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Wednesday, July 10, 2013

07/05/2013
On a special day in 1990 I gained the most wonderful step-mom. She was beautiful and compassionate toward everyone. I don't know how many people and animals she 'saved' through out the years. Every cat she ever had was a cast-off, injured or handicapped, it didn't matter. She wouldn't even let a cat get a mouse if she could help it. Her chicken was also 'special' and she wouldn't allow anyone to 'hunt' the geese that sullied the area around the pond even though it would have make them all go away.
It didn't matter what time of day, she always was there for anyone. Food or drink or just sit at the table and talk, visitors were always welcome and even encouraged. Especially in these last few years and even the last days when she couldn't get out of the house. Yes mom was sick but we weren't expecting her to leave us so soon.

In more recent years I would sit on an old step-stool in the kitchen right under her chair and she would stoke my hair as I told her my sorrows and fears and troubles. I was going thru the divorce and leaving the town that I was very involved and active in.
Mom was not very secure or confident. She would ask if her hair was alright, ever time and would ask pop if she was beautiful. She wanted to appear right and pretty to the world. The outside reflected so much of the inner beauty that I don't think anyone could have even dared to disagree or even think of it. I didn't get to see or talk to mom as much as I wanted but I did every chance I could.
I haven't been over to see mom for a bit and feel very guilty about not having stopped in and not said goodbye. Pop told me today at the funeral that I need to live every day like it was my last and that they missed me and thought of me often. Do not to be sad about the missed goodbye because every time I left, I had to say goodbye. I am very comforted by these words.
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LAMOURA 7/17/2013 11:56PM

    emoticon I lost a sister many years ago know how you feel! It does get better.

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MARIAJESTRADA 7/17/2013 8:49AM

    Oh my gosh. My condolences. I will keep you all in my prayers.

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HARMONY_MUM 7/17/2013 7:12AM

    Big hugs to you. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family during these challenging times...

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JEN_ORR 7/16/2013 12:19PM

  Sorry for your loss Anne - take care of yourself.

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THIMBLER 7/15/2013 10:06PM

    I am so sorry for your loss. What a beautiful tribute to your mom. Every day is such a gift and for you to share your gift is amazing. My prayers are with you and your family as you heal. I know your mom is watching over you and still comforts you, even in the difficult time.
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KALISWALKER 7/14/2013 9:41PM

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You were fortunate to have such a compassionate loving mom.

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WOMANWITHGRIT 7/13/2013 10:25PM

    Your love for her comes through so clearly here I am sure she knew you loved her deeply.

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NELLIEH1 7/11/2013 8:38PM

    Anne, You have written a wonderful piece that draws each of us in to get to know your special step mom. Her love shines forth in you. Thanks for including the photo so that we, too, can sit and listen. As you continue in the process of grieving, please know that there are friends praying emoticon for you and sending hugs. emoticon Blessings, nellie

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SONORA4475 7/11/2013 1:07PM

    So sorry for your loss. What a beautifully written tribute, it sounds like she has left a wonderful legacy in you.
Take care,
Kristi

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KATIWONT 7/11/2013 11:30AM

    Anne, your words convey how special she was to you. No doubt your actions did as well. I'm sure that message came through to her loud and clear. Have no regrets, just wonderful memories.

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RWETHAIRYET 7/11/2013 7:24AM

    Anne, sorry for the loss of your mom. I know when my Dad passed, the one comfort I had was that just a couple days before I had taken time to call my folks and had a nice long talk with him. I wonder if he "sensed" something because he was not normally one for long conversations on the phone. I wish I'd known it would be the last, but the fact that I had it...helped.
Thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.


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MARCIEMCGOWAN 7/10/2013 11:39PM

    I am very sorry for your loss. I appreciate the effort it took to write your blog and share your story. Thank you very much. I will have to call my mom asap. I don't talk to her very much. She lives in LasVegas and I live in Omaha, so we don't see each other very much.

God Bless you.

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LIVINGFREE19 7/10/2013 11:32PM

    Sorry to hear about your step mom.

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LIVINGFREE19 7/10/2013 11:31PM

    Sorry to hear about your step mom.

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HONOURIA 7/10/2013 9:54PM

    You've done an extraordinary job of blogging this. It is touching. You have a gift with words.
I am sorry for the loss you must feel. She sounds really special. She must have appreciated your company though.
blessings,
honouria

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TRYINGTOLOSE64 7/10/2013 9:31PM

    I'm so sorry for your loss!!

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UMBILICAL 7/10/2013 9:09PM

  Very Special

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