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Happy Birthday To My Oldest Son!

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Friday, July 12, 2013

I wasn't feeling very motivated to workout this morning. I didn't have a very good night...there were storms, and my dog is so nervous whenever there is thunder. She kept me up for most of the night with her whining and howling, so I was really exhausted this morning. But I'm proud to say that I did the 30 Day Shred anyway! Today was day 12 of the workout, and my second day on level two!



Today is also my oldest son's birthday. He is 29. Just saying that makes me feel so old! How can I be 52 when I still feel like I'm in my 30's? And how did my son grow up so darned fast?

I have two sons, and we are very close. When they were young, tragedy struck. Their father was killed by a drunk driver. I was a frightened 32 year old widow with two sad, confused little boys to raise. My oldest son became very angry at the world, and as he grew into his teen years, his behavior started to go downhill. He began getting into trouble at school, and he started talking back to me. I knew he was still grieving for his father, so I tried to be understanding and loving, but it was a very difficult time. We had a few rough years there, and my son acted like he couldn't stand me. It was heartbreaking for me. On his 18th birthday, he packed up and moved out.

For the next few years, we hardly spoke, even though I saw him several times a week because he got a job working at the same place where my new husband worked. I just gave him his space and kept him in my prayers. It took a while, but slowly as he matured, our relationship improved. He went back to his faith, and he even apologized to me for how he had treated me.

Our relationship now is just what I always wanted. We don't see each other very often anymore, because he has a job now where he works the overnight shift, so he sleeps during the day. But we email each other often, and get together when we can. I am so proud of the young man he has become.

Happy birthday to my dear, oldest son. I love you and I wish you all the very best this year, and always!


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GRAMPIAN 8/28/2013 3:59PM

  Glad your relationship with your son emoticon has been restored.

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WHITEANGEL4 7/27/2013 11:20PM

    Glad all is working out with your son

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ALIDOSHA 7/24/2013 5:25PM

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CINDYBEL 7/19/2013 11:42AM

    There is always hope. Glad things have improved for you and your son. emoticon

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LUVSBULLDOGS 7/16/2013 7:23PM

    Glad you've gotten to the 12th day. It continues to get harder. keep going!!!

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CORNERKICK 7/16/2013 4:06AM

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GOSPELCLOWN 7/16/2013 12:31AM

    My sister was widdowed too and her kids were just teeny.
Now in their teens, the kids are quite a handful.

Thanks foe sharing a happy ending!!!

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SUNNYWBL 7/16/2013 12:10AM

    You are blessed!

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DIETER27 7/15/2013 3:11PM

  enjoy you day with your sons. Congrats on your weight loss journey.

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JRRING 7/15/2013 1:14PM

  emoticon to your son!

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KIMCOLLINGS 7/15/2013 12:28PM

    So sweet! Happy birthday to your son and congrats on doing the workout even when you were exhausted. You are a conquerer!!!

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LAUGHINGLATINA 7/15/2013 11:03AM

    Happy birthday to your son.

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LIVELYLULU36 7/15/2013 3:00AM

    Wow!! Touching! I'm SO happy for you, that everything worked out with your son.. That you have a good relationship with him that is great! I am so happy you also stuck with the 30 Day Shred level 2~ isn't it funny how on the days we don't want to work out (yet we do) then we are so glad we did?? If we actually regretted it, that would be a terrible waste of feelings. Anyway, have a wonderful monday!! Happy Shred, Happy Shred!! Jen

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AUTUMNHOPE 7/14/2013 11:11PM

    Great post ! It nice to be reminded that when we face hardships to have faith that God is still working in our lives.
His turn around is a testimony to the start you gave him to fall back on after he wandered down another path.

I offer my sympathy. What a strong woman you are. I am sorry you & your boys had to endure so much, so young.
Again, our lives parallel. I wrote before to you about my Autistic son & I at 29 was a widow to his father.
emoticon Thanks for sharing your beautiful B-day message to your DS.

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OKIE30 7/14/2013 10:30PM

    Happy Birthday, to your young man!

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GOOSIEMOON 7/14/2013 10:27PM

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SNOWYOGA 7/14/2013 7:22PM

    Nice!

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SCRAPBECCA 7/14/2013 7:08PM

    nice!

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CUDDLYPOLARBEAR 7/14/2013 6:12PM

    Very thoughtful post

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PACKERMANN 7/14/2013 4:41PM

    Pixie,
my hard-to-parent son (30) is becoming a wonderful man.
I just wish he would go back to church...still praying about that one.
good for you and your consistency to reach your goals!!
hugs,
Pat

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TEENY2BEE 7/14/2013 4:26PM

    Happy Birthday to your boy!!! emoticon

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FIRECOM 7/14/2013 4:16PM

    I an only imagine what you and sons have gone through. My prayers.

