Monday, July 15, 2013
Dear, most valued asset, my precious mind,
I want you to know how much I appreciate all you have done for me over the years. I have often forgotten or neglected to tell you how important you have been in helping me conquer my greatest foes. You have helped me overcome obstacles, solve problems, and create a career and a life for myself. But, having said that, I have to tell you that sometimes you have led me astray. You have occasionally created obstacles where there were none before. You have used your clever logic and intelligence to trick me, to sidetrack me, and even to sabotage me. The first type of activities are still welcomed and even encouraged, but you really need to know that I am no longer tolerating the second type of activities.
I am laying down some rules that we will BOTH follow, since we both know that for you to get away with those negative activities, I have to be complicit and allow it to happen. That is over - my complicity is ended as of NOW.
Rule 1 - There will be NO making excuses for laziness. That means after a long hard day at work, I will NO longer be able to listen when you tell me that I don't REALLY need the exercise. If I am truly tired/exhausted, I can manage a 30-60 minute workout but skipping it altogether is simply NO LONGER ACCEPTABLE. A planned day of rest is different but when we are making excuses, THAT will no longer fly.
Rule 2 - Healthy eating IS THE NORM from now on. Occasional treats, planned splurges are acceptable but they MUST be PLANNED for IN ADVANCE. Emotional eating is a thing of the past and frankly has no place in OUR life. We are blessed (or possibly cursed) with the genes that will probably result in a long life and NEITHER of us wants to have that life destroyed by PAIN, Alzheimer's disease, crippling illnesses, or other miserable consequences. I doubt that even YOU want to watch as limbs are amputated due to complications from diabetes, blindness (that would take away our ability to read - and THAT simply doesn't even fit OUR style at all), heart attacks and/or strokes that could make us victims of a care system or the recipient of Ed's care (can you see us having our butt wiped by my SON??? - I don't THINK so - although I KNOW he would if he had to, but HOW EMBARRASSING would that be?) Health is paramount and at 63 and facing our 64th birthday and the reality that we WILL be forced to work at least 6 and probably 7 years minimum, HEALTH IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN EVER. So, pay attention to the rules - neither of us wants to be turned into a figure of pity, mockery, or pain.
Rule 3 - Rest, relaxation, meditation, prayer, and all of these type things are necessary to helping both you and me to sleep better, remain calmer, to better cope with the various ups and downs of life, etc. are going to take precedence over internet, tv, and mindless occupations. We need to keep you sharp, keep me healthy and content, and we need to allow time and place for recharging our batteries.
Rule 4 - Socialization, family, friends, people that I care about are also important to me, and I know you also need them because without the PEOPLE in our world, you would grow stale and listless, well, so will I. We need to make time and space to fill that part of our life as well.
Rule 5 - Faith, love, kindness, service, and generosity will continue to be part of our life - we KNOW that God expects no less of us and both of us thrive on them. We will continue to work together to find ways to reach out to others and to allow GOD to shine through us in the world on a daily basis.
Rule 6 - There are probably other rules and the BOTTOM LINE is that whenever there is any doubt about what to do, I will consult with you but the DECISION and the CONSEQUENCES are MINE alone.
With eternal love, appreciation, and faith,
Your corporal home on Earth, Nancy