Monday, July 08, 2013
I posted in my status this morning that I had finished my outside chores and was ready to start on my traditional job as a wife and mother, making my home comfortable for my family. Are those words to start controversy?
For 30 years I divided my energies, working as first a nurse and then teaching nursing at the university level. During that time I was also the main homemaker which is just as important a role. Recently I learned that one of my nephews, after earning a degree in engineering chose to stay at home and be the homemaker. For this family it has worked out but I wonder what he does with himself now that their youngest is 10 years old and in school all day, at least during the nine month school term. What would a woman do in his place?
For me of course the answer was work in a hospital, come home to cooking, cleaning and gardening (even back then). I sort of saw myself as the "earth" mother and grew most of our vegetables, did a lot of canning, baked my own bread and most of our meals were home cooked from scratch. My husbands contribution was to make peanut butter sandwiches for lunches and heat up whatever I had left for dinner. He worked hard all day, built us two different houses doing almost all the labor himself and was always busy. We lived next door to grandma and grandpa for nine years so the children were getting plenty of attention among all of us and have grown up to be responsible, productive citizens. During that time I also saw it as my job to make the home as attractive and comfortable as possible for the family.
This past month my husband has been doing some needed repairs and putting a new roof on the old part of our house resulting in lots of clutter with tools and "stuff" all over the place. It just doesn't look comfortable, but now he's done and we can get back to normal for us. Today I shall once more start the de-cluttering process!
The point of all this is, how many young women still see their primary role as taking care of their family. Has this been lost with a younger generation coming up and us older ladies retiring and no longer trying to do it all. Has homemaking become a lost art? I don't believe so as I look at my daughters lives and their homes. Their interest centers around their home and their family just as mine did. They may not do the same things, but they are definitely "nest builders" I think our maker must have built that instinct in when he created Eve.