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Sunday, July 14, 2013

How responding to someone else's need can help you with your own:

I craved fried chicken all day today. Instead of indulging, I binged on candy--and am still craving the chicken. I've eaten out for four days straight, throwing all mindfulness to the wind. Now I'm feeling guilty, weak, irresponsible. I'm grieving for the damage I've done. And I'm absolutely certain that the only cure for how I'm feeling is to love myself anyway, forgive myself, and try again. I, too, don't like what I see in the mirror. As a matter of fact, I'm fairly certain that what I see in the mirror isn't going to improve much with weight loss--the damage I've done is, on the surface, permanent. I have to find a way to love the person in the mirror, though, regardless of what she looks like. I have to remember that what I've been working towards is a better life, better health, better mobility. Better play with my daughter. A week like this, and it's easy to give up...until I remember the progress that I've already made, the breath that comes easier, the knees that don't constantly hurt now, the total faith my daughter has developed in my ability to "race" her anytime she feels like running. I'm torn between wanting to beat myself up, punish myself for the week I've had and choosing instead to forgive myself and have a better day tomorrow. Fact is, beating myself up has never, ever been effective at anything except increasing my personal self-loathing, and I know now that I can choose not to be that way with myself. No, you aren't alone in how you feel.

I've written so much because I was feeling very much like you are right now, but to hear you voice it about yourself made me sad. Then I realized that I can have the same compassion for myself that I can have for another human being. Thanks for your honesty and openness, because you've helped me remember who I already am (loveable!) and who I am becoming (healthier and wiser!) And I hope that something I've written reminds you, too, that YOU are loveable, worthy of compassion, and are already succeeding on this path you've chosen!

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    Girl WOW when you put it out there, you out it out there lol.. I love you!!!

    Funny how when you read others posts or listen to a video, you say, WOW that is SO ME. And while I was reading this, I thought WOW is she in my head or what? So I guess we are NOT alone in our struggles with life. So just to let you know, I am here for you and I know, as long as you are here, you will be here for me also. And I thank you for it (now).

    So maybe after I lose a little of this heavy weight I am carrying around, we can go for a walk (one day, maybe a run) But for right now, like you said in the beginning of this, that's not going to happen. My feet, knees, legs and back hurt all the time. So once I get to that place, where I can do it again, we can do it together. Another way to get out of this house AND be healthy..lol

    Anyway, lets have coffee soon, or maybe you will be in need of a haircut soon haha.. Either way, let's get together, I MISS YOU!

    Love you
    1669 days ago
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