Advertisement -- Learn more about ads on this site.


    PINKHOPE   110,333
SparkPoints
100,000 or more SparkPoints
 
 
Comparisons should be limited to yourself - Tales from 100# Down

Voted Popular Blog Post: View All Popular Posts

Friday, July 12, 2013

Oh how easy it is to look at another person's progress and compare to ourselves. Sometimes that can work against us! As all of you that read my blogs know I am in my ninth round of BLC (a 12 week team based challenge here on Sparkpeople). Every week the spreadsheets are made available with data across all 22 teams. I find myself looking at people of the "same weight" and seeing what they lost or how they performed in a challenge and it "can" be defeating when I come up short.

Here is the thing. No two people are alike. We have different heights, ages, medical conditions, medications, jobs (some sit at a desk, some are on their feet all day in a restaurant) even how long we have been overweight or obese and differing highest weights. ALL of those things affect our "journey".

Having said that where DO we look for comparisons? We look to ourselves! Here are questions you can consider:

1) Where is your weight compared to your highest weight?

2) What is your current "rate" of loss per week (use a % to figure this as the more weight we lose the smaller the poundage of those losses will be). Just divide your weight loss for the CURRENT week by LAST week's weigh in to find this figure.

3) Are you increasing your speed on the treadmill? Are you walking/running further? Are you using heavier weights to do your strength training? Are you increasing the incline on the treadmill? Always push to do a little more FOR YOU. Don't worry if the person next to you is going 4mph if 2.2 mph is an improvement for you then you are doing great!

4) How is your diet? Are you eating healthier than you were a month ago? How about a year ago? Are you adding new fruits and vegetables? Are you using healthier recipes? Have you given up something (soda, candy, fried foods)? Measure your progress against yourself. Yes your friend may be eating tofu and watercress but if you have progressed to eliminating that afternoon candy bar at the check-out lane and the drive-through fries you are making progress for YOU.

5) How about your fitness variety? Are you exploring new ways to be active? Have you tried a DVD? If you have Comcast Cable have you looked at the free videos in the ON DEMAND area? If you only use the treadmill have you tried walking outdoors? What about hiking? Have you moved out of the shallow end of the pool where you walk to swimming a lap or two? Look at how you can step out of your comfort zone and branch out!

6) Tracking - Have you moved from tracking a meal to tracking everything for a day? How about for a week? Tracking is one of those tools that will help you a LOT on this journey.

7) Water - While your co-worker may be downing 140 ounces a day if you have never been a water drinker 40 ounces a day may be an improvement for YOU. Try to increase that to 44 tomorrow.

There is a beautiful young woman on my team that has lost a lot of weight in about a year. It's taken me almost three years to get from 350+ (I don't know what the plus is as my scales would not go higher) to 232.6 and I'm STILL bigger than many people that are STARTING their journey. If I look at it like that I feel defeated but if I compare ONLY TO MYSELF I have come a LONG way --- OVER 100 pounds.

Several young women on my team run half marathons. That's amazing. I am going to WALK my first 5K in 2 weeks. I have to compare ONLY to myself who once was in a wheeled chair and could only walk around the kitchen island holding on for exercise.

I still do not like lots of the healthy food many of my friends are eating. I don't care for most baked fish. I don't like eggplant. I have tried and can't stand greek yogurt BUT I'm not a failure. I have moved from eating the Steak 'n Shake Combo meal (chili, shake, double cheeseburger and fries - almost 2000 calories) to the Spicy Thai Chicken Salad at Panera Bread on the Pick Two for 240 calories with the chicken noodle soup for 80 calories - skip the bread). What a difference.

So look at your OWN journey. Are you making progress? Can you take it a step further?

While we are all heading to that SAME destination "Health & Fitness" we are coming from a variety of starting points and we are in different vehicles (bodies) on many different roads.

If you want to compare - look in the mirror.

We CAN do this!

Press On!
SHARE
  Member Comments About This Blog Post:

CATNCAG 11/15/2013 6:31PM

    That was intense & I loved it! What great advice because I feel like I'm not losing fast enough or the scale hasn't moved for a while but compared to my old self I have come such a long way baby - like U! Yeah us!!!

I quite smoking & haven't gained a substantial amount of weight!!! When I quite before I gained a bunch!!!

emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

Report Inappropriate Comment
GRAMPIAN 8/28/2013 3:56PM

  Wise words. emoticon

Report Inappropriate Comment
GRACEISENUF 8/3/2013 4:03PM

    emoticon emoticon

Report Inappropriate Comment
MRSDAVIS09 7/27/2013 11:18AM

    Never were truer words spoken!

