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Happy Birthday To My Oldest Son!

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Friday, July 12, 2013

I wasn't feeling very motivated to workout this morning. I didn't have a very good night...there were storms, and my dog is so nervous whenever there is thunder. She kept me up for most of the night with her whining and howling, so I was really exhausted this morning. But I'm proud to say that I did the 30 Day Shred anyway! Today was day 12 of the workout, and my second day on level two!



Today is also my oldest son's birthday. He is 29. Just saying that makes me feel so old! How can I be 52 when I still feel like I'm in my 30's? And how did my son grow up so darned fast?

I have two sons, and we are very close. When they were young, tragedy struck. Their father was killed by a drunk driver. I was a frightened 32 year old widow with two sad, confused little boys to raise. My oldest son became very angry at the world, and as he grew into his teen years, his behavior started to go downhill. He began getting into trouble at school, and he started talking back to me. I knew he was still grieving for his father, so I tried to be understanding and loving, but it was a very difficult time. We had a few rough years there, and my son acted like he couldn't stand me. It was heartbreaking for me. On his 18th birthday, he packed up and moved out.

For the next few years, we hardly spoke, even though I saw him several times a week because he got a job working at the same place where my new husband worked. I just gave him his space and kept him in my prayers. It took a while, but slowly as he matured, our relationship improved. He went back to his faith, and he even apologized to me for how he had treated me.

Our relationship now is just what I always wanted. We don't see each other very often anymore, because he has a job now where he works the overnight shift, so he sleeps during the day. But we email each other often, and get together when we can. I am so proud of the young man he has become.

Happy birthday to my dear, oldest son. I love you and I wish you all the very best this year, and always!


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SUSIEMT 7/13/2013 4:26PM

    Congrats to oldest son! You don't look a day over 32! But I know what you mean when you say you feel like you're in your thirties. Me too and I'm 63!

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NILLAPEPSI 7/13/2013 3:44PM

    emoticon Pixie's son!! emoticon

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PATTIE441 7/13/2013 3:40PM

    Happy Birthday to your son, Pixie! You are an awesome Mom!! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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SANDYCRANE 7/13/2013 2:56PM

    Glad things turned out okay for you and your son. My son is 20 and we have a rocky relationship. I know things will get better in time. Happy Birthday to your son and congratulations to you for raising such a wonderful son.

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CLIMBERS_ROCK 7/13/2013 2:51PM

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JOANNHUNT 7/13/2013 1:46PM

    HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOUR SON. GOOD LUCK ON YOUR JOURNEY.

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DIANNEMT 7/13/2013 1:38PM

    So glad that things worked out.

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ZOE13O 7/13/2013 1:16PM

    emoticon to your son!
Just so you know....if you wouldn't have stated your age, I never would've guessed! you look great for 52!! emoticon Great blog and thanks for sharing such a personal experience.

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JSEATTLE 7/13/2013 12:49PM

  Enjoy your day with your family and sons. Bless you.

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HEALTHYHAPPYDEB 7/13/2013 11:48AM

    Awww, I love this blog Pixie! Happy (belated) Birthday to your son. He is lucky too, he has a great Mom!
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LIVELYGIRL2 7/13/2013 11:20AM

  We have a 29 year old son too.

I know they can go " do their own thing", and sometimes we have to wait a long time for them to come home in heart and action.So very good how your close again.

I can see how you got that persevering attitude.

It's so tough when we have those awful times, but can make us more loving and understanding, if we don't get s lousy attitude.

Happy Birthday to your son!!!

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LISA_FRAME 7/13/2013 11:18AM

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SHOAPIE 7/13/2013 11:01AM

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PENOWOK 7/13/2013 10:28AM

    Beautiful story!! Prayer changes things!

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NEPTUNE1939 7/13/2013 10:14AM

    emoticon to you son.

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NEPTUNE1939 7/13/2013 10:14AM

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BRENDA_G50 7/13/2013 9:44AM

    Please tell your son emoticon for me and let him know how lucky he is to have an emoticon mom that loves him enough to let him have his space and time to figure everything out.

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FUNLOVEN 7/13/2013 9:26AM

    Words from the loving heart of a true Mom! Children can be a handful especially during those teen years. Thanks for sharing emoticon

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ILIKETOZUMBA 7/13/2013 9:11AM

    You're a wonderful mom. :) I can't even imagine how difficult all that must have been for you, but it sounds like you did everything exactly right to give him his space and let him come back to you in his own time - and I'm so glad he did!! Happy birthday to him and high fives to you!

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TINY67 7/13/2013 9:08AM

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4RASCALS 7/13/2013 8:28AM

    emoticon greeting for your son. Wishing him many, many more. So glad that your relationship has improved.

emoticon to you for doing your workout, even though you had a rough night.

