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Negative Self Talk

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Tuesday, July 16, 2013

I'm sure all of us have done it, some to a bigger degree than others, but I know I hear it in my head occasionally too. It's that little voice that shouts "You're not good enough!". It may be the voice that shouts "You're Fat" in the mirror or it might say "You ugly thing" or it might even say "How can (s)he like me, I'm not worth the love". Your voice could be demeaning you about your looks, your personality or even your situation in life. It's constant and gnaws away at you.

Fortunately there's also that little voice. It's quieter, but it's always questioning the voice that shouts. It wonders "Why?" Why are you so ugly, isn't that spot there beautiful? Why do they love you, there must be something special? It knows that you are good enough and you are strong. It's just harder to hear over all the shouting.

You can make the quite voice louder. When you look in the mirror see the beauty the small voice talks about. It may start out with your eyes or your smile, but it always finds something. When you're looking at the fat spots, see the strength you have too, you have great muscles somewhere or you wouldn't be able to look in that mirror. Your voice knows why the person loves you, you can see it if you really wish. That small voice knows why you're worth it, make a list of the nice things about you, seeing it in writing will reinforce the small voice that has known the good you for years.

The more you let the quiet voice talk, the quieter the shouting voice will become. Eventually your quiet voice will be the loud one and you will be proud of the good, strong you there always was!


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BAPSANN 7/31/2013 11:00AM

  Thanks for sharing how to allow my quiet voice to be heard, I have a true screamer when it comes to putting me down.

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WHITEANGEL4 7/29/2013 9:43PM

    Congratulations great blog keep up th good fores

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MONTREAL12 7/29/2013 4:51PM

  So true; we've all done it emoticon

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JDBENNING 7/23/2013 9:47AM

    So true! Great reminders!

Congrats on this blog being voted as a Featured Blog!

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LIVELYGIRL2 7/22/2013 7:57PM

  This is a reason to enjoy the great uplifting podcast messages. I have a nice selection. It really reduces your untrue thoughts.

I also listen to Daily Audio Bible, stories, comedy, Spark, teaching shows.Good soul food.

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    awesome blog.

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STEPHLOKI 7/20/2013 2:44PM

    Thanks for sharing. Good to hear I am not alone. How many times have I stood in front of the morror thinking "you fat and ugly cow".... It is so hard to sometimes hear the small voice and focus on it to see the inner beauty....

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    emoticon Let's cheer for the QUIET voice!!!

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    WooHoo

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    You are beautiful! That's my song for the challenge that you have described. emoticon

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JERICHO1991 7/18/2013 1:41PM

    I love that still, small voice. I hear it most when I slow my life down to a quiet, peaceful pace.

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    emoticon I hear the voices singing loud and clear. I just turn down the volume to the negative chorus.

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AMARILYNH 7/18/2013 12:30PM

    Great blog - here's to our 'quiet voice' getting LOUD!! emoticon

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NORA0099 7/18/2013 11:59AM

    Amen Sister! I am so mean to myself and I think of Pink's song "Perfect" where some of the lyrics are, "you're so mean when you talk to yourself, you are wrong!" We are wrong when we demean ourselves. thanks for this!

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DEIDRESH 7/18/2013 10:52AM

    Thank you for the reminder to listen to the small voice that so often gets drowned out by the loud negative voice.

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    Great blog. I am working on getting that quiet voice to be a lot louder.

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    emoticon Great to see your blog featured in the Spark Mail. What an honor.

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KAB7801 7/17/2013 10:43PM

    Erase those tapes!

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MIMIDOT 7/17/2013 8:09PM

    We all have the problem of negative talk. It's taken me years. Thanks to SP. And I'm 75 years old. Like they say, Better late then never. Good luck to you. I know you're a better learner then me.

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TERMITEMOM 7/17/2013 8:07PM

    Great blog! Negativity does not take you anywhere, that's for sure!

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NEWTINK 7/17/2013 7:39PM

    My voices have been screaming at each other all day ... i sure hope they get it together soon they are giving me a headache. Not making light of the blog it is really good but this is exactly what my head has been doing all day ... just a fat day it will pass emoticon emoticon emoticon

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DIANNEMT 7/17/2013 4:11PM

    I hear the same voices. You are right to remind us how to silence the "not good enough" voice.

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MARYJEANSL 7/17/2013 4:10PM

  I think many of us have heard or still do hear that loud voice. Well said.

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