Relax, people. My father is turning 60 tomorrow. Officially a sexagenarian.
In honor of his 60th birthday, we’re having a giant Italian family celebration for him, complete with pasta, meatballs, bread, cake, gluten, and more gluten. As one of the planners of said event, I did have an opportunity to work with the caterer to ensure some Gluten Free options were available – after all, my brother’s girlfriend has Celiac Disease ( wp.me/p1N36Q-ci
). We have sausage and peppers on the menu, and one or two of the side salads will be safe to enjoy. I am also bringing Wegmans Gluten Free Pasta (made from corn flour) for the caterer to cook on her behalf. I would partake, but now I’m not so sure about corn – better for me to enjoy carbs from the veggies we have on the menu, I think.
While I am certainly looking forward to celebrating with my father, I know anxiety is going to be at an all-time high. There’s a lot at stake. Here’s why:
1. Tomorrow will be Binge Free Day 13 – one day away from fulfilling a new 14-day streak and pulling from my reward jar ( wp.me/p1N36Q-71
). I have only had one two-week BF streak since starting this in February. I’d really like to get another one completed, but the odds will be against me with all of the high-carb, high-fat binge triggers surrounding me – harder to resist because…
2. Wine, beer, and soda are included. Too much wine could mean impaired judgment in avoiding my binge triggers. But I might be driven to the bar because…
3. My family is going to nag me about my food choices. (Remember the lasagna incident at Easter - wp.me/p1N36Q-3C
There’s got to be a way for me to survive tomorrow’s party. I know this is classic distorted thinking ( wp.me/p1N36Q-23
) – just because I have binged at other parties doesn’t mean I have to binge at this one. Still, I need a game plan. I’m not far enough along the binge eating detox phase to get through four hours of an Italian buffet, and it’s not like I can simply leave if I feel an out of control moment coming on.
Luckily, one of my favorite blogs provided me with 8 responses to uneducated reactions about your grain free diet:
and, as a follow up, responses to reactions about a high fat diet – although I doubt I’ll need those as much).
Still, it’s going to take something else. A few options I’m considering:
- Stand 95% of the time – sit only for a mindful dinner. There will be enough family present for me to take the ‘social butterfly’ approach and use these four hours to catch-up on what’s happening with extended cousins. It’s not my usual MO, but might help because if I want to eat, I won’t be able to do it unless I am seated with fork and knife in hand.
- Drink wine spritzers – and sip slowly. I’d say avoid alcohol completely, but I think that would raise more questions than I’d like amongst my family.
- Ask my husband to help me maintain vigilance. I think he’d understand if I needed a babysitter just for the day.
- Give myself two rewards this time around, knowing the challenges are greater than usual.
The other option I’m considering is having a protein bar right beforehand and not eating at the party, considering the potential for cross-contamination that exists – then I could treat myself to something I really want after the party. But I don’t think it’s very realistic that I could get through the entire party without having a plate. I’d probably have to face raised eyebrows by my family members, which I handle poorly.
Wish me luck.