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Happy Birthday To My Oldest Son!

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Friday, July 12, 2013

I wasn't feeling very motivated to workout this morning. I didn't have a very good night...there were storms, and my dog is so nervous whenever there is thunder. She kept me up for most of the night with her whining and howling, so I was really exhausted this morning. But I'm proud to say that I did the 30 Day Shred anyway! Today was day 12 of the workout, and my second day on level two!

Today is also my oldest son's birthday. He is 29. Just saying that makes me feel so old! How can I be 52 when I still feel like I'm in my 30's? And how did my son grow up so darned fast?

I have two sons, and we are very close. When they were young, tragedy struck. Their father was killed by a drunk driver. I was a frightened 32 year old widow with two sad, confused little boys to raise. My oldest son became very angry at the world, and as he grew into his teen years, his behavior started to go downhill. He began getting into trouble at school, and he started talking back to me. I knew he was still grieving for his father, so I tried to be understanding and loving, but it was a very difficult time. We had a few rough years there, and my son acted like he couldn't stand me. It was heartbreaking for me. On his 18th birthday, he packed up and moved out.

For the next few years, we hardly spoke, even though I saw him several times a week because he got a job working at the same place where my new husband worked. I just gave him his space and kept him in my prayers. It took a while, but slowly as he matured, our relationship improved. He went back to his faith, and he even apologized to me for how he had treated me.

Our relationship now is just what I always wanted. We don't see each other very often anymore, because he has a job now where he works the overnight shift, so he sleeps during the day. But we email each other often, and get together when we can. I am so proud of the young man he has become.

Happy birthday to my dear, oldest son. I love you and I wish you all the very best this year, and always!


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TINADEE86 7/12/2013 6:51PM

    My cat is the same way. Happy Birthday to your son!

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KARRENLYNN 7/12/2013 6:48PM

    I'm glad you have a good relationship with your sons. Happy Birthday to your oldest son. May you always be blessed with your family.


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GABY1948 7/12/2013 6:48PM

    emoticon and a huge emoticon for your son...wait til you gutn 65 and your son turns 45 that same year...Have a great weekend!

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MSGRANNYMAE 7/12/2013 6:38PM

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KRISSYDUNN 7/12/2013 6:11PM

    Congratulations on day 12 of your workout! And congratulations on being the kind of mom who knows how to be patient, loving and to never close that door between you and your children! Your son healed and came back to you because you let him. Awesome!

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123ELAINE456 7/12/2013 6:08PM

  Happy Birthday to Your Oldest Son. You done a Fantastic Job Raising Them. This is something that You can be Very Proud Of. Sorry to heard about the bad weather You are Having. I hope that You and Your dog can get a good night sleep tonight and wake up to Sunshine tomorrow. You are Doing a Fantastic Job. Keep Pushing Forward and You Will Make It. God Blessings You and Everyone. Have a Wonderful Weekend. Take Care. Hugs!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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DAUGHTER9MOONS 7/12/2013 5:32PM

    Thank you, pixie, for sharing your experience. Watching our children grow up can be the hardest thing to go through. But obviously your love for your son helped him to find his way back. Love and hugs.

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DEEGIRL50 7/12/2013 5:20PM

    What a loving tribute. You have struggled and come through it in a loving and good place! You can do anything you put your heart and soul into.
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ELLIE381 7/12/2013 5:02PM

    emoticon to your son.

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KITT52 7/12/2013 5:01PM

    emoticon ...growing up sure does help us all....

have a healthy week end

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BOOERDEM 7/12/2013 4:55PM

    Ah, Pixie, you've done it again. You know how to touch hearts in a special way. Thanks! Sending you a big hug along with kudos for doing your workout in spite of how tired you felt. Proud of you!!

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JUST_BRENDA 7/12/2013 3:38PM

    wow Pixie, you (and your sons) have certainly been through a lot. But, it is obvious that you are very resilient to be where you are now! You seem to have a mature perspective on your life events and are not letting them hold you back. That's truly an inspiration to us all!
I'm so glad the relationship with your son has turned around. I have a hunch that it's more difficult for a mother to have a close relationship with a son over a daughter, in general. Guys are just built differently emotionally and socially!
Thank you for your candor and honesty. You give me inspiration!!!!

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AJDOVER1 7/12/2013 3:22PM

    I love your courage! I've always believed a child's (no matter what age) birthday really belongs to the mother.

