I like and prefer to focus on the positive. Right now I'm struggling. While my work life situation is 'falling into place' (re-org) in a way that I'm happy and will reduce my work stress, my personal life is in chaos.
Dad is in rehab facility (kindof a yucky one tho people seem nice) working on physical therapy to regain strength in his legs.
It's abt 30 min away- close enough for me to feel compelled to go there every day and spend hours, yet far enough to take a major chunk out of my day to make sure he's being well cared for. Looks like 5-10 days+ then hopefully, he'll go back to his asst. living. He's getting less and less confused, but still has some confusion that needs to clear.
I'm juggling calls from the rehab place and his asst living place and requests with everything else (see below).
Older brother pretty much flaking out. He's going out of town for long weekend. He says this is all depressing - doesn't want to deal with anything. I don't have the energy to fight about it.
My younger sis is flying out from NY today. Haven't seen her in 11 yrs and have had only very occasional email contact. (due to childhood drama she won't release).She will stay at my dad's apt
and rented a car at my request. (She wanted to be picked up at airport- 4 hr round trip). His apt has a full kitchen, but not stocked or used cuz they have a fab dining room. I told her there that plus the fact there are grocery stores & restaurants close so she can get whatever she wants. I want her to be independent. She was 'less than pleased'. I got the sense that she wants to be treated as a 'guest'. Not gonna happen.
I'm trying vailantly not to get sucked back in to childhood conflict stuff.
Speaking of guests, we still have dh's cousins & aunts staying over- 4 adults, 3 small kids and a 4 mo baby. Add our 4 family members plus 2 doggies and it's been 'controlled chaos'
I'm letting everyone 'fend for themselves' and make themselves at home. I'm juggling work, home and still getting over a cold.
Washer broke doing a load of baby clothes.
Every towel in house was dirty (As we have a pool, weI have TONS)
I delegated the task to take laundry to landromat to dd's right after washer died. Of course, they delayed, and delayed and delayed until people were swimming and we had NO CLEAN TOWELS! I mentally grabbed onto my temper and deliberately stepped away from the problem. I kept working and tried not to think about that stuff
They figured it out. Gathered all the laundry and took to landromat- 10 washers, 12 dryers. Yikes!!! CLEAN CLOTHES!
What a concept!!!
House is trashed. Then water pressure went out. Toilets out of commission, but someone used them anyway. Ewwww. Toted pool water to fill toilet tanks to flush toilets. Turns out watersoftener disintegrated and released beads that clogged everything. DH called in his posse to cut out watersoftener and bypass water flow into house. By midnite we had water again
Showers all around then bed. DH up at 4 a.m. for work- I dragged out at 6.
Today is youngest dd's 12th birthday. I want to put aside all this dreck and make it as fun for her (and me) as I can.
Good News: I'm not binging, over eating or eating junk foods! YAY! Being super careful to eat - and eat well-, take my vitamins/calcium. Need to work on drinking more water......
Thanks for your shoulders Sparkfriends!!!