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Sparkers Support: The Hidden Gem of Spark People

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Thursday, July 11, 2013

Lord knows there are enough resources here. You could spend a week drinking in all the wisdom and still not even scratch the surface of a most amazing resource. But, then, there is the hidden resource - You.

If you open yourself up to it, the love, the support, the encouragement and the occasional finger wagging, mean as much as all the collected wisdom of this web site.

A week or so ago I asked for support and accountability. That is a difficult thing for me to do. I'm a people pleaser and a control freak. It was uncomfortable for me to admit I needed each of you. I'm the type of person who can do this on their own --- Yeah right.

It's hard being vulnerable. You open yourself up and people see you warts and all but the other day at the gym I saw a man with a medallion around his neck. There were four words on it - "No Mud, no Lotus." I asked him what it meant and he fired back by asking me what I thought it meant. I laughed and said "No pain, no gain." He grinned and replied "Exactly."

There is real and genuine pain in growth. No matter how much we sugar coat it dealing with our current reality can to use a technical term, Suck!

We've been conditioned to believe that we are supposed to begin and end each day with our arms around each other chanting "We Are The World." This is hard work, its slow work and its often frustrating work but then there is you - Jumping up and down, yelling, cheering and encouraging, sending Spark Goodies and making those extra five repetitions on the free weights worth it. The extra lap in the pool becomes easier and sprinting away from french fries get slightly easier because I know you have my back.

Yeah, its my journey and yeah they are my choices. They become so much easier to make because of the hidden jewel Spark People holds - You

Thanks to each of you for supporting me.

I wont let me down

Yeah, you read that correctly
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LORIVIOLA 3/7/2014 8:07AM

    this is great.
thank you for sharing.

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CATNCAG 10/23/2013 3:14PM

    emoticon blog John! Keep up the good work!
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SMARTPOET06 9/21/2013 9:56PM

    Very well said and so true for me also....thanks for sharing and for spreading your motivation around!

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STONE815 9/20/2013 3:32PM

    Great Blog and just what I needed to hear today. emoticon

I won't let me done either.

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REALLYRETIRED 9/20/2013 9:52AM

    Thanks for your words of motivational wisdom.
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DARSHAN130 9/18/2013 9:36AM

    Awesome! Well said.

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-SHOREIDO- 9/17/2013 2:53PM

    emoticon Great motivation read!! Hugs for that : )

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LEEW0LF 9/17/2013 9:49AM

  I totally agree.

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    I loved your blog. Thanks for sharing. emoticon

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JOYM51 9/15/2013 5:51PM

  Enjoyed your blog so much! I have always had a hard time asking for help too. Always tried to muddle through on my own. Keep up the good work. emoticon emoticon

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THECELSA 9/15/2013 4:23PM

    It's amazing how much a note from someone we haven't met in person can influence our day. I'm so glad to be a member of a community that has always been supportive of my goals and goes through the same struggles that I've gone through. Awesome job!

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DASHONDA11 9/15/2013 11:03AM

  You just don't know how motivating your post has been for me today. Thank you!

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WHITEANGEL4 9/15/2013 1:22AM

    Way to go

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KYOUNGS71 9/15/2013 12:23AM

    Congrats on reaching out - it's not easy, but so rewarding. I don't know about you, but people often surprise me with their generosity. Keep up the great work!

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NASFKAB 9/14/2013 10:52AM

  said beautifully

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SJKENT1 9/14/2013 8:46AM

    I love being a hidden jewel. But sometimes I am so dazzling that being hidden is tough emoticon

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SMARTCOOKIE2007 9/14/2013 7:26AM

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LESCANTOONOW 9/14/2013 6:59AM

  Hi! JohnTJ1,

WOW! WHAT A BLOG! I AM VERY PROUD OF YOU FOR OPENING UP LIKE THAT.
I TOO HAVE HAD A LOT OF THINGS TO OVERCOME. For ONE I Have OCD, And I'm Very Shy At Times. But I've Come Out A Lot Since I Started Volunteering At A Senior Home, And Health And Aging Center, Called RIVER GARDEN! I REALLY LOVE WORKING WITH AND HELPING THE ELDERLY, BECAUSE THEY DON'T JUDGE YOU. THEY'VE BEEN THERE AND DONE THAT!
I JOINED SPARKPEOPLE ABOUT 3 YEARS AGO. I DON'T REALLY NEED TO LOSE ANYMORE WEIGHT, JUST TRYING TO MAINTAIN IT. IT ISN'T EASY, AS YOU ALREADY KNOW!
THE MAIN THING I LIKE DOING ON SPARKPEOPLE IS ENCOURAGING OTHERS, AND MAKING THEM FEEL GOOD ABOUT THEMSELVES!
SO JUST KEEP UP THE WONDERFUL WORK YOU ARE DOING, AND I KNOW YOU'LL REACH ALL YOUR WEIGHTLOSE GOALS!


