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JOHAL52 Reviews Life at SP

Saturday, July 06, 2013


Here's the link -- and JOHAL52 is so right, the struggle to maintain is never ceasing but the support at Spark People is a huge factor in succeeding.

Maintaining INCLUDES taking it off and putting it on and taking it off again . . . yes it does. Although it's great to "smooth out" those bumps a bit . . . The At Goal and Maintaining: Transition to Maintenance Team resources help me a lot, but for me the real "foundation garment" has to be comprised of the unstinting support of my SP friends. No Spanx from any of them, lots and lots of great ideas and motivation and encouragement and . . . what a community.

In my comment on JOHAL52's blog, I do however stress my need for eternal vigilance in the nutrition tracking. In order to maintain, I can average only about 1400 calories a day -- so if I'm above that one day (and I was yesterday) I've gotta be comparably below that the next.

And . . . at 1400 calories a day I'm going to have to tolerate hunger. Which is not an emergency. It's normal. Lean people experience hunger every day. I have to keep telling myself that. I have to learn to think like a thin person . . . which means accepting hunger.

But -- (as I conclude in my JOHAL52 comment) it's worth it.

Recent instances of "worth-it-ness"??

My recent short holiday with DH. Slipping into the size 8 white shorts. The cobalt tankini for the beach. No worry at all about whether "this makes me look fat". Nope. It doesn't. And I know it.

Putting on my size 6 tan cotton pencil skirt and matching blazer for work yesterday. (With the black and tan stripy T and the black wedge espadrilles). The skirt is not tight. Not a bit. It fits. It will continue to fit so long as I stay with the program.

And: I'm staying with the program!!

Superficial? Silly at 62? Slightly solipsistic? Sure. All of that. And of course I have more significant motivations.

But whatever works. Spark People works. So long as I keep working it.
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    Great blog, Ellen. You are SO right. It isn't easy, but it is worth it. And those moments and successes you cite are right on. You know it doesn't make you feel fat, because you are not - no way - can't be. And, yes, I'm a little obsessed, but there are far less healthy things to be obsessed about. I am so glad you are on this path with me. I appreciate your perspective and wisdom very, very much. Now I'll go check out Johal's blog, too -----
    1709 days ago
    (wo)MAN! you're got it goin'! I too thank my lucky stars that my WW online community friend REBCCA dragged me over here in 2006 -- to this amazing, supportive Spark Community (which has also become a community-of-spirit for me, having made many 3D friends over the years, mostly through the Thanksgiving Community Team).

    I too love looking smart in my clothes (and will again sooooooooooon), "and of course I have more significant motivations" as well! Now I must read JOHAL52's blog.
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    1711 days ago
    Cheers and two thumbs way up to:

    "Hunger is not an emergency"...!

    1711 days ago
    Thanks for this blog - you could have been talking to me as well. Still, I'm glad I'm back & although I put back 39 pounds, it wasn't the whole 61 I lost before. The good thing is I'm seriously trying to deal with the problem sooner than I usually do after gaining the weight back - it's only been a year. That's because I found Sparkpeople & this great community of knowledge, experience & encouragement to draw on.
    1713 days ago
    Here's to staying with the 'program', however you define it!
    1713 days ago
  • NANCY-
    You have the keys to your success and you know how to unlock the doors you want.
    1713 days ago
    I always love your descriptions of your ensembles - and yes, smaller and more fitted clothing always is a great reward and a great motivator!

    *****she says wearing a black tee, black cropped cardigan, and grey cotton paratrooper hippie pants, with bright red Birks, and a pair of sunglasses......******
    1713 days ago
    Congratulations to you for all your success - and for loving how you look in those small sizes.

    I agree that the support of this Spark community is key to success.

    And thanks for being part of that supportive community for those of us who are still working toward our goal.

    I am looking forward to joining that maintaining team one day soon.

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  • DALID414
    At 62, I wish to be as superficial, silly, and solipsistic: survival of the fittest! Have I mentioned I want to live to see 100?
    1714 days ago
    Oh yeah, maintenance is well worth it. If I have to track forever, it's better than the alternative. The support for our effort here on SP is what it's all about. We keep each other on track.
    1714 days ago
    It's not just looking good, it's staying healthy enough to do the things I like to do.
    1714 days ago
    I am somewhat on JOHAL's team-
    lost (not all of it)
    maintained over a year-
    regained most of it
    (despite my best efforts).
    All we can do/be is the best we can on any given day.
    1715 days ago
  • KANOE10
    I read somewhere that maintenance is gaining and losing the same 5 pounds over and over. It is daily vigilance. I totally agree with you about the support from the Spark Community being so vital..but like you say we also need to take responsibility and use the tools and support here. Your size 8 shorts and size 6 skirts are definitely signs of worth-it- ness. I often wear my size six pants to remind myself that it is very important that I keep fitting that size.

    You seemed to have figured out your calorie requirements. It is working for you. I tend to count carbs when I maintain..which is why, by the way I cut back on strawberries for a few days.

    You are doing well Spark Friend. You are an inspiration and such a wonderful support for all of us.
    1715 days ago
  • JLITT62
    I don't think it's superficial at all! If you look good, you feel good & that's the name of the game!
    1715 days ago
    There certainly is a lot of up and down in maintenance! Maybe that's because my scale measures in two tenths of a pound increments, but I rarely am exactly the same weight 3 days in a row. I'm thankful, too, for the information, support, and friendship I've found here at Sparkpeople! I love that there are people who have been at this far longer than I have, and they are maintaining their weight loss. It helps me believe I can do it, too.
    1715 days ago
    Yes it is challenging to maintain. I love our At Goal & Maintaining team, the challenges help me stay on track. Like you, I still track nutrition every day.
    1715 days ago
    I'll be honest- I'm a little petrified of maintaining. I lose well, I gain easily, but to keep relatively stable will be the biggest challenge (I'm SURE!) once I get there. I will be one of those 'forever tracking' people, I know it. My struggle comes in the form of food, never exercise. Thanks for sharing.
    1715 days ago
    YES! It feels wonderful to be able to have to buy new clothes not because I've changed sizes, but because I wore them out at THIS size!

    Hard? Yes. Worth it. You said it, Sparkfriend! emoticon
    1715 days ago
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