Have an awesome weekend

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SIMONEKP 7/13/2013 8:27AM

    Happy birthday to your son. I feel that same way when I look at my 13 yr old, I often say- no way I am 34! I am still in my 20's! Too bad it's not true.

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MIMIDOT 7/13/2013 8:26AM

    Glad you are a happy family again. Hope your son has a happy birthday.

Spark on!!!!

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MOMMY445 7/13/2013 8:20AM

    so glad to hear that it worked out so well for you,Pixie! happy birthday to your son! have a wonderful day!

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TRYINGHARD54 7/13/2013 7:10AM

    Happy birthday to your son...... emoticon

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CHERYLHURT 7/13/2013 7:06AM

  Congratulations to all of you! You went through a terrible experience and came out stronger. My God bless you!

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BESSHAILE 7/13/2013 5:53AM

    Good for you for just doing it anyway - and not just with the exercise either.

I'm so sorry your family had to go through such a brutal experience. I'm so glad you have that warm relationships again with your son. Happy Birthday to him and to you ... you were both there.

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NASFKAB 7/13/2013 5:20AM

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MONGO2TEN 7/13/2013 5:03AM

    For your dog - Rescue Remedy for pets is wonderful. I use it on my little Morgan and it calms her right down. They cannot have the human Rescue Remedy - you have to buy the animal one....I get mine at Amazon.

Your story of your son is so sweet! Glad he is doing so well. My oldest son turns 36 tomorrow!

~Nancy

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EVER-HOPEFUL 7/13/2013 4:52AM

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WATERDIAMONDS 7/13/2013 4:40AM

    you are an amazing human being in so many ways..

Congratulations to your son for having such a wonderful mother

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SPARKFRAN514 7/13/2013 12:58AM

    emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon to your son its great you are back together as family

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FITANDFIFTY2 7/13/2013 12:37AM

    emoticon to your son!! You are doing awesome on your work out!! Wow,, I am impressed!!! My oldest son will be 37 next month,, I told him , NO MORE B-DAYS.. you are making me old...lol... I am so happy for you that you have a great relationship with your son, that is priceless!

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KATHYJO56 7/13/2013 12:32AM

    emoticon to your awesome son. He has a very cool mom!

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ARTJAC 7/12/2013 11:44PM

    emoticon TO YOUR SON

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AUNTJAM 7/12/2013 11:19PM

    My niece uses the Thunder shirt on some of her frightened foster doggies and it works great. Makes them feel secure. Happy Birthday to your son and big congrats to you for shredding your fatigue and your body. Thank you for stopping by. You....complete me!!

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LAINIESNEWLIFE 7/12/2013 11:16PM

    Happy Birthday to your son, Pixie!!! I'm so glad that you're close again.

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MICKEYH 7/12/2013 10:30PM

    emoticon emoticon to your Son!!

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COCK-ROBIN 7/12/2013 10:23PM

    Yes, happy birthday to your son. He shares a birthday with Bill Cosby and Richard Simmons!

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TERMITEMOM 7/12/2013 10:10PM

    Happy birthday to your son PIxie! I am so glad your relationship with him is better! emoticon

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LUVTOBOWL 7/12/2013 9:16PM

    God is a God of restoration - I'm thankful He restored you and your sons relationship Pixie.

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BARBIE66 7/12/2013 8:59PM

    Hey Pixie I too have 2 boys.. the oldest has adhd.. and is acting up what you went thru... but only he is 15.. and his dad is living.. but still is grieving his grandpa.. been 8 yrs of his passing .. they were close it was and still is hard... but you know reading your blog gave me some hope for my future with him.. thanks and tell your boy happy b day .. and that he lucky to have you as a mom...

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TREV1964 7/12/2013 8:36PM

    So glad you have persevered - it has so obviously been worth it in the end. I sincerely wish you and your sons and the rest of your family all the very best.

Cheers

Trev

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KARENLEIGH32 7/12/2013 8:16PM

    Congrats to you and happy birthday to him!

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JAMER123 7/12/2013 8:11PM

    A sad relationship that has turned into a happy one is the best gift a person can have!!
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REGILIEH 7/12/2013 8:01PM

    So happy for both of you!

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SIMPLYABUNDANT 7/12/2013 7:57PM

    What a blessing, Pixie! There is so much to celebrate in the journey of your relationship with your oldest son. emoticon to him! I hope you have a beautiful day and make plenty of special memories!
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CVRONEK 7/12/2013 7:46PM

    emoticon to your oldest son! SO happy that you two have such a good relationship, now.

Things happen to so many, but there is always hope. emoticon

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GLORYB2014 7/12/2013 7:44PM

    emoticon to your son, Pixie. Isn't it wonderful how he changed his life/attitude around as he matured? I'm glad you and he are so close now.
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TIGTAZ325 7/12/2013 7:37PM

    Happy Birthday to your son! Way to go on tackling your workout even though you were so tired! I'm glad to hear that your patience prevailed and you have such a great relationship with your son now.
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