ALL THE BEST TO YOU,
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YBBHAPPY 9/14/2013 6:15AM

    Great blog! emoticon

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MAYBER 9/14/2013 12:30AM

    You are your own best support friend with a good attitude, dedication and determination
Thank you for sharing your thoughts
one day at a time prayers peace love
Bernice
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FITITGIRL 9/14/2013 12:19AM

    Thank you!

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ELEANOR11952 9/13/2013 9:29PM

  Thank you for sharing your information that mimics my information. Sometimes I feel vulnerable when sharing information, but I have come to realize that it ok. We all are sharing and realizing that the information is safe. Besides sharing the information helps us overcome problems or concerns in a healthy manner.

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LYNDY2828 9/13/2013 3:59PM

  John TJ,

A people pleaser AND a control freak. Are you sure you aren't my unknown brother? I too have the same characteristics and drive myself and those I care about bonkers from time to time, but essentially I drive myself crazy.

This journey we're on, shedding pounds and habits that defeat us, is particularly hard for those of us with this double whammy. How can I please everyone and yet demand perfection both in myself and in them?

I''m chuckling as I write this because of the deeper truth. My mom years ago used to say I was my own worst enemy. Now, through this delightful website, I'm learning to become my own best friend.

Good Luck John. You are not alone, none of us are alone. Not any more.

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BLNBIKERIN1 9/13/2013 3:28PM

  thank you for sharing a well summed up fact. It ppli to so much more in life than just weight management!
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KARENLEIGH32 9/13/2013 1:32PM

    What goes around...we at SP support our friends and our friends support us!

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MLDRLD 9/13/2013 1:29PM

    emoticon blog! You are so right that the decisions and choices are ours and that one of the wonderful resources of SparkPeople are its members offering each other support, encouragement, and wisdom.

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JENNJOHNSON2001 9/13/2013 12:34PM

  We all need a little reminder now and then ... thanks for giving one to me!

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FAIRHAVENQUEEN 9/13/2013 11:48AM

    It really is amazing how encouragement from people we don't even know face-to-face can help keep us on track. Great blog, and keep up the good work.

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ANNE1216 9/13/2013 5:22AM

  Good blog. Thanks for pointing out to me something that I was even doing as a control freak myself. Exactly what I needed .

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LIVELYGIRL2 9/13/2013 1:09AM

  it's good you asked" us" for imput.

Also it's is good to receive an update that your still out there. Keep it up, John. emoticon

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    What an emoticon blog. Thank you for your words. Have a wonderful day and remember emoticon

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JIBBIE49 9/13/2013 12:33AM

    Week of 09/12/2013 - Featured Blog Post

Support: The Hidden Gem of SparkPeople



WHAT AN HONOR TO BE FEATURED IN THE SPARK MAIL.

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_CYNDY55_ 9/12/2013 11:54PM

    Very Well Said!!
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GRANDMAFRANNY 9/12/2013 11:54PM

    emoticon JOHNTJ1 !! TAKE THIS FROM A 73 YR. OLD LADY. REALLY. MY SAYING IS "IF YOU WANT SOMEHING BAD ENOUGH emoticon .YOU MUST DO IT. THIS IS YOUR LIFE, YOUR BODY, THE LORD'S TREASURE. HE GAVE IT TO US NOW WE HAVE TO TAKE CARE OF IT. I WANT TO LIVE A GOOD & HEALTHY LIFE" AND I THINK YOU DO, TOO.
WE ARE HERE TO HELP YOU GET THROUGH THIS .
emoticon GOD LOVES YOU & WE DO, TOO. GOD BLESS YOU & emoticon IT. HAVE A BLESSED LIFE. YOU'RE WELCOME TO POST ME ANYTIME.

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