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Monday, July 15, 2013

As I have mentioned in other posts, I was raised in a cult. And, a couple of the teachings have been puzzling me the past few days. One of the earliest teachings of the cult is the idea of yielding your rights to God. Basically, the idea is that you write all of your rights down on paper then pray and give them to God. Then, the other part of the teaching is that if you get angry then it is because someone violated one of your rights and you didn't give it to God. The teaching being that people could violate your rights and you shouldn't get upset about it. The more I think through this teaching, the more irrational it sounds. But, as a child, this was impressed upon me at an early age. My parents were big proponents of yielding your rights. Even to this day, my parents would back up that teaching. Although, there is no basis for it in Scripture, as Bill Gothard claims. The verse he takes that teaching from merely states that Jesus submitted to the Father's will when He left heaven, even though He was God, He became a Man (Philippians 2). That passage does not say anything about Jesus yielding our rights or leave any implication that that is what Christians are to do. Yet, that brings me to my next question. What rights do I have? After being taught as a child that I am to have no rights, what are reasonable rights that I should not let others take advantage of? My husband gets frustrated with me because he says I let people walk all over me because I won't tell them "no'. And, how should I react when someone is walking all over me? My first reaction is to let them do what they want and turn the other cheek to their behavior.
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  • ANDI_3K
    You have the right to safety,,physical, emotional and one has the right to hurt you. You have the right to have your boundaries respected...if you say no, it means no -whether you are talking about your body, time or possessions folks need to respect your boundaries. You have the right to be listened to and to express yourself, respectfully.
    You have the right to make up your own mind, and have your choices about your life honoured. And you have the right to make mistakes, get angry and have every emotion under the sun.
    There are more - but these are a start.
    1672 days ago
    It can be very confusing. i knew people who would turn the other cheek but would still say "no" or stand their ground to bullies. i am still impressed with the resolve they had.

    In todays culture there are so many debates on what rights we have. It is hard to say. Although some of these people are cruel and are trying to contol others and will use legal or religious tools to take advantage of good hearted people

    I think everyone has the rights that they are willing to be responsible for. there are a few parables where more is given to those who work harder with what they have and show not only intellegence but responsibility. You have the right to have love, the right to think and feel as you do without anyone hurting you for it. Reactions to feeling and emotions is where we could hurt someone.
    1675 days ago
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