Monday, July 08, 2013
Read an article by Shelley Emling this weekend: Dear Daughter, 13 Things I Want You to Know on Your 13th Birthday
"3. It is usually not about you.
As you grow older, don't worry so much about sucking your tummy in, or making sure there's not a hair out of place. Most of the time, no one is looking. Really. People like to think everyone is focused on them but, in actuality, people are usually focused on themselves. And if someone does something to you that's hurtful, it's almost certainly related to something going on in their life that has nothing to do with you."
Wow. I mean, how true is that???? I for one spend a LOT of time worrying about how I am coming across to people visually, but aside from some wardrobe choices I might alter, it's not like i'm sitting around nit-picking anyone I see, and I see a LOT of people in any given week.
The timing for me was perfect for reading this, as I was invited to a friend's pool, and so had no choice but to don a two-piece in public (granted, there were only 7 people there, but ALL of them are smaller than me, so....). Yes i was hesitant. Yes, I shed my skirt and tank 3 seconds before hitting the water, and had a towel ready to be wrapped in as SOON as I got out, but no one fainted. No one ran screaming. They might have thanked their lucky stars they do not have the stretch marks that litter my mid-section, but then most likely, they went back to worrying about their OWN imperfections.