Report Inappropriate Comment
ALIDOSHA 7/24/2013 5:24PM

    emoticon emoticon

Report Inappropriate Comment
CHUBBYFENCER 7/22/2013 9:57PM

    Thank you for the blog! I haven't lost weight quickly, but I'm not losing it slowly, either. I find myself SO TEMPTED to judge my weight loss by how quickly I'm doing it in comparison to others. Ultimately, your post holds true wisdom: this path is mine to walk and the only changes I need to put value on are the ones I've already made for myself!

Report Inappropriate Comment
ROSINVN 7/20/2013 11:37AM

    thanks for the reminder, I have been getting so frustrated with myself as this journey has been so slow and I have even been stalled for a couple of months and it seems so unfair when others seem to drop weight effortlessly. But this is my journey and obviously my body reacts differently to others so thanks for reminding me of that

Comment edited on: 7/20/2013 11:37:40 AM

Report Inappropriate Comment
CINDYBEL 7/19/2013 11:47AM

    Excellent points. Thank you for reminding us that this isn't a competition. If it is, then we are doing this for the wrong reason and failure is a likely result. emoticon

Report Inappropriate Comment
KHALIA2 7/18/2013 11:33PM

  SO TRUE!

Report Inappropriate Comment
ALIUSIA 7/18/2013 11:31PM

    Thanks so much, I completely agree. I've just started my journey this month on this site and reading so many posts and blogs can be a little overwhelming, heck just getting my profile setup and tracking was allot. But you are right, you have to look at your own progress and achievements and celebrate them. And above all else love yourself. Keep moving forward, stay positive, and remember everyday is a brand new day to "rise & shine"!

emoticon

Report Inappropriate Comment
EACHMOMENT2 7/16/2013 2:19PM

  We can encourage each other, but you're right, we can't compare to each other. Thank you for this blog, it really hit home. I sometimes get discouraged, but when I appreciate my own journey it sure helps.

Report Inappropriate Comment
LEANMEAN2 7/16/2013 7:45AM

    Good one. Thank you.

Report Inappropriate Comment
SHARONCAPPS 7/15/2013 6:39PM

  What a wonderful blog. Thank you for the pep talk. It really means a lot.

Report Inappropriate Comment
AUNTCAT 7/15/2013 4:08PM

    I love this blog. Thanks for sharing. I watched my mom struggle with her weight all her life. I used to eat a lot more for emotional reasons than I do now ~ but I still struggle. But I am making more healthy choices than I used to.

I finally found a gym that has lots of treadmills and a no criticism policy. All shapes and sizes come to work out.

Losing over 100 pounds is definitely an accomplishment. AWESOME!

When I get caught up in comparing myself to other, I try to remember what Joni Erickson Tada said in her first book "Joni" about how we compare our own worst qualities to another's best qualities. No win situations like that are NOT a good place to be.

Keep up the great work! emoticon

Comment edited on: 7/15/2013 4:10:19 PM

Report Inappropriate Comment
LOUTOKALAU 7/15/2013 3:47PM

  Loved this. Too often we compare ourselves to unattainable ideals when we should really be focusing on our own personal journey. Thank you!

Report Inappropriate Comment
PRINCESSAA12 7/15/2013 2:02PM

    Thank you for posting this today. It was exactly what I needed. Thank you again. :)

Report Inappropriate Comment
MANDYLOVE_76 7/15/2013 1:25PM

    Great blog.

Report Inappropriate Comment
JACKAL05 7/15/2013 12:59PM

  thank you I needed that ! I started a few months ago but lost my motivation and now am trying (kicking and screaming) again ! I have MS so have difficulty walking very far-was taken off work 1 year ago by my neurologist so have become VERY sedentary!but I'm going to try and read these encouraging blogs daily to regain my motivation !
thank you!

Report Inappropriate Comment
NAYKNITS 7/15/2013 12:24PM

    I love how SP knows exactly what I need to read for a pick me up and your blog was meant for me today! Thank you so much for the reminder to compare milestones on my journey and mine alone. emoticon

Report Inappropriate Comment
LUVTOBOWL 7/15/2013 10:19AM

    Fantastic blog! That was something I needed to read today. Makes a lot of good sense.

emoticon emoticon

Report Inappropriate Comment
ICEANGEL0531 7/15/2013 9:03AM

    Thanks

Report Inappropriate Comment
DANCEMOM1970 7/15/2013 12:51AM

    Fantastic blog! Thanks for sharing an important message, particularly for those of us who have a long way to go. It's important to remind ourselves how far we've come at all stages of this journey. Congratulations on your success!

