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Life Chaos!!! Warning: Vent Blog :)

Friday, July 12, 2013

I like and prefer to focus on the positive. Right now I'm struggling. While my work life situation is 'falling into place' (re-org) in a way that I'm happy and will reduce my work stress, my personal life is in chaos. emoticon emoticon emoticon

Dad is in rehab facility (kindof a yucky one tho people seem nice) working on physical therapy to regain strength in his legs. emoticon It's abt 30 min away- close enough for me to feel compelled to go there every day and spend hours, yet far enough to take a major chunk out of my day to make sure he's being well cared for. Looks like 5-10 days+ then hopefully, he'll go back to his asst. living. He's getting less and less confused, but still has some confusion that needs to clear. emoticon I'm juggling calls from the rehab place and his asst living place and requests with everything else (see below).

Older brother pretty much flaking out. He's going out of town for long weekend. He says this is all depressing - doesn't want to deal with anything. I don't have the energy to fight about it.

My younger sis is flying out from NY today. Haven't seen her in 11 yrs and have had only very occasional email contact. (due to childhood drama she won't release).She will stay at my dad's apt emoticon and rented a car at my request. (She wanted to be picked up at airport- 4 hr round trip). His apt has a full kitchen, but not stocked or used cuz they have a fab dining room. I told her there that plus the fact there are grocery stores & restaurants close so she can get whatever she wants. I want her to be independent. She was 'less than pleased'. I got the sense that she wants to be treated as a 'guest'. Not gonna happen.

I'm trying vailantly not to get sucked back in to childhood conflict stuff. emoticon

Speaking of guests, we still have dh's cousins & aunts staying over- 4 adults, 3 small kids and a 4 mo baby. Add our 4 family members plus 2 doggies and it's been 'controlled chaos' emoticon

I'm letting everyone 'fend for themselves' and make themselves at home. I'm juggling work, home and still getting over a cold.

Washer broke doing a load of baby clothes. emoticon Every towel in house was dirty (As we have a pool, weI have TONS) emoticon I delegated the task to take laundry to landromat to dd's right after washer died. Of course, they delayed, and delayed and delayed until people were swimming and we had NO CLEAN TOWELS! I mentally grabbed onto my temper and deliberately stepped away from the problem. I kept working and tried not to think about that stuff emoticon

They figured it out. Gathered all the laundry and took to landromat- 10 washers, 12 dryers. Yikes!!! CLEAN CLOTHES! emoticon What a concept!!!

House is trashed. Then water pressure went out. Toilets out of commission, but someone used them anyway. Ewwww. Toted pool water to fill toilet tanks to flush toilets. Turns out watersoftener disintegrated and released beads that clogged everything. DH called in his posse to cut out watersoftener and bypass water flow into house. By midnite we had water again emoticon Showers all around then bed. DH up at 4 a.m. for work- I dragged out at 6.

Today is youngest dd's 12th birthday. I want to put aside all this dreck and make it as fun for her (and me) as I can.

Good News: I'm not binging, over eating or eating junk foods! YAY! Being super careful to eat - and eat well-, take my vitamins/calcium. Need to work on drinking more water......

Thanks for your shoulders Sparkfriends!!!
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    Oh man, that is rough. But, I love how you focused on what is going well at the end! GOOD FOR YOU!
    1714 days ago
    Hang in there, but you are doing an emoticon job with the eating! See how strong you are! Family can be a challenge, but emoticon

    I hope your dad is stronger and back where "he belongs" soon. I can relate to this! Aging parents can be very stressful, but you are being a great daughter.

    Big emoticon !
    1715 days ago
    emoticon so glad that you are keeping up beat even through life's headaches are raining down on you.. emoticon
    1715 days ago
  • AUNTB63
    There are times (like this one) that you need to vent....glad you felt at home enough to do that here. With all those things on your plate...there is no room for unhealthy foods...that is a good thing. And you are handling that fantastically. Hope fully with your sis will help out with your Dad. No matter what the problem was years ago, now is not the time to drudge through it. Now is the time to make this all about your Dad. I know from experience with DH's bro and sis. Everyone needs to be adult about this, including your bro. We are not geared for "taking care of our parents", but we do this willingly because that is the thing to do. Keep taking good care of yourself.
    Hope your daughter's birthday turns out to be a good memory for both of you.
    1715 days ago
    Sounds busy and crazy. I know how it is with siblings that still act like they're 12. Keep on taking care of yourself during these times. emoticon
    1715 days ago
    I would check into a hotel for a few days.

    Sounds like you have your hands full. Hang in there, it will hopefully be over soon
    1715 days ago
    emoticon Thank you for allowing me to read your blog. My day just went up in greatness and I wasn't liking it much before I read about what you are dealing with. emoticon

    Bless your heart and I sent prayers your way, that you continue to handle things so well. emoticon
    1715 days ago
    Nothing I can say, except 'Hang on for dear life' PATTY!
    Just grit your teeth and slog it out. Good for your for stepping away from DD's laundry problem.
    Glad your sister is coming to help. Perhaps you two will see each other's hearts again.
    If I were you I would take DD on a birthday date, just the two of you. (Pity she is not at the age when she would like a spa day, then you get one too)
    Bless you!
    1715 days ago
    Oh... Bless your heart-- Yes, make it a happy Birthday for your daughter, in spite of the upheaval ---

    ( sounds like you need to run off to a hotel alone-- Switzerland is nice ) Lol

    You manage chaos very well, and you deserve lots of credit for it!

    1715 days ago
    You are an amazing woman to handle all of that! It sounds as if you are doing everything right, drawing boundaries for yourself. Continue to take care of yourself.

    Happy birthday to your daughter ( and to you, Mom). emoticon
    1715 days ago
    sounds like you have a lot going on. emoticon
    1715 days ago
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