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I hate getting in between DS and GF

Sunday, July 14, 2013

Good Evening; the relationship between my DS and is GF who happens to be the parents of my grand baby who is 3 months is not going well. Even when we would in Europe, I would get texts. She "rats" on my DS constantly. She send me a text - DS is doing this and that. DS is no saint but she is no adult. The baby is in the middle. GF uses the baby as a weapon. I told her today. I will not be the go - between you and my son. He has never wanted to marry her and I think this is the problem. She wants a ring. She is continually telling me that she is going to take the baby back to California. DS is so tired of it with all of the things that is going on with my DS. GF is very sly she is life the perfect mother in front of me and DH, but behind closed doors - she bitches and whines. On top of everything else she is a real liar. She has stolen money from DS. I have never understand why he stays with her. But one time he told me with my injury I can't get any better. I understand why she stays. She likes his family and the support he gets. Some times I think she is jealous of the support we give DS and the baby. never ending drama in DS's life.
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    So sorry to hear of the issues with his GF. Hope and prayer for them.
    Be strong for him and the baby.
    1712 days ago
    Sometimes we (as parents) just have to back off and let them work it out for themselves, it usually works out one way or another. If the child isn't taken care of, then CSD needs to be informed so they can step in.

    I know it's hard to do, but sometimes it's necessary.
    1713 days ago
    The kids always are the ones who suffer. I hope it all works out for the good of all. Sounds like the GF needs some growing up. Wonder what her childhood was like?? Hang in there and just continue being the best you can be. emoticon
    1713 days ago
    I hope that your DS has proof that he is the father. I would suggest that he get to court right away and file for custody. Too bad he did not think about marrying the woman he chose to have a child with. Oh, well.
    1713 days ago
    I am glad that you are not "taking sides" or interfering. My ex in laws split my husband and I up. We had a good marriage as long as they left us alone but they just kept at it until he divorced me :(. He didn't want to disrespect his parents by keeping me around! Anyway try to stay neutral and out of their problems while trying to still stay supportive of your son and grandbaby. I know it is hard to do when you dont like what is going on but they must work out their own problems as you wont be around forever to help them. And yes I have 3 grown children and have experienced the ex daughter in law using the grandkids as weapons. After 7 years we are finally coming to some resolution!!!
    1713 days ago
    I have a daughter-in-law who is very jealous and possessive, she has made a big separation between my DH, myself and my son, I try never to say anything negative and let things go along, but where once we were so very close, it just is not the same and after 26 years of marriage, I do not see any changes, we missed out on a lot of our grandsons life because she thinks we (my DH and I) are not immediate family, not sure exactly what we are, but oh well, the problem of having only one child, but we planned on more, it just doesn't always happen the way we planned,
    just hope for the best Nancy and seriously it would not be too good of an idea for them to marry, but with a baby, who knows what is the right thing to do, emoticon emoticon emoticon
    1713 days ago
    Your son would do well not to marry her. I would ignore her as much as possible and just try to have a relationship with son and grandchild.
    1713 days ago
    OH boy. Wish I had some advice for you, but all I can say is your DS has to make his choices. Unfortunately, they may not be what you or DH would want, but what can you do! You're right . . . the baby is in the middle.
    1713 days ago
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