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FROM: Craig Harper...
I have some questions for you.
1. When will you be skinny enough?
2. How will you know?
3. Will it be a number, a feeling, a reflection in the mirror or a comment that tells you?
4. Or maybe something else?
5. By the way, skinny enough for what? [LOVE this one!]
6. Once you are skinny enough, then what?
7. A bit more maybe?
The truth is that some women will never be skinny* enough. Not all, but some. Somewhere, somehow, some women have come to believe that skinny equals good, skinnier equals better and skinniest equals best. You know them. You may even be them.
*Just to be clear here, when I use the term ‘skinny’, I’m not talking about a fit, lean, healthy, athletic female body. No, I’m talking about that super-skinny, ribs-sticking-out, could-faint-from-hunger-at-any
-moment (type) appearance. Unhealthy skinny, not healthy lean. Neither am I talking about women who are naturally thinner than most.
The skinny-ness problem is essentially a psychological and emotional one with a physical consequence, so the shift needs to work from the inside-out to create lasting change. In order for this to happen we must be prepared to challenge existing beliefs, thinking, fears and habits and to tell ourselves new stories (based on logic and reason, not fear).
Switch your focus to your health, strength, flexibility and fitness (rather than your skinny-ness) and your body will take care of itself. If you’re fit, strong, flexible and healthy, you’ll look and feel amazing.
Increasingly (and way too often for my liking, or comfort level), I catch my 9-year-old daughter *critically* examining herself in the mirror, and I feel SO SAD. She evaluates herself in ways I would never dream to, and which I have been very careful to not encourage (I grew up with a self-loathing mother and I know first hand how that can affect a girl's self perceptions). I can't imagine where this inclination of hers comes from (I've asked if anyone at school speaks negatively about how she looks/dresses/acts... her answer is always 'no').
I point out women of all body types, shapes, sizes and age that I find beautiful (nearly everyone... but if she's being down on her own nose I deliberately choose women with prominent noses, or if she's being critical of butts I point out the beauty in every manner of derriere... except those immodestly clothed, lol... lack of modesty and dignity is NEVER 'beautiful' in our world).
I never talk about myself in a disparaging way... I call myself beautiful, I admire my own hair, and eyes, and smile, and strength, and I speak about my journey here as an exciting adventure to be STRONGER, healthier, more active... NEVER thinner, or more attractive.
I always admire my girl's muscles, her strength, her intelligence, her loveliness (in terms of behaviour and deportment), her effort, her accomplishments, her grace... I never evaluate her physical attributes in anything other than the most postive and encouraging ways... and you've seen her picture... she is LOVELY by any standards (even if she wasn't a classic beauty, I would still respond the same way)... yet she looks in the mirror and she sees imperfection.... And it breaks my heart.
I will consider my job done, and our victory won, when not one other article is written to remind women of the obvious...
'Skinny' has nothing to do with anything... it's completely irrelevant.
It's not how you look, but how you move through the world that makes you enviable and admirable.
It's the unique combination of your physical traits that makes you intriguing and beguiling.
It's not how attractive others find you, but how you view yourself, that determines beauty.
If you’re fit, strong, flexible and healthy, you’ll look and feel amazing... and no matter your size, shape, age, colour, or specific physical attributes... no matter what... YOU are BEAUTIFUL!
YOU are always ENOUGH!
My Divine Miss O... how can she not see her own beauty (and you can see only her face... you should see her heart, and spirit, and ENERGY)?!
Dear Women of the World...
When Your Mother Says She's Fat
How I Want My Daughter to Look
...Because your body WILL take care of itself... if you let it!
So, JUST DO IT.
UNTIL. (My 'Just Do It' blog)
'BEFORE' Pictures (May 31, 2009 - September, 2011) & Continuing PROGRESS (February 2012)! Next pictures SEPTEMBER 2013! www.sparkpeople.com/mypa
(I'm now keeping these right under my nose... in addition to being part of every blog I post, they are printed off and taped to my bedroom mirror... and I update whenever I feel the need - likely early September, 2013... to either see for myself what feel like significant changes, or to encourage myself to keep the faith when I feel no change at all despite my efforts)
Measurements, Musings & Motivation to MOVE!
(UPDATED/rewritten: JUNE, 2012)
I've Reached My Goal Weight!!!!!!!
NOTE: My weight tracker is NOT a truthful representation of my weight. Instead, I am using it as a tool to help me visualize my goal as though it's already been achieved!
DONE Girl Love...
(the footsteps into which I place my own feet)
Leaving NORMAL... In Pursuit of Happiness
Why I'm STILL here... my SparkJourney Saga
(quote by CHRISTINE MASON MILLER)
Words CAN Be Enough... page 3
Paleo... Do you really know what you're talking about?
Comparison Chart: Primal/Paleo/Ancestral, etc.
Breakfast is Served! (RECIPES)
"There is inner beauty about a woman who believes in herself, who knows she is capable of anything that she puts her mind to. There is a beauty in the strength and determination of a woman who follows her own path, who isn't thrown off by obstacles along the way. There is a beauty about a woman whose confidence comes from experiences, who knows she can fall, pick herself up, and move on."
"I sat on a bus once, looking at the people around me. Very few of them were skinny, or particularly pretty either. But most of them had someone with them, family, friends, people who loved them. it came to me that no matter how ugly you feel you are, someone will find you beautiful. The trick is to see yourself as they see you, and to accept that as the truth, instead of some distorted view of the 'ideal' woman." STONECOT