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It's always hard when someone dies.

Tuesday, July 09, 2013

My husband's aunt died yesterday. Unfortunately we don't have the funds to go visit, but I have yet to go to any of the funerals of the people passing away the last several years.

Now will come the grieving. This was an aunt that he liked. I met her once and made her uncomfortable, I'm not sure why my non-belief in a deity makes someone who believes so deeply so uncomfortable.

I'll have to take care of my husband this week. I think more snuggling will be in order. I'll have to make sure he's eating right still and that he has someplace to cry.

That whole generation has been going, one by one. I fear his mother will be next, within the next 10 years. That will be really hard and I hope to have the money to visit that funeral.

I'll have to look into some comfort food for him, but healthy versions so we're still getting the nutrients that make us feel better.

I'm sure he'll grieve for a couple of weeks. I hope that he comes to a place of peace in the end. I like that I am here for him now, closer than I was when his dad died a dozen years ago.

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Member Comments About This Blog Post:
DESERTJULZ 7/10/2013 10:19AM

    It is always difficult. You have a good focus on how to cope.

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KANOE10 7/10/2013 9:48AM

    I am sorry for your loss. It is hard when you can't go to the ceremony but travel is so expensive. Hugs to you and your husband.

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SAGE86 7/10/2013 8:11AM

    I am sorry for your loss, give some some time and take care of yourself

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COREY195 7/9/2013 10:51PM

    It's not the same without them-at least they can live in our hearts. Really sorry for the loss.

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FRAN0426 7/9/2013 10:29PM

    Sorry for the loss of your husbands aunt. Years ago, we were in the same situation of not having the funds to attend some of the family funerals--It can be harder when that occurs, especially favorites you really liked. The situation of not attending can't be helped when you don't live close to all family members, with the price of gas for driving and need of lodging alll adds up. May your husband find peace with his aunts death remembering the good memories of her in time.

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1MANKNEY 7/9/2013 7:19PM

    Sorry for your loss. You are right, it is always hard when someone dies. My husband's college roommate died on July 4. They were still friends even after all these years. I will be doing what you are doing--providing a little extra comfort. I think that is the right thing to do and to realize that his feelings may be a little tender right now.

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RABBITART 7/9/2013 6:39PM

    I am so sorry for your family's loss my condolences.

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STONECOT 7/9/2013 2:42PM

    I'm sorry that your husband has lost a favourite aunt. I'm the oldest in my family now! It doesn't seem long since I was one of the youngest. I have the opposite problem, as a non believer it really disturbs me to talk to a really committed believer. Most of the UK, even amongst the rare churchgoers, fall into the 'don't know' category. A really strong believer makes me uncomfortable as I feel I have to justify my own non beliefs. Perhaps she felt the same way.

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KELLYFIT123 7/9/2013 2:14PM

    It's so nice that you and your husband have such a great relationship. Your children are very lucky! My best to your husband during this sad time.

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TRUCKERSMRS 7/9/2013 2:09PM

    So sorry to hear of your loss. It's never an easy time and sometimes there can be added feelings of guilt when you can't get to the funeral, however genuine the reasons. Take good care - my thoughts are with you, your husband and family.

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    It really is tough to lose a loved one. My condolences to you and your family.

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MPLSKEN 7/9/2013 1:10PM

    Sorry for your loss.
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CICI510 7/9/2013 12:07PM

    I am so sorry for your loss {{hugs}}

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TRUCKERWIFE2 7/9/2013 11:36AM

    I'm so sorry for you and your husband's loss. I'm also sorry that his aunt had a hard time with you and what you do or don't believe. Some people just can't get past that. You are a lovely person and your family is lucky to have you in their lives. We also live far from family and finances make it difficult for us to travel out of state for funerals so I can relate. Hugs to you and your family as you go through this difficult time. emoticon

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KERRIELYNN719 7/9/2013 11:24AM

    I'm so sorry for your family's loss....

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CAROL494 7/9/2013 11:22AM

  emoticon Take care.

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AKATHLEEN54 7/9/2013 11:19AM

    Blessings to your husband and family at your time of loss. I know you will be able to give him the comfort he needs. emoticon

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PATTYR81 7/9/2013 11:18AM

    Your post is really hitting close to home for me and is VERY thought provoking!

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CLESHER 7/9/2013 11:18AM

    Sorry for your thoughts and prayers go out to you and your husband....


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RUNNING-TURTLE 7/9/2013 11:12AM

    Sorry to hear about the loss. It's always hardest when you don't have the funds to go. *HUGS*

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