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Able to declutter while DH is in rehab! : ) Alleluia!

Sunday, July 14, 2013

The condo is looking so good! It is amazing. When he is here I get nothing done. For one thing he contuinually comments on what I am doing. I am already working hard and his comments drive me crazy. Like I was carrying 2 big garbage bags and he asked me what I was doing?
Arrgghh!! I know he is just making conversation 'cause he's bored, but ... Arrrggrrhhh!

Tomorow the biweelky cleaning lady comes. She will be amazed. Two weeks ago there was a sub so she has not seen the place in 4 weeks!

I have done stuff in each of the rooms. It feels so wonderful!

I had a bit of help a couple of days. I have hired an extra aide to come twice a week for DH in the afternoon. I had her come twice even though DH isn't home yet. I love talking to her. She is a very experienced and wise woman. I had 20 people answer my ad for an aide! She is not physically as able as some others, but I needed her! With the lift we have I am sure she can handle my husband.

It is such a blessing having him at rehab for almost 2 months! I will never figure out this Medicare system! I had been asking for a bit of help for years and got nothing. Now they are paying for 24 hour care and OT an PT daily! Go figure. yes he needs the OT and PT but I can handle him at home with a bit of help. They won't pay for the 'bit of help' ongoing but they will pay for intensive help at great cost!

So I am using the time as well as I can to do things I can't do when he is here. Again, what a blessing it is!

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    Good lord that's a confusing system
    1700 days ago
    I am a clutter bug, I'm afraid. Glad you have a chance to get the place in order

    1705 days ago
  • QTEALADY20031
    Chris, glad you were able to de-clutter, feels good doesn't it. Chris, I know Medicare is very difficult to figure out. I know as long as one is improving in PT and OT they will pay for it. IT does seem crazy like you said they dont pay for minimal help but intensive. If they would only pay for care to come on a regular basis, it would be cheaper for the government then the person in a nursing home. Go figure. Hope your doing well, take time for you. emoticon June
    1705 days ago
    Sounds wonderful! And don't forget to use some of the time for doing absolutely NOTHING or something just for you!
    1706 days ago
  • KACAR51
    Sounds great! Glad you could get some help! emoticon emoticon
    1706 days ago
    I love getting my stuff organized. i tend to collect stuff after a while. i have been trying to make plans to use stuff and if i dont i give it away.
    1706 days ago
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  • THOMS1
    Happy you are getting a much needed break and are able to get your house in order. emoticon
    1706 days ago
    months went by . I recall how tired you were . no personal time .

    the Lord heard & allowed this time for you , for he cares & loves you as well as your husband
    taking care of yourself is top propriety. so you can take care of him
    your bless Chris & you deserve it , enjoy emoticon your time
    1706 days ago
    Chris I am so glad you have been able to de-clutter, and to have a bit of a respite. ALSO very glad you have hired an aide,
    1706 days ago
    For whatever reason, decluttering work spaces seems to declutter the mind too. Great job.
    1706 days ago
  • 123ELAINE456
    Just keep going on the decluttering and stream line everything down to help You manage the condo so much better. It will help in the care on your Husband too. You will feel Great about Yourself too. I need to do a lot more here too. God Blessings to You and Everyone. Have a Wonderful Lord's Day. Take Care . Hugs!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
    1706 days ago
    I'm so glad you're getting the time to do as you wish - it's not like you sitting around watching tv and eating bon-bons, for Pete's sake! Good for you for getting so much decluttering done. I like what NANCYPAT1 suggested - finding some easy chores your DH could help with. Maybe having something expected of him would help with boredom. And as a bonus, even folding towels would be one less thing for YOU to do. Take some time to have fun now, "all work and no play...." etc. You deserve fun time, just because you exist.
    1706 days ago
  • FROSTY99
    Glad you are accomplishing so much while DH is in rehab. Enjoy this time as you know all good things always come to an end.
    1706 days ago
    Way to go Chris! Glad you are getting so much help and you so deserve it ... I am getting Pallaitive Care for my Hubby and He will stay at home ... Don't suppose you would like to come help me declutter? no ? Yep to far away .. Hugs emoticon emoticon emoticon
    1706 days ago
    What a wonderful blessing - when hubby gets out of rehab, you are likely to find he is also a bit more independent and you might be able to find some things HE can do to help you. I don't know what he will be able to do, but folding laundry (provided he can use his hands) especially towels and washcloths is a help. Maybe if HE felt more useful he would be less likely to be bored. Think about things the OT or PT have him doing in the rehab and ask them if there are any chores they can think of that he might be able to do. Maybe when you expect some HELP from him, it will be less stressful for you. You know that I worry about you. I am thrilled you are getting things done and have someone to talk to.