Our youngest son ( 5 total) is 42, oldest is 54.

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BUCKEYEMOM8 7/14/2013 3:13PM

  As mother's we celebrate our children's birthdays and marvel at the wonder of their existence no matter how many speed bumps along the way. Happy birthday to your son and best wishes to a great mom!!! emoticon emoticon

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NEWTINK 7/14/2013 3:06PM

    So sweet emoticon emoticon

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MANILUS 7/14/2013 2:47PM

    Great job mom on completing the workout and overcoming many tough obstacles!

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DAWNDMOORE40 7/14/2013 2:14PM

    emoticon Praise God! The power of prayer is amazing! I am glad you never gave up and always kept the Faith! I am going through some difficult times with my Son and his Step-Father right now. I wished I hadn't made some of the choices I did when I was married to his Father, but I was young and selfish and didn't rely much on Faith as I know I should have. As I grew older, I lost more family and realized that time is short, and that if I didn't get it together, I would never be happy with anyone, including myself! Sometimes it takes a little bit of a push from God to make us see what is always there! I am so glad you have the relationship with your Son that God would want you to have! I think if we continue to pray for our children and raise them in Faith, they will come back to us, even if they slide away! God bless you and your Faith! Have a great day! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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BARBARAROSE54 7/14/2013 1:51PM

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GUDDIGO 7/14/2013 1:40PM

  Nice

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AJB121299 7/14/2013 1:39PM

    Nice

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KARENKANDO 7/14/2013 12:56PM

    What a beautiful tribute to your son. Though times were difficult, you were an awesome mom. . . and still are. I can tell all of that from what little you wrote. I'm sure your son loves you madly - even if he doesn't always show it. Oh, and congrats on doing the shred even though you didn't much feel like it. emoticon

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GINA180847 7/14/2013 12:31PM

    I sure wish I could have a happy ending like that for my second son. The older boy will always love his mom no matter what we have gone through but the second boy has cut all ties and only associates with my evil sister's family.

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RENATA144 7/14/2013 12:00PM

  Bravo to you on your awesome weight loss journey !!! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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RENATA144 7/14/2013 11:57AM

  Happy birthday Blessings to your handsome son !!!
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CMCGRUN 7/14/2013 11:38AM

    Very special post. So glad that it all worked out through your patience and love!

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JANESLOSS 7/14/2013 10:47AM

    Pixie,
What a wonderful blog and a sweet birthday wish for your son. You are very blessed and I'm happy that your relationship with him is a happy one today.

Hugs to you and your son!

Jane

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ELMA1913 7/14/2013 9:26AM

    I think you were put to a test and passed with flying colors! You were wise enough to give your son "space" when he needed it and yet kept him close to your hear and prayed for him. Happy belated birthday to him, and a Happy Good Mom Day to you! Your blog is an inspiration to others.

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SHERIO5 7/14/2013 8:02AM

    What a lovely tribute to your son, and to your love!

My eldest is 23, I'm 52. She was our rebellious child, graduated high school a semester early so she could go away to college! She has only lived with us briefly since then. She has made some poor choices, and taken the more difficult path, but our relationship is getting better, slowly.

Your blog gives me hope!

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IMEMINE1 7/14/2013 7:27AM

    emoticon to your son. It is better to feel like 30 in your 50s, the to feel like 50 in your 30s. emoticon

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ROXYCARIN 7/14/2013 5:05AM

  My dogs hate thunder too emoticon

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SADIEMAE32 7/14/2013 2:07AM

    Happy birthday to your son!! But at 52, you are still very young emoticon

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JANIEWWJD 7/13/2013 11:45PM

    I am so happy that your relationship with your son is better!!!! HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO HIM!!!!!
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CICELY360 7/13/2013 10:39PM

  good blog

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CAMAEL100 7/13/2013 6:50PM

    So nice, you never gave up on him and you got him back. Just shows we should never give up on family. Happy birthday to your son and though my children are a lot younger, someone once told me that I should have a little celebration for myself on their birthdays as well as their celebration as it was I brought them into this world so I deserved to be celebrated as well!!!!



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BLUENOSE63 7/13/2013 6:09PM

  That was a really nice post Pixie! Happy birthday to your son! I am so glad you have the relationship you have always wanted!

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QTEALADY20031 7/13/2013 6:04PM

    Hi Pixie, emoticon to your son. Things always seem to work out when we put our faith and trust in God. Great you did the 30 Day Shred! emoticon June

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ROCKYCPA 7/13/2013 5:39PM

    emoticon to your son!

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PATRICIAANN46 7/13/2013 5:29PM

  emoticon to your son and emoticon on mending your relationship. Life is so very short and our family so important, that I am glad that you two are back on track.

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SHERYLP461 7/13/2013 5:17PM

    Happy Birthday to your oldest son

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