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On Reading an Obituary

Wednesday, July 10, 2013

Yesterday I read an obituary of a former co-worker who passed away a couple of days ago. As I was reading, it struck me that Judy had been preceded in death by both parents and all six of her siblings. How sad that she had to endure the passing of all her siblings.

I'm the oldest of nine. I lost one brother (and his wife) in an auto accident 13 years ago. And I have a sister under hospice care right now, in the final stages of brain cancer. And I lost both my husband and my mother in 2011, exactly six months apart, as well as six other family members in a short period of time. In addition, my cousin who is my closest friend, has terminal kidney cancer. I've struggled to keep my sanity! I can't imagine losing ALL my siblings to death.

I was reminded today of my thoughts after the death of my grandma in 1965, when I was 15 years old. It was the first family death that I had endured, and the loss was so painful. I recall praying that God would take me before any of the rest of my family so I wouldn't have to go through that pain again. Well, obviously, he didn't. I'm guessing that He has more for me to do before I leave this earth.

I've heard some of the old timers talk about how lonely it is at their advanced age. Having lost most or all of their friends to death, as well as most or all of their siblings, I'm sure it was very lonely. I'm thankful to still have lots of siblings alive, and I shall make it a point to stay in touch with them more regularly.

My goal, though, is to get healthy so that I can live a long and active life! SparkPeople is certainly a great tool to use for that goal. And I'm blessed to have so many friends, far and near, that support me in my journey.
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    This has recently happened to my mom. her last blood sibling passed away and her closest childhood friend just passed away two weeks ago. What do you do when all the people you've grown up with are gone?

    We pray for her, are there for her and encouraged her to get out and mingle, meet older people in the mall and church that she does not know. There are other people in her position and its nice if she can meet some of them and forge some new friendships.

    Prayer are sent up for all in that position, and praying God places someone there in their life for comfort along with Him.

    1565 days ago
    our life on earth is temporary, but we were never meant to live it alone. Stay strong and live well. leave a legacy for those you leave behind to carry on and rejoice in knowing that HEAVEN WILL BE BETTER!! emoticon
    1566 days ago
    JoAnn, It is so hard saying goodbye to those we love as each leaves a hole in our heart. If we are open to love we are also open to pain. It seems that you have had more than your fair share of losses recently. emoticon emoticon emoticon

    Will continue to lift you in prayer. So glad you are motivated to be healthier. emoticon emoticon
    1566 days ago
    I've often wondered if my dad is lonely. He is the only one left of his eight siblings.
    1566 days ago
  • LEANIE64
    Gosh, to consider life with out family and friends..well..it indeed would be very lonely. One blessing is..we will get to be with them again..I am convinced of that ..We just have to be patient and live our lives as healthy mentally and physically as we can. I am not there yet..but working on it..
    I know the Lord will not give us more than we can bear..I hope you find peace in your life..
    1566 days ago
    It is really hard to lose so many loved ones. (HUGS) count me in that support group
    1566 days ago
  • JO88BAKO
    I think the loss of family and friends is one of the hardest things to go thru. I'm with you. Getting healthy has a lot of benefits!
    1566 days ago
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