Thursday, July 11, 2013
Yes, I am. I'm writing this because some of my wonderful Spark friends have asked... can I help? This is not at all health related... or I guess maybe it is because it is causing me a great deal of stress. All I want is for my daughter to be able to go to college, have what used to be called the "great college experience, get a college degree and be happy and able to provide for herself.
As it happens there are a lot of obstacles in our way. Many of you know that the college is not providing her with any housing. Embarassingly so, I am at a loss when it comes to knowing how to handle this as far as looking for an apartment in a major city especially when I am here and the housing is (or isn't there). I have unfortunately always been dependent on other people to figure those types of things our for me. I lived with my parents until I got married and since then my husband has always manged the "business" end of our lives. I never had to rent an apartment, never had to deal with brokerage fees, guarantors, first and last month rent payments, rental agreements,etc, etc, everything that is involved and everything that I am so unfamiliar with. Why doesn't your husband mange all this you are probably asking. Well that's another long story, but he is part of the problem that is making this so difficult. He doesn't really approve of her going away, he doesn't approve of the places we find for her to live (too far away from campus, too dangerous, too expensive) I am weary and I am scared and I am so unsure of myself and what I am doing. I am trying to do what is best for her and at the same time am not at all sure of what I am doing (good or otherwise) It is getting close to that time when I am going to start to panic that she won't be able to go because I can't get my act together and figure it out. So yes, I am floundering and hope to not be soon sinking. Any kind words of advice would be more than welcome.