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It's Not Just About Me Anymore-It's About My Boy

Sunday, July 14, 2013

My son is 10 years old with the most precious smile. He is as tall as I am (4'11 ...not saying much).......

..and he weighs 130 lbs OH MY GOSH emoticon emoticon

My so......un healthy........and his esteem is already crushed because his 300 lb dad (yes,my husband of 14 years) does not understand how to approach the situation without hurting him.....he somehow thinks he's 'helping' him. REMINDING him of how fat he is??? That DONT help

Guess it's up to Mama Bear emoticon

wish me luck friends....long battle ahead....times 3 daughter is 5'3 11 years old and 110 lbs.....she's right on track like her mama used to be emoticon
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    This is such a tricky situation, and I wish you the very, very best.
    1700 days ago
    Thanks for sharing your concerns. Maybe you can encourage your son to 'help' with Your exercise? So difficult for you.

    1703 days ago

    Comment edited on: 7/24/2013 3:19:30 PM
    With Michael over weight,I got him carrots and celery, he eats those as a snack, maybe your son might like something that. I'm here if you need me
    1707 days ago
    You can only lead by example.
    When my son realized that his 8-year-old daughter was TOO CHUBBY, he got off the couch and started taking her and his two beanpole sons outside for an activity EVERY EVENING.
    The result...lots of family fun!
    Daddy lost weight, daughter grew slimmer, and Mommy lost weight!
    What started out as a real effort, now is a habit. I just joined them for a week. It was great!
    Best wishes to you! emoticon
    1709 days ago
    My son lost 120 pounds by finding a sport that he really liked and by going on the South Beach Diet with me.
    1709 days ago
    Hopefully your family can overcome this issue. There is still time. Make the outdoors and exercise fun. My family has told me that I set a great example and they realized that they want the same thing. (Some of them did anyway)
    It must be hard in this day and age to bring up a child with all this technology that has people sitting on their rumps all the time. Convenience food all over the place. Bless your heart and keep trying. Now's a great time to go hiking and pick berries. Win!
    1709 days ago
    A nice musical wii or walking video should start things going for a healthy beginning.... Exercising for 10 would be a good thing to suggest. emoticon emoticon
    1711 days ago
    Maybe your son can go on walks with you - that would be a good start for both of you.
    Encouragement him every step of the way. emoticon
    1712 days ago
    It is so difficult to be going through what you are with your wonderful children and I am sorry. emoticon I have other friends here in SP whose example is helping their children. You will do the same for yours. God bless you all. emoticon
    Love, Chelsea emoticon (and your children too)
    1712 days ago
    1712 days ago
    praying God will guide you on this journey emoticon
    1712 days ago
    Wishing you luck. Maybe you could have him help you work on the menu for the meals!
    1713 days ago
  • JACKIE542
    Wish you much luck and encouragement. I too think you and your son should work together, bet it will be great fun. emoticon
    1713 days ago
    God Bless You & your son on the Journey to Health! And I hope your DH sees you getting healthy and joins you, too!
    1713 days ago
    Can you make it a family affair to be/eat healthy and do lots of active things together?
    In the name of love and wanting to have long healthy lives together, not about the f word, of course.
    1713 days ago
    Bless your hearts
    1713 days ago
    My granddaughter too - I am sorry. We has parents have that uncomfortable position of being in charge . We must set an example for the better of everyone - Hugs K
    1713 days ago
    Well, I waked in those shoes as your son did. My mom forever reminded me how fat I was. Keep praying and ask him to walk with you. It is very helpful and he won't feel like he is being forced to exercise to lose weight.
    1713 days ago
    Our youngest son had a weight problem from the time he reached 12. He zoomed up to 6'4" and by the time he was 16 was well over 250 lbs. At 16 the doctor told him he was " too bloody fat "- can you imagine! Well this had a impact on him for the next 20 years- no matter how I explained the doctor didn't have a brain in his head by saying that to a young boy. He did eventually loose the weight (married with three kids under 5) but also suffers from diabetes! I would say don't talk about weight/fat/etc. just occasionally about the pleasure of healthy exercise and eating and continue what you have been doing.
    Good luck - I know first hand it is easier said than done. emoticon
    1713 days ago
    I'm guessing you've already tried talking to your husband about his approach. I hope he listens to you and stops because I can tell you that as a child having my dad tell me day after day that I was fat and ugly even though he was obese himself only made situations worse. I was not encouraged to get healthy by this but just felt worse and consequently ate more. Also considering that his dad is obese and I assume that you were too at some point because you're on the site your son may have learned many bad eating habits from you guys so you really may have to do some serious re-education with him. Also I think the suggestions above are good ideas. I hope it all works out! emoticon
    1713 days ago
    Wishing you and your family the best. Action speaks louder than words.
    1713 days ago
    emoticon emoticon Happy Sunday!

    Yes you can make it happen for your family. There's different ways to lead them to join you in your journey. Walk after dinner or at the park. Put healthy vegetables in casseroles. Buy healthy snacks that will draw your son. I have a 5 year old great niece and she eats and eats and eats! Her mom feeds her 24/7. Junk! I told her mother that she shouldn't eat all of that sugar and processed food. I know how it feels to be the child ridiculed for being overweight. It does put a stigma on a person as they grow up. Then you hate yourself because others hate you. I'm praying for you because now is the time to get the weight off. I lost 20lbs the summer I was 13 but gained it back and withdrew even more. Our children have the opportunity I didn't. MORE healthy choices and activities that are inviting. Keep your hope alive for ALL of you!
    1713 days ago
    Maybe you don't even have to bring anything up with him to talk about. Why not just incorporate him into your exercise? Make it a fun mom and son thing. I did that myself. I like to have my son be a part of my workout sessions sometimes. It helps keep him moving and we have fun!
    Good luck! I hope it all works out! emoticon
    1713 days ago
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