Report Inappropriate Comment
GOOSIEMOON 7/14/2013 10:27PM

    emoticon

Report Inappropriate Comment
LKS2GAB2 7/14/2013 10:15PM

    Great blog emoticon

Report Inappropriate Comment
SBARGANZ 7/14/2013 9:47PM

    Thanks for the reminder!

Report Inappropriate Comment
WHYTEBROWN 7/14/2013 9:05PM

    This was an emoticon blog. Not only was it really true but it was also really well written. emoticon

Report Inappropriate Comment
KAB7801 7/14/2013 9:02PM

    emoticon

Report Inappropriate Comment
STHOMAS1009 7/14/2013 8:56PM

    Another great blog. You are absolutely right!

Love you! emoticon and emoticon

Report Inappropriate Comment
CUDDLYPOLARBEAR 7/14/2013 6:12PM

    Great post

Report Inappropriate Comment
SARLIA 7/14/2013 3:03PM

    So very true. Sometimes we have to be reminded of these things. Thanks for doing that!

Report Inappropriate Comment
NEWTINK 7/14/2013 2:58PM

    Now this is a very needed blog emoticon I measure my success only by myself ... I know what my past defeats were and now i know how much of a success I really am . Thank you for putting this out there in just the perfect words !!!!

Report Inappropriate Comment
2TIGRE 7/14/2013 2:02PM

    OMG!!! What a great post!!! I LOVE IT!!! It's so true too that we are all on our own journey. Granted, there are things that we learn along the way that we can share with others and hopefully it will help others on their own journey too! However, just because something worked for some people does not mean it will work for everyone. We all have our own lessons to learn and we will learn them in our own time our own way.

I've lost 62lbs in the past 17mon. So what if it's taken me a long time to lose the weight. The way I see it is it took me 10+yrs to put the weight on, the fact that I took it off in 17mon is pretty darn great!!!

Keep up the good work! You're an inspiration!

Comment edited on: 7/14/2013 2:03:24 PM

Report Inappropriate Comment
TERRIH8118 7/14/2013 12:58PM

    emoticon emoticon Thanks for this. It's so easy to compare what I've done to other people. Sometimes it makes me feel like I'm not doing something right or I should do more. Great Advice

Report Inappropriate Comment
MOMMA2SKI 7/14/2013 12:10PM

    emoticon

Report Inappropriate Comment
GOODLANDGAL3 7/14/2013 12:04PM

  Nice blog! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

Report Inappropriate Comment
RUNNINGYOGINIRE 7/14/2013 12:03PM

  Well put! Comparing yourself to others is not productive. Good for you on your success! Keep it up!

Report Inappropriate Comment
SMAILEH 7/14/2013 11:40AM

  Thank you. Good advice, if not always easy to remember.

Report Inappropriate Comment
RAKRHYME 7/14/2013 11:01AM

    i absolutely agree

Report Inappropriate Comment
TDEMAIO2 7/14/2013 9:46AM

    emoticon emoticon

Report Inappropriate Comment
GSDMOMMA 7/14/2013 9:13AM

    Thanks for reminding me of what's important. This is a journey not a race; as a fellow BLC'r I sometimes forget that and get down on myself when my "numbers" are less than what I think I need to have to help the team.

Report Inappropriate Comment
JANEMARIE77 7/14/2013 9:06AM

    you got it and congrats you are doing wonderful

Report Inappropriate Comment
PAMLICO-DAZE 7/14/2013 7:54AM

    Great blog! Thank you! emoticon

Report Inappropriate Comment
ROXYCARIN 7/14/2013 5:06AM

  emoticon

Report Inappropriate Comment
POETANDMORE 7/14/2013 1:53AM

    I learned a lesson today from your blog. I constantly compare my weight to others.
I am determined not to do this!

Report Inappropriate Comment
STONEYHILLMOM 7/14/2013 1:14AM

    Wow...well said! Perspective is everything and we don't need to be comparing ourselves to ANYBODY else. Onward!!

Report Inappropriate Comment
JIBBIE49 7/14/2013 12:33AM

    emoticon Glad to see your blog featured in the Spark Mail.

Report Inappropriate Comment
BLUEJEAN99 7/14/2013 12:20AM

    emoticon

Report Inappropriate Comment
SUGAR0814 7/14/2013 12:04AM

    emoticon So true! Thank you for sharing! emoticon

Report Inappropriate Comment
GWINNER1 7/13/2013 11:52PM

    Awesome blog! emoticon emoticon

Report Inappropriate Comment
MARYJEANSL 7/13/2013 11:49PM

  Well said!

Report Inappropriate Comment

Add Your Comment to the Blog Post


Log in to post a comment.
Member Comments Page (228 total):  1 2 3 Next > Last >>