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Thursday, July 11, 2013

I am so hurt by the way my best friend has changed the past few months. She has gotten herself into a life of sin that is unacceptable to me and to God. I cannot judge her because I too am a sinner but I am a sinner saved by grace and she is suppose to be. She no longer comes to church regularly. She no longer has time for me and I am sure it is because she knows I do not approve of her lifestyle. We have always helped each other if we needed money and it has never been a problem before because I was usually the one borrowing from her but I ALWAYS paid her back. I went to a check cashing place a couple of months ago to get money for her and she has been giving the money each month to rewrite it because she can't afford to pay it in full yet. I am still waiting on her to pay me the fee for this month. I went yesterday and rewrote the check because she did not have the decency to make time to meet me to bring me the money. She was suppose to bring me the money last night on her way to work and she never showed up. I have text her twice today and she still has not shown up and I am really getting mad because I told her I needed that money to help buy groceries. She has time for her other friend but she can't find 15 min to run by my house to pay me. I have learned my lesson. When she pays this one off I will not do this for her again because she can no longer be trusted like she once could.
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    I understand that you feel disappointed by your friend. But she may have her reasons for doing what she does or maybe she is in trouble. I too would probably not lend money again but maybe you can see / ask if there's something you can do for her.

    1713 days ago

    Comment edited on: 7/12/2013 6:16:21 AM
  • ONUTHIN125
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    1713 days ago
    I am suspecting that she is feeling horrible about this, but has gotten herself into a "fine fix" and can't see any way out.

    Pray for her, but definitely don't loan her any more money. And as for what she has already borrowed, just figure you won't get that back.
    1713 days ago
    "Neither a borrower nor a lender be;
    For loan oft loses both itself and friend,"
    That saying was taken from a soliloquy by Polonius in Act I, Scene 3 of William Shakespeare's Hamlet. Polonius is giving advice to his son Laertes before Laertes heads back to school.
    And the scriptures say in Proverbs 22:7 The rich rules over the poor, and the borrower is the slave of the lender.
    And Luke 6:34-38 and other scriptures teach that if I lend money, I should do so without the expectation of getting it back.

    It is very hard to lose a friend in this way. If you had done something dishonorable you might understand, but you did your friend a favor. Be sure for your own sake (and to be obedient to God's instructions) to forgive your friend as she may need your help if not financial support in the future. God bless. emoticon
    1713 days ago
  • 68ANNE
    That is so hard for you
    1713 days ago
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