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The Image of Obesity...

Saturday, July 13, 2013

I wish there was a way to change the way people think about those of us who are over weight! I have read and heard so many comments from "thin" people about what they think about the obese. Many of them believe the idea that we are just lazy or that we spend the whole day eating. I have heard comments like "If she just had more will power..., or why doesn't she just exercise a little? I have had people comment on my scooter, saying that I should be walking instead of riding! (Obviously, thinking that I was usng the scooter because I am fat , and not for the "real" reason, I have a brain tumor!) I wish there was a way for people to see that with the scooter I can do things now that I couldn't before! That I can go out and shop for myself, I can go to parades and Farmer's Markets, when before I was stuck in my apartment.

Thin people don't know the reasons why we are obese. They don't know that some of us have medical problems that limit our ability to exercise! They don't know the devastation that depression can causes! They don't understand the levels of stress we endure due to the way that people look down on us or discriminate against us.
They don't know the embarrassment of not being able to fit into a plane or amusement ride seat. They take for granted that they can climb stairs, go grocery shopping without help, play with their kids, get in and out of the bathtub without fear of falling.
I don't suppose there is any way to get people to be more understanding and kind to us. I am not saying that we don't have any responsibility in the weight that we carry, I just think that in most cases it is not as simple as calories in/calories out!
And I am sure that there are obese people who don't even try to lose weight, but I think that most of us try and try and try , and it is not easy! It is a life long challenge for most of us!

I am so glad that I found Spark People! At least here I know that I will not be treated like a "naughty child"! Everyone here understands what I am going through! As they say, Strength in numbers! Together we can lose the weight! Together we can learn to live healthy lives! emoticon

Thank you Spark People!

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A_BIT_AT_A_TIME 7/14/2013 3:51PM

    I was challenged once when I parked in a handicap spot - I have the blue handicap sticker in my car window, plainly visible. But I don't "look sick" and except for my cane I can walk OK a lot of the time. (and I rarely go out, I only go out by myself when I'm feeling *really* good).

At the time I didn't know what to say to this guy who was blathering on about how unfair it was that I was parking so close to the store entrance. I ignored him and continued on my way, but it kinda stung.

Next time I know what I'm going to say - you take ten years of my back pain and you can HAVE the parking spot.

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KARENKANDO 7/14/2013 1:07PM

    Ignorance is really no excuse - but I think it happens all too often. Someone will make a snap judgment about another person without knowing them or a thing about their lives. I've done it myself. I hate to admit that, but it's true. I've been in public places and seen the way someone was dressed or how they walked or something about their mannerisms or the way they treated (or appeared to treat) their children, or their weight or their physical impairment. . . and without really thinking through it, I just rushed to judgment. Some judgment. Sometimes kind thoughts - other times, not so kind. And each time I do that, I regret it later. "Later" I think about how I didn't even know the person that I just passed judgment on. I don't know why I can't be cognizant of that "in the moment". I then I worry about how others might judge me - without knowing me - without knowing my situation or circumstances. It's awful and I really wish it weren't that way. I guess it's just the human-ness in us. Looking "down" on some stranger, makes us feel better about ourselves or our situations? I don't know. Maybe something like that. Anyway, thanks for the reminder. It's something I needed to hear today. Oh, and one more thing, I hope you will keep riding in your scooter and being as independent as you can be - regardless of what others think or do not think about you! Please do not let other's opinions of you stop you from doing all that you can - all that you want to do. You are an inspiration! emoticon

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123ELAINE456 7/14/2013 2:36AM

  I been going though people saying all kings of things about my Weight and Speech Problems. Kids would chase my home throwing Rocks and Everything Else at Me when I was growing up and in School. I still have a Lot of Problems with how People treat Me Now. So I know how You feel and what You are going through. People only want to be Friends with You to get what they can out of You and Steel You Blind. This is what I go Through. All we can do is to stay away from People like that. I hope things get much better for You. God Blessings to You and Everyone. Have a Great Day. Take Care. Hugs!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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SLJWATTS 7/13/2013 10:03PM

    I am so sorry that people are so thoughtless and say such terrible things. I am sorry you were hurt by them. But you know the truth... people have become to enabled to say whatever comes into their minds. I hope we evolve into a country with some idea of what manners are and not hurting others in this world.

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BARB4HEALTH 7/13/2013 5:33PM

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XCLOSED 7/13/2013 3:26PM

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LALATIDAH 7/13/2013 1:48PM

    It is really sad that people judge others based on what they see without allowing their brain to work before making the judgement! Really sucks!! I was a skinny 5'8" @ 120 lbs after I had my kids... and I ate whatever and as much as I wanted with no fear of weight gain. Then... 8 years later (11 years ago) I was stricken with sciatica. Spent 8 months in a wheelchair, followed by no ability to exercise for the next 9 years! I gained 60 lbs due to the sedentary life I was forced into! I have been exercising for the past year, but it has only been in the past 5 months that I have actually been (almost) pain free and able to do just about anything I used to do. I have lost 18 lbs since Feb, and it is a slow process! Enough about me...
What I was getting at is - I used to be one of those who pre-judged others who were overweight and until I experienced it myself, I never realized I did that! It took BEING overweight to bring me to my senses!
I, too, am so grateful to be a SP member! So much support and love to be shared!
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434TERESA 7/13/2013 1:13PM

    They will never understand unless it happens to them! which it very well can. I have saw the what comes around goes around take effect on that myself.

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