Monday, July 08, 2013
I think I gave the wrong impression; in no way was or am I responsible for all the work. For example, our children by the age of nine were doing the after dinner clean up chores and by 12 were doing all their own laundry. The family shared in all the chores and during the time I was finishing my bachelors degree we would all spend the first two hours of our weekend cleaning so we could spend the rest of the time playing. Our children were in elementary school when I was in college. By the time I was in graduate school the kids were pretty much out on their own, in college themselves but by that point my husband did things like vacuuming to allow me to spend time on studying. Now he still does the vacuuming, does much of the heavy work in the garden,etc and I find myself often with not enough to do to keep busy.
When I said my "job" was to make the home comfortable, I meant I was the one to make decisions about what needed to be done, rearrange rooms to make them more comfortable, keep the home going smoothly. I too wouldn't think it was fair for a woman to hold down a full time job and still have another full time job keeping house. However, somebody has to take a leadership role in keeping that household running smoothly and that appears to be my role. I hope this helps to clear things up a bit