Making Friends with Yourself
Tuesday, July 09, 2013
Rick making friends with himself in Casablanca
I “like” George Takei on Facebook. I love his posts, most are funny, and some are serious and there is a nice balance between the two. They are always sensitive to the feelings of others.
He provided a link to this short clip of an interview with Dustin Hoffman about his role in Tootsie. Mr. Hoffman has a real revelation that he talks about in the clip. His revelation centers on the fact that when he got dressed to look like a woman, he was not attractive. This was a real “aha” moment for him.
Link to Dustin Hoffman:
This raised a question for me this morning. If I met myself, would I want to be friends with me? I think now the answer is yes, although it wasn’t always so. And part of that was based on my appearance. The key for me has been to let go of the tiresome judging that was going on in my head. Since I have released the need to judge others (look at that! Why so many tattoos? I hate when people pierce their fill in the blank. He’s talking to himself. She’s so self-serving. On and on, ad infinitum), I’ve found that I have also dropped the habit of looking at myself with a hypercritical eye. I know that I do not fit the mold of what a woman “should” look like, I’m sure many people do not find me “attractive.” I feel so good; I find it hard to despair about my appearance. I just can’t do it anymore.
To answer my own question, behind me is a period where I did not treat myself like a friend. I’ve let that go, it doesn’t serve me. I embrace my healthy habits and I know that (to quote Rick in Casablanca) “this is the beginning of a beautiful friendship.”
Link to Casablanca clip: