:47PM

    Way to go. Thanks for the inspiring me!

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COREY195 7/20/2013 10:15PM

    great goal achievements and wow what a string of comments.

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KDRICH24 7/20/2013 5:50PM

    YAY!!!

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CYDE43 7/20/2013 4:44PM

  You made me cry . . . Thank you for sharing! Good luck with (no doubt) your "new" goals and the rest of your journey.
Oh and by the way, you and your husband are lucky to have found each other (though it's apparent that you already know this). emoticon

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KIKIMAV 7/20/2013 12:30PM

    emoticon This is so great!!! It is the first blog entry of yours that I read, but it really touched my heart!!!!
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Keep up the good work! You inspired me!!!!

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FIRECOM 7/20/2013 10:34AM

    And liberated you are. Congrats to you.

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KAYSON25 7/20/2013 9:31AM

    Refreshingly honest and well written. Than you for sharing. Setting goals is difficult for some of us. Thank you for sharing and for sharing the results!

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SBARGANZ 7/19/2013 10:19PM

    Congrats!!!!

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THINNYGINNY 7/19/2013 8:57PM

    All three of your goals were goals of mine this time last year - and I have met all of them too!! Even though my hubby decided to lose weight and kept losing along with me - I still weigh less than him.... Life is so much better when you wear a shirt size L instead of 3X!!

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ADGER87 7/19/2013 6:40PM

    Motivating TX. I just got back from Jamaica and feel like a slob. Time to get back to work and do what it do. Congrats on your progress!!!

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MMMMMM4 7/19/2013 3:25PM

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Well done, looking forward to heaing you acheiving your next lot of goals. Keep up the great work.

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AHALTOM 7/19/2013 12:39PM

    I think it's great when people get enough courage to put specific goals out there for others to read. It's even better to read that they reached their goals. Time to give yourself more goals to reach. Keep pushing!!!

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BANDMOM2012 7/19/2013 12:35PM

    These are wonderful goals :) Such an inspiration to me this morning :)

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BGRN13 7/19/2013 12:01PM

    You have a lot to be proud of now !!! emoticon

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ZOE13O 7/19/2013 11:51AM

    emoticon Thank you for sharing. What an awesome job not only setting
such great goals, but reaching them!

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KATHIC2 7/19/2013 8:11AM

  Great blog and very inspiring!

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