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Monday, July 08, 2013

Read an article by Shelley Emling this weekend: Dear Daughter, 13 Things I Want You to Know on Your 13th Birthday

"3. It is usually not about you.
As you grow older, don't worry so much about sucking your tummy in, or making sure there's not a hair out of place. Most of the time, no one is looking. Really. People like to think everyone is focused on them but, in actuality, people are usually focused on themselves. And if someone does something to you that's hurtful, it's almost certainly related to something going on in their life that has nothing to do with you."

Wow. I mean, how true is that???? I for one spend a LOT of time worrying about how I am coming across to people visually, but aside from some wardrobe choices I might alter, it's not like i'm sitting around nit-picking anyone I see, and I see a LOT of people in any given week.

The timing for me was perfect for reading this, as I was invited to a friend's pool, and so had no choice but to don a two-piece in public (granted, there were only 7 people there, but ALL of them are smaller than me, so....). Yes i was hesitant. Yes, I shed my skirt and tank 3 seconds before hitting the water, and had a towel ready to be wrapped in as SOON as I got out, but no one fainted. No one ran screaming. They might have thanked their lucky stars they do not have the stretch marks that litter my mid-section, but then most likely, they went back to worrying about their OWN imperfections.

Member Comments About This Blog Post:
CELTATHEART517 7/13/2013 8:27AM

    This is great for anyone, at any age, to read. I focus waaay too much on what I think others are critiquing about my body. Thanks for the boost! :)

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MOMGETSSPARK 7/11/2013 8:49AM

    Great point and article. We worry way too much about what others think instead of being confident in who we are and what we are currently doing. Thank you for sharing this! emoticon

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    Glad to see you getting out there and joining in. It sets a great example for all of us!!!

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LIVING4HIM_INWI 7/8/2013 4:40PM

    I love this!!! And I love your humor!!!
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BTW, I loved your advice on the struggling steps thread too!!!
You rock!!!
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PATTYR81 7/8/2013 10:58AM


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TIME-4-TINA 7/8/2013 10:46AM

    It's just like when someone takes a group photo and you are horrified that you look bad or fat or whatever. Meanwhile, no one who looks at the photo is looking at you. They are too busy worrying about how bad they look in the shot.

I used to get annoyed when I would maybe comment about how fat I was, and the person I am talking to says, "your not fat". I look at them and think, "are you blind"? But others don't see you the way you see yourself.

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FITGIRL15 7/8/2013 10:39AM

    I feel like this is was a break thru moment for you.... but what did this teach you?

... you are still dwelling on your 'flaws'...
You need to STOP that! emoticon

You are BEAUTIFUL. Your friends are BEAUTIFUL! We all ARE BEAUTIFUL!!!!!
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