Monday, July 08, 2013
This blog post couldn't have come at a better time. This entire weekend, I felt like I was fighting against my urges for fatty, unhealthy foods. The farmer's market, while laden with amazing veggies (and trust me, I stocked up!), was also filled with the aromas of macrons and jellies and biscotti and breads and popcorn and hot dogs and all sorts of yummy foods that are most definitely off plan. The harder part is that I now live with my sister, who can eat all of those foods. So running away from temptation was incredibly hard.
Shout-out, however, to my sister who, while being an incredible temptation, was ALSO my biggest supporter by telling me things like, "That food is not going to make you happy" and "You have come so far!" Talk about amazing, huh?
Last year, if I would have gone to the farmer's market, it would have gotten ugly. I have no doubt that I would have spent a good portion of Saturday afternoon sick to my stomach, overfilled with goodies from the morning's activities. And not only physically sick, but mentally. I would be laden with guilt over my eating, I would be mentally bashing myself for not making healthier food choices.
The problem is, when I was faced with foods I wanted, I never said, "No". The answer was always, "YES!" Even in the times that I waffled, the answer almost always became "YES" - or if not "YES", then I picked out something "healthier", which was probably already as unhealthy as the item I first wanted.
Kessler talks about a few ways you can tell your trigger foods "NO!" and stick to your food plan. And a few of these actually did help me say "NO" over the weekend.
1. One way Kessler recommends to avoid the urges is very simple to stop thinking about it. Tell yourself, "I'm not having it and I'm not thinking about it anymore." It can be rather shocking at how well this works. If I give myself any leeway, then I will debate internally, but if I tell myself "NO" and refuse to listen to my internal arguments, the desire fades.
2. A GREAT way I've found to combat the urges is to make my favorite, unhealthy foods look bad. Instead of a thick, juicy burger topped with melty cheese, it's now a greasy, lopsided burger with a soggy bun and slippery, fake American cheese. It's INCREDIBLE how I now don't want ANYTHING to do with the burger now!
3. Another great way to combat my urges is to talk them down. This is what my sister was helping me with, and it works really well. Basically, you give your body reasons why you should avoid the food that is tempting you - kinda the opposite of Number 1. The internal conversation looks like this:
"Mmmm, that cupcake looks so good!"
"Yes, it does, but it's full of fat and sugar."
"But it will make you feel good if you eat it!"
"It will make me feel good the moment I eat it. But when I am done, I will feel guilty and yucky and ashamed. Plus, I have come so far, lost so much weight. Eating that cupcake could lead me to eating more and going back on all that I've worked hard for. And my health means more than having a cupcake."
I CAN control my urges. I don't HAVE to eat anything that is in front of me, and I don't need to eat it to "feel good". I can feel good withOUT food! I have had so much fun enjoying my life - biking for charity, exercising, prepping to run, etc. - that I don't NEED food to make me happy!
What methods work best for you when you need to say, "No"?