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    CALENSARIEL   35,100
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We are married to ourselves...

Saturday, July 13, 2013

I just read an inspirational story on here written by a Sparker. It was called "Finding My Inner Spark." The gal made a statement at the end of the pieces that really caught my attention. She said, "For the first time I feel very comfortable with who I am and with what I will never be."

It just kind of hit me that that is a piece of the "habit" puzzle that is missing for me. I have this feeling deep inside me that I will never be ok with who or how I am no matter HOW much weight I might lose. The minute I thought about that I knew it was an issue for me.

Then something our pastor said in a sermon a few weeks ago came to mind. She was talking about some of her favorite pieces of advice from the wedding ceremonies she performs. Of all the things she can say to a newlywed couple, this was her favorite: Enjoy each other for who you are; forgive each other for who you are not.

I figure that's exactly what I need to work on, enjoying myself for who I am and realizing that what's important is that I become more and more healthy whether I ever reach those magic numbers or not. And then I need to forgive myself for not being able to be the perfect 10 (or 14, or even 16 if it comes to that). I do, after all, spend more time with ME than anyone one else! And that's a marriage of sorts.

Seems like my whole focus has been on the food, but I'm missing the self-appreciation and acceptance that reminds me that I'm ok whether I meet everyone else's expectations of who I should be or not. Including my own.

That little story was a real boost for me... That and Diane's advice.

Member Comments About This Blog Post:
TOONACAT 7/16/2013 10:00AM

    Really great post - I can use this today both for myself and for my interactions of late with DH. emoticon

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ARCHIMEDESII 7/15/2013 6:09AM

    A wise sparker as well as a wise pastor.

It's taken me years to learn to appreciate my body for what it can do as well as learn to not beat myself up because I don't look a certain way. We're all our own worst critics. Flaws we see in ourselves, no one else sees.

I keep telling people, accentuate the positive and eliminate the negative. Be proud of what you can do and don't worry about what you can't. We all have limitations and that's okay.

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