    My sister once asked for some assistance when she was a single mom with a young child. They told her they could NOT provide (even as a loan) the $300 she needed to move into a new place because her landlord was selling the place. However, they COULD and did provide her and her son with medical coverage, paid $400 a month in babysitting fees (and could do both until he was 16 years old), they could also give her Foodstamps (again until her son was 16), but because she was working and ONLY NEEDED the $300 deposit on a new apt. THAT they could not do. She was pretty angry but accepted the assistance offered and every single month would get angry again because although it helped, it reminded her that they couldn't loan her the $300 ONE TIME when her son was only 2 years old - BUT she could continue to collect for 14 years and thousands of dollars MORE instead. Who ever said government made sense.
    1706 days ago
  • FRAN0426
    Glad you are able to accomplish much while you DL is at 24 hour rehab. Ya, Medicare is sooooo confusing. Would seem so much better to have someone come to the home for rehab instead of placing them somewhere, and cheaper. But then, thank goodness for the break to get things done. Hope the new extra aide works out.
    1706 days ago
    Decluttering is a great thing to do. We've been at it for a few weeks now. The garage is the worst and I'm thinking it will be the hardest, especially since DH is the real culprit! Good luck!
    1706 days ago
    I need to "declutter" too! UGH!!! emoticon

    I'm with you about MEDICARE! The whole healthcare system is NUTS! emoticon

    I'm glad you are happy with the aide. I hope things work well for you & that your HUSBAND likes her as much as YOU DO! emoticon emoticon
    1706 days ago
    Glad you are getting some decluttering done, Chris! My husband would immediately notice if I got rid of any of his clutter - and he has a lot of it! Enjoy some time for yourself while he is in rehab. Hope everything goes well for both of you!
    1706 days ago
    I'm glad that you ar having a bit of a break and getting some work done while your husband is in Rehab. Will he miss some of the things you are getting rid of? My DH would be very upset if I tried to sort out any of his things

    1706 days ago
    1706 days ago
    I know what you mean about medicare; when I was very ill a couple of years ago after 2 months in the hospital I wanted to go home so bad I cried. My daughter had worked for years as a nurses aide and was living with me and my husband was also willing to help, but no - it had to be rehab for another 3 weeks until medicare ran out, then I got to go home with rehab several times a week. I recovered so much better at home with my own "stuff" and my daughters wonderful cooking instead of hospital food.

    I also know what you mean about having a hard time getting things done with a husband around. When mine is bored and hasn't anything to do he follows me around getting in my way constantly. Usually I can find things to keep him busy but then he is able bodied, just retired. Enjoy your free time while you can!
    1706 days ago
    My prayers and thoughts are with you. emoticon
    1706 days ago
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    1706 days ago
    I am kind of surprised ----my mom had a stroke on Valentine's day and they would only allow her to stay in rehab for 16 days---and she could not swallow when she went in and was just starting to do a little when we left. But they did cover a nurse, physical therapist, and speech therapist to come here after she left there---we had the nurse 2x a week for a month, the PT for about 3 months and still have the speech therapist coming 2x a week---all paid by medicare---wondering if it is a state by state issue on that.
    1706 days ago
    emoticon Make sure you find a bit of ME time while DH is away from home you deserve it Well done with the declutter I get mine done while Ian is abroad in the winter. emoticon
    1706 days ago
    Your hubby sounds like mine!!!! emoticon
    1706 days ago
    Way to put your time to good use, with a positive attitude.
    1706 days ago
    I'm glad you have a respite. DE cluttering has been a challenge that I have been facing for some time. I read many ideas of how to go about it and found what has worked well for me is tackling one small area at a time. I now pick up the living room, dining room and kitchen every evening. Glad you have some help!
    1706 days ago
    I agree with the medicare. I do hope your aide helps you both. Prayers coming your way.
    1706 days ago
  • PICKIE98
    That is so great! More space to live in, less cluttered life and living quarters!!
    Great going!!!
    1706 days ago
    We sometimes grave peace and quite Alone time
    1706 days ago
  • LIS193
    As much as we love our husbands it is nice to have some space sometimes. You are using your time well and getting things done!!
    The new aide sounds just what you need to help you deal with all your challenges.
    1706 days ago
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