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Reward problem...

Tuesday, July 16, 2013

I am discussing rewards in my support group - I have never been attracted by rewards that many recommends like a manicure, new clothes, a spa trip... I find them rather meaningless. I have though about rewards as giving myself time to read, to visit friends - but that is not a reward, that should be part of my balanced life.

It is a kind of reward to me to see numbers - to track my food and find that I have spent far more calories than I have eaten, gives a really good feeling, it IS a reward.

As is looking at diagrams - I love weight curves that point downwards. To me the satisfaction of a success diagram is really a reward!

So the advices on "forgetting the scale" and sticking to doing the right things and never mind the numbers - means that I will not get that reward of satisfaction.

Funny thought!

Another reward I found meaningful was that for every day I eat 500 less calories than I spend I will get to give 10 swedish crowns to charity. That really feels great and is a doable reward at the most I would have to give away 310 crowns a month (46 USD, 35 Euro) and my budget will allow that. AND if I followed that schedule exactly losing all my overweight would mean 8 400 crowns to charity (1 250 USD) - that would be great! I would feel great!

BUT I blew the first day immediately - ended up with +-0 on calories... that is interesting because I really liked that reward. But maybe rewards of any kind is triggering my selfdestructiveness... I have to try some days more to see...

Food photo:


And it was part of the problem, when I registered that salad I found it contained many calories - it was feta cheese and avocado that raised the sum... but then I had two extra tacos at night so I could not really find balance...
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CIRANDELLA 7/16/2013 9:34PM

    Say...I consider looking at the pictures of the delicious food you cook to be a reward! You are WONDERFUL!! emoticon

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TOKIEMOON 7/16/2013 8:52PM

    Everything in moderation. We need healthy fats like avocado. A little feta cheese adds a spice to life. Giving to charity would bring an intrinsic reward. If your self-sabotaging, what about donating when you go over? emoticon

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AJDOVER1 7/16/2013 4:28PM

    Ah, this is something I struggle with and I'm desperate to change my thinking: You haven't blown it! If the goal is something easy, that you can reach every time, then is it really a challenge? When I was a child, schoolwork came very easily to me - I scored 100% on every test and assignment. When I progressed to a point where things became difficult, I didn't know how to react. I thought I was stupid and it was all over. I'm still learning now that it's not all over. If I don't do it perfectly the first time, I need to learn so I may do better on my next attempt.

The charity won't refuse your money just because you weren't perfect in your plan. You can learn to do better if your goal is a reasonable challenge. Please don't give up. We need to keep trying to achieve what is difficult.

Have you heard the saying: If at first you don't succeed, try, try again.

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PEGTIGER 7/16/2013 3:41PM

    I to have a problem finding a good reward. I love your rewards and make look into doing something like that.

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PHATPAT18 7/16/2013 1:05PM

    Whatever motives you to lose should be your reward. Just don't let the whole reward thing throw you off balance. emoticon

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JACKSGRAN 7/16/2013 11:09AM

    Avocados have calories, but they have other healthy benefits too. I like the idea of giving to charity, well worth it. What a good way to lose weight.

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MAGGIEMAGGIE5 7/16/2013 10:44AM

    I agree with your characterization of rewards. I know that I am blessed... I can treat myself to simple (or maybe not so simple) pleasures whenever I choose.
Now, as you say, seeing the numbers, watching the charts... that does it for me. Seeing the results of my efforts is my best reward - and encouraging too!
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LINDA! 7/16/2013 9:36AM

    I also do not feel rewards work for me. For instance, if I want a manicure or anything I will buy it. It doesn't take any weight loss for me to do it. But when I see the scale go down I am happy. I just don't do anything for myself other than continue trying when I know something is working.

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KITT52 7/16/2013 8:50AM

    rewards worked for me....DH paid me when I lost pounds and I bought new clothes

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JOYINKY 7/16/2013 8:37AM

    I like your rewards, they are unselfish. My main reward is how I feel, the things I can do at this weight and yes, I enjoy clothes more now. I did not like shopping for clothes when I was overweight. I have not banished the scale, just given it less importance. I do have other tools I use, and will always have to. To maintain. I count calories, protein grams and fitness minutes-every day- and I get a lot of satisfaction from maintaining streaks. My streaks are exercise focused and push me to keep moving even when I'd rather not. I think we all have to find what works for us that we can live with. Be well.


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CHRISTASP 7/16/2013 4:32AM

    The salad looks great! And avocado is a healthy food.

I too have wondered about rewards. I tend to feel that being healthy is the reward and that this is / should be my motivation. I also cannot afford things like spa visits or clothes etcetera.
I probably also would start rebelling in resistance to the idea of rewards, so so far I have not used them. I might however say that I will get a stationary bike if I keep up the exercising until winter. In winter I can't go out to ride my bike when there's snow and ice. So I might get one anyway, but I like to think of that as a 'reward' - for exercising frequently though, not for weight loss or eating right. It would be a 'reward' in a way because it's such a big expense.


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