HELP!!!!Stress is trying to win
Saturday, July 13, 2013
I'm now so stressed out that I can;t even sleep at night. Sometime I dont go to sleep until 5am. Im recently divorced and I guess it is taking its toll on me.
Besides the fact that I am newly divorced I am also a student which adds ro the stress because my rades are suffering because I can't concentrate on my studies and as a result my weight is going back up.
I know I can't go on like this much longer.
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I know it's late... like 6 months later... but I've been here, where you write about. It's tough. But it gets better.
How are things going now? PM me or send me a spaekmail if you'd prefer
1416 days ago
Sheria, your so welcome. I was thinking about you last night while I was having 1 of those nights. Had 98 degree temps yesterday while we were out doing errands and it made me have such a migraine I couldn't get rid of it so even with the PM I took at 3:40 I still didn't get to sleep till after 6 this am. Anyway, most of the times I also put myself to sleep talking to Jehovah, it is so soothing and relaxing. Just wanted to make sure I told you
1611 days ago
First I want to say congratulations on your weight loss thats fantastic and also thats a wonderful picture of you ! Second congrats that you are in school thats wonderful !
Divorce is never an easy thing , No matter if you really wanted it or didnt want it , It feels like a failure I know , I am a divorced Mom also , The only advice I can give you is a few ideas that have helped me and maybe possibly they can help you too., I dont know if you ever have read any of Norman Vincent Peales books but they are wonderful no matter what your faith One advice he gives is to imagine putting your troubles on a sliver platter an handing it up to God. Second I like to use a timer when I have to study , I have ADD and just cant sit still as I am always looking at the clock ! having the timer helps me focus more then anything ! I remember when I left my husband , My mother had died in Febuary of that year and things came to a full blown end in April of the same year and I left with my son and had 33 dollars in my pocket and then in June of that year my brother in law and father died , Wow that was stressful ! Sometimes God uses stress to force us to change , if everything was fine or even bare able we wouldnt change our circumstances when they need changing but whatever the reason God can make any thing even bad things work for the greater good when we trust him , There is no way a divorce and death of parents or family can be a good thing but what it did was leave me completely alone only with my son whom I adore ! and I thought there is NO WAY i am letting this boy down , Hes all I have and I am all he has , So I started tiny steps , and now I can say for the first time probably ever in my life I am happy and this is do to Gods way even though at the time I completely didnt understand , and believe me God has a plan for you , a wonderful plan just try to work through it a little bit at a time , maybe by writing down or even just thinking of 3 things per day your grateful for and 3 things per day you did great ! remember baby steps and do not underestimate your self ! Your buddy Kyliecat
1614 days ago
I am so sorry that you are dealing with all this. We are so close to the end of this stinky system. Just hang on a little while longer and we won't have to deal with any of these things.
Sending hugs to you!
1615 days ago
Try to focus only on today. You can't change your past and have no control of your future so focus on what'd most important for today. Focus on how Jehovah has blessed you today.
1615 days ago
There is nothing easy about such life changes as you are experiencing. The advice to cling to Jehovah..don't miss meetings, don't skip personal study....are the best tools you have to support you through the days ahead. The Brs. and Sis. in the congregation are there for you to lean on and call for help. I know nothing of your situation, but do know some who have been the innocent party in a bad situation..and not found support in the local cong. DON'T let something like that deter you from staying faithful and close to Jehovah. That is human imperfection in action. One thing you can absolutely be sure of is that Jehovah LOVES you and KNOWS what you are going through. HE will support you and watch over you...and if you rely on Him, there will be comfort. I know from my own experiences with family issues and my mother's death, that there are times you wonder if Jehovah is paying attention, but no matter what, stay close to him. HE IS paying attention.
I don't know precisely what YOU need, but we are here to help in any way we can. If you need someone to talk to, PM me and I will reply asap. Things will calm down in time..though as this system comes to a close, there will continue to be stresses and troubles on all fronts. You can do this. Just one step at a time.
1615 days ago
Great tips, Temporary.
We listen to the dramas and songs (the vocals) too - our little girl even sleeps to dramas now.
NEABIGSIS, make it to the meetings. Don't let your spiritual routine slip; it is so easy to start drifting away from Jehovah when you need him most. (speaking from experience)
I know how painful divorce is, no matter whose fault or what the circumstances are, it's not what we intended when we got married. So hang in there and know that you're not alone by reading experiences of other sisters who've been there. Use the Watchtower Library and you'll find tons of stories of others who felt like they just couldn't handle it.
You can do it!
1615 days ago
Thank you so much for your enocuaging words
1615 days ago
Sheria, you have such a big load on you right now and it does need to ease. Take it all to Jehovah and he will give you the strength to get through this. For the sleep issues, what we have done is to download the dramas, yearbooks and other publications and put them on flash drives for listening to during the night. We got the radio unit that plays CD's and flash drives. As we have pain issues that have us up and down all night long, we have it going all night long. We got the unit with the permanent pause button (our first only paused for less than 5 min. then turned off) that way, it picks up where we left off. It is so soothing that we drop off to sleep in no time for the most part and every time either of us wakes up, it's there to soothe us back to sleep.
The Moses drama is my hubby's favorite, mine I think is Rahab's. though I like listening to them all. We found we couldn't have the music as you get to humming or singing the words in your head which means no sleep. Too, when I am hurting bad or not sleeping at all, I take a couple of Excedrin PM, they help me to go to sleep and help with the pain as well. I have no side effects from them and have had to use them for at least 20 years. My medical tests show I've had no damage from them.
I'll be praying for you and I know Jehovah will help you through this too
1617 days ago
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