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Friday, July 05, 2013

Relax, people. My father is turning 60 tomorrow. Officially a sexagenarian.

In honor of his 60th birthday, we’re having a giant Italian family celebration for him, complete with pasta, meatballs, bread, cake, gluten, and more gluten. As one of the planners of said event, I did have an opportunity to work with the caterer to ensure some Gluten Free options were available – after all, my brother’s girlfriend has Celiac Disease ( wp.me/p1N36Q-ci ). We have sausage and peppers on the menu, and one or two of the side salads will be safe to enjoy. I am also bringing Wegmans Gluten Free Pasta (made from corn flour) for the caterer to cook on her behalf. I would partake, but now I’m not so sure about corn – better for me to enjoy carbs from the veggies we have on the menu, I think.

While I am certainly looking forward to celebrating with my father, I know anxiety is going to be at an all-time high. There’s a lot at stake. Here’s why:

1. Tomorrow will be Binge Free Day 13 – one day away from fulfilling a new 14-day streak and pulling from my reward jar ( wp.me/p1N36Q-71 ). I have only had one two-week BF streak since starting this in February. I’d really like to get another one completed, but the odds will be against me with all of the high-carb, high-fat binge triggers surrounding me – harder to resist because…
2. Wine, beer, and soda are included. Too much wine could mean impaired judgment in avoiding my binge triggers. But I might be driven to the bar because…
3. My family is going to nag me about my food choices. (Remember the lasagna incident at Easter - wp.me/p1N36Q-3C ?)

There’s got to be a way for me to survive tomorrow’s party. I know this is classic distorted thinking ( wp.me/p1N36Q-23 ) – just because I have binged at other parties doesn’t mean I have to binge at this one. Still, I need a game plan. I’m not far enough along the binge eating detox phase to get through four hours of an Italian buffet, and it’s not like I can simply leave if I feel an out of control moment coming on.

Luckily, one of my favorite blogs provided me with 8 responses to uneducated reactions about your grain free diet:


and, as a follow up, responses to reactions about a high fat diet – although I doubt I’ll need those as much).


Still, it’s going to take something else. A few options I’m considering:

- Stand 95% of the time – sit only for a mindful dinner. There will be enough family present for me to take the ‘social butterfly’ approach and use these four hours to catch-up on what’s happening with extended cousins. It’s not my usual MO, but might help because if I want to eat, I won’t be able to do it unless I am seated with fork and knife in hand.
- Drink wine spritzers – and sip slowly. I’d say avoid alcohol completely, but I think that would raise more questions than I’d like amongst my family.
- Ask my husband to help me maintain vigilance. I think he’d understand if I needed a babysitter just for the day.
- Give myself two rewards this time around, knowing the challenges are greater than usual.

The other option I’m considering is having a protein bar right beforehand and not eating at the party, considering the potential for cross-contamination that exists – then I could treat myself to something I really want after the party. But I don’t think it’s very realistic that I could get through the entire party without having a plate. I’d probably have to face raised eyebrows by my family members, which I handle poorly.

Wish me luck.
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    1719 days ago
    "If I were an alcoholic would you make me feel guilty for not drinking? If I were allergic to shrimp would you tell me to take an antihistamine and just tough it out? If I were diabetic would you give me a coke and a donut? No. Gluten makes me sick. Deal with it"

    It's your body, not theirs. We're all unique and that's that.

    You're doing the best thing you could do, which is to REALISTICALLY plan your actions and your responses. You'll do great!
    1719 days ago
    Good luck! You've obviously thought this through. I look forward to hearing the results.
    1719 days ago
  • DIETER27
    You could trying having a salad before the party or if acceptable bring a dish of your own to share with others. Socialize with your cousins and family. Have fun ......
    1719 days ago
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