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The loss of my KOPS status

Thursday, July 11, 2013

I have been a member of TOPS (Take Off Pounds Sensibly) now for 13 1/2 years, most of that I have been a KOPS (Keep Off Pounds Sensibly) and this year would have been my 10th consecutive year. In TOPS, once you reach your goal, you have what is called a leeway, which is 7 pounds below goal and 3 pounds above. Tuesday morning I weighed in on my scale and was 146.8, my goal weight is 145, so I was sure that I was back in leeway, even though I knew that the TOPS scale weighs me about a pound heavier, I still should have been safe. WRONG! When I stepped on the scale Tuesday evening it kept teetering between 148 and 148.25. The weight recorder wrote down the higher weight and I said no, I can't be, I'll lose KOPS. So she changed it to the lower weight. Well one of the other officers heard this but didn't say anything right away. She used to be a KOPS too and lost her status a while ago. She told another officer, who in turn told our leader, who then came to me and asked me to re-weigh. I should have said no because I'd already eaten a snack and changed clothes but I obliged and weighed again, out of leeway.

Now you can probably imagine how upset and mad I was but it doesn't stop there. After roll call, another member spoke up and said that she didn't think it was right for me to have had to weigh in again and lose my status over a quarter pound. Several other members agreed. That's when this vindictive person said, and I quote "I was a KOPS for 8 years and I lost my status, whoopee. What's it matter". I lost it!! I grabbed my things and started to walk out but turned around crying and said "you know, I have given a lot of years to this chapter. I've been an officer for many years and it DOES matter!! I'M DONE" And with that I walked out.

I cried all the way home, I cried on my husband's shoulder, I cried myself to sleep, what little sleep I got, and when I woke up, I cried some more. I was still crying some yesterday at work and it was hard to keep the tears back when I ran into our leader at Subway. We had a long talk. No one wants me to quit, except the person that said those hurtful and hateful words. I still don't know what I'm going to do but I may not go back for a week or two if I do decide to go back. I love TOPS and I love my chapter except this one person that thinks the world revolves around her.

Okay enough. Thanks for listening to my rant.

Member Comments About This Blog Post:
CATHYRNE1 10/9/2015 12:31AM

  I have been in TOPS for over 10 years, 8 of those years as an executive member and the last three as a KOPS. Our group just started using decimals which I was against since it can make or break a KOPS. I weighed in thinking I was safe and I was over my leeway by .2. Right after I had to rush out for a family emergency in another town. A week later having to deal with incredible stress over my parent being hospitalized I talked to one of the assistant weight recorders about my worry of losing my status she said not to worry. A few days later I received an email from the head weight recorder that she was sorry about my situation and how tough it must be coping with my family being ill. Then the tone changed saying that it was up to me to find a TOPS group to weigh in if I want to keep my status. I was so stressed with my family situation this made it even worst. However, I guess luck was on my side and I found a group just a day away from losing my status. This small town TOPS group was shocked that my group would allow me to lose my status over such a small amount. (They think adding decimals is too picky and if they did have a digital scale they would take the lowest whole number). They thought my group was just mean spirited and lacked compassion. They weighed me and thank goodness I was at goal. They were so understanding and kind and they didn't even know anything about me. I am still hurt that members of my group were so unfeeling and ready to throw me under the bus for such a very small amount as well as knowing the stress I was going through at the time. This saddens me more then if I had lost my KOPS. My advice find a REAL supportive group and if you stay in your old group never ever weigh in unless you are 100% sure that you will be within your leeway or better. Remember as a KOPS you only have to weigh in 15 times per year. So make them good ones!!!!

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SHARONCOATES 11/30/2013 3:23PM

    I just came across this. I am a member to tops and I am not a Kop yet.. but, I do know this rule. If you are a KOPS and you weigh in over leeway, you have two weeks to take the weight off before you lose your KOPS status. So, there is something wrong with this picture.. Did your club not know this rule??

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MAYBER 7/18/2013 1:20AM

    Sounds like your chapter officers need a lesson in compassion and caring
One day at a time

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DIDMIS 7/12/2013 1:35AM

    I have had weight recorders who were kind and realized my swelling could cause the gain. When it is a tiny bit everyone should pull for you. emoticon

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WATOGA17 7/11/2013 10:49AM


I'm sorry to hear that you were hurt. People can be very unthinking and uncaring in what they say. Hang in there. You are loved.


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PURPLESPEDCOW 7/11/2013 7:53AM

    Do NOT let one person do this to you. You know what to do to get back in leeway so go earn that KOPS back! You can do this. The rest of the chapter is there for you. Go, take a week off if you must, but prove yourself stronger than the meany. She is a quitter and you aren't! emoticon emoticon

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DBELLE39 7/11/2013 7:51AM

    Donna --don't let this hurtful person keep you away from what you obviously get some much support & enjoyment from. Seems to me she is just jealous of the success you've had for the past 10 years.

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SPARKCHANTAL 7/11/2013 7:08AM

    i'd rather be tops than kops, if you ask me...

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GLUECIPHER 7/11/2013 7:02AM


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