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Addendum to previous blog about the woman's role!

Monday, July 08, 2013

I think I gave the wrong impression; in no way was or am I responsible for all the work. For example, our children by the age of nine were doing the after dinner clean up chores and by 12 were doing all their own laundry. The family shared in all the chores and during the time I was finishing my bachelors degree we would all spend the first two hours of our weekend cleaning so we could spend the rest of the time playing. Our children were in elementary school when I was in college. By the time I was in graduate school the kids were pretty much out on their own, in college themselves but by that point my husband did things like vacuuming to allow me to spend time on studying. Now he still does the vacuuming, does much of the heavy work in the garden,etc and I find myself often with not enough to do to keep busy.

When I said my "job" was to make the home comfortable, I meant I was the one to make decisions about what needed to be done, rearrange rooms to make them more comfortable, keep the home going smoothly. I too wouldn't think it was fair for a woman to hold down a full time job and still have another full time job keeping house. However, somebody has to take a leadership role in keeping that household running smoothly and that appears to be my role. I hope this helps to clear things up a bit
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    I think you have a great outlook on roles in the family. I see too many cases in which no one assumes the leadership role in the house!
    1683 days ago
    I knew what you meant! You could NOT have gone back to school without everyone pitching in!
    1686 days ago
    I need to go read the other blog. It sounds nice having the wife hold two full time jobs. Ooops my wife might read this. After a week with the grands I think we must have been super human back then. You were much more organized than we were, I think. Memory isn't what it used to be. However, I know the older we get, the better we were!
    1687 days ago
    My kids did their own laundry by age 12 too. My son requested only white underwear and red, black or navy blue outerwear so he would have only 2 types of loads and no sorting. Very efficient if somewhat boring, but it worked for him. LOL
    1687 days ago
    1687 days ago
    I think is clarified it nicely....

    1687 days ago
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