It's a blessing to know you!

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BAMAJAM 7/12/2013 3:20PM

  Hi Pixie--- How very difficult your life has been at times. It is nice to hear that your relationship with your son is now mended. Happy birthday to him!

My sister was widowed with two little boys. It was very hard---and she did not recover. The boys are fine men now, but life was very much turmoil when they were children.

You can be very proud of yourself-- proud that you did not allow tragedy to defeat you.

Bless you, Pixie, for always inspiring Sparkpeople to achieve goals.

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OLIVERFAMILY33 7/12/2013 3:12PM

    Thank you for sharing your story. I'm so sorry for the loss of your first husband, and all you had to go through at that time, but so happy you have found happiness again and that your son has come around and realizes just how much you love him no matter what, and I hope you get to celebrate his birthday with him and that it will be special for you both.

Happy birthday to your son, and you too! (It is the day you gave birth to him, so it's a celebration for you too!)
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LINDAK25 7/12/2013 2:42PM

    Good for you! It's so hard to exercise when you're overtired.

Happy Birthday to your son!

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CHRISTASP 7/12/2013 2:35PM

    Congratulations. It's touching to hear your relationship improved so much.

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YAFENELRA 7/12/2013 2:19PM

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Happy Birthday to your son!!

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FIFIFRIZZLE 7/12/2013 2:19PM

    My DH's father died when DH was in his teens. He still talks about him quite often. It is hard to bring up fatherless children you did a good job Pixie.

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GINGER_BEAR 7/12/2013 2:10PM

    emoticon to your son!

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TIGER_LILY_613 7/12/2013 2:02PM

  emoticon to your son. I am sincerely happy for you that your relationship with each other has improved so much. emoticon

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COLOR-BLUE 7/12/2013 1:37PM

    Oh my goodness, you're not old!!! I'm 60 but I still feel like I'm 19!!! Why 19 I don't know, but that's what came out of my mouth, when somebody asked me how old I felt.

emoticon You stuck with your workout!!! You know that you probably burned more calories today, as you didn't have adequate rest. I don't know if that's true, but I know that when I don't have adequate rest, and go walking, I'm working harder at it, as I feel like I'm sluffing off.

emoticon to your son!!! It's pretty amazing, watching your children grow up and how they change through out their lives. Your son has come full circle, and when you said that he returned to his faith, I just thought of the scripture, "Train up a child in the way he should go and when he is old, he will not depart from it."

I'm just really amazed that you got up this morning and tackled that 30 Day Shred!!! My hat is off to you young lady!!! BRAVO!!!

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MRSRIGS1 7/12/2013 1:34PM

    So happy all worked out beautifully for you and your family! emoticon to your son! P.S. Good for you that you did your workout! I bet you felt better having done it.

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TRAVELGRRL 7/12/2013 1:25PM

    Bless your heart! Happy birthday to #1 son and to ME, my birthday is today as well. You've been through a lot, and I'm glad #1 son is finally doing OK. Sometimes it takes awhile for kids to work through what happened to them as children.

Have you ever thought of getting your dog a Thundershirt? I hear they work wonders.

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IAMAGEMLOVER 7/12/2013 1:18PM

    Glad you stuck with your workout. emoticon

emoticon to your son. I know what you mean about not believing how they grow up so fast. Mine is 37. I don't understand it considering I am only 28. emoticon

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LUVSBULLDOGS 7/12/2013 1:13PM

    I'm glad your relationship has been mended.

I know how motivation goes out the window when you're tired. Glad you stuck with it. Doesn't it feel great?

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SUGAR0814 7/12/2013 1:10PM

    emoticon to your son! emoticon

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WORKNPROGRESS49 7/12/2013 1:08PM

    emoticon to your son!!! emoticon

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I hope you both have a great day!
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SEATTLE58ANEW 7/12/2013 12:53PM

    What a beautiful, loving story to tell, Pixie! emoticon to your wonderful son.

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BUTTERFLYGRACE 7/12/2013 12:46PM

    emoticon to you both!! When a child has a birthday, a mother celebrates soooo very much of her own self too! Enjoy this day with all your precious memories.

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WORLDSERIES11 7/12/2013 12:42PM

    emoticon to your son:)

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TRISHUBB 7/12/2013 12:41PM

    Inspiring story. My dog is the same way during storms.

emoticon to your son.

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