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Letting Go of Perfect....


Friday, July 05, 2013

Holidays/Birthdays/ Get togethers for me have always been making everything PERFECT the house , the food, the atmosphere .. Making everyone happy and I got lost in that and really had a hard time enjoying the moment as I was always too worried about everyone and everything else. I am not joking I would already be thinking about the mess to clean up , the food to put away. .while I was suppose to be enjoying the MOMENT !! I just didn't know how to do it..

I have come far on this journey. I realize the perfect Journey is the one I am on .The way it is going is perfect for me.. I am not stressed about how many pounds or how much exercise I got this week. I am not worried about it being perfect to impress everyone. .oh look at Dawn she is a rock star.. Not this time .. this time I am working on doing it right , the way I need to do it to keep it off. I am learning to let go of PERFECT .. and yet Accept what I am doing is Perfect for me. Sounds like a contradiction but to me it sounds PERFECT !!

So last night was the 4th always good food , good company and me running around not being able to enjoy it.. BUT NOT THIS YEAR !! Well Last night was Perfect .. I didn't worry , or run around. As I type at 2:38pm cst I still have dishes to go into the dishwasher.. and bottles to pick up .. I did put the food in the fridge last night but that was about it. I got to sit by the fire pit and Enjoy the night talking and not worrying about everybody else.. Instead of me getting everything for everyone.. The one going in to grab a beer would ask the table and get it.. So I was not always the one.. We all brought in dishes and put into sink.. It was really PERFECT to let PERFECT go and just enjoy the night..

We are having a get together on tuesday.. I am hoping it goes PERFECT too .. if you know what I mean. I am planning on having food in crock pots and just doing it easy. I will enjoy the night by the fire pit talking and know that I can let it go now and it will be PERFECT !!

Learning to let go of PERFECT .. is just what I needed to find not PERFECT but find how great being IN THE MOMENT IS !!

Hope everyone has a Perfectly Peaceful Weekend.. if you know what I mean.. letting go and just being NOW !! well that is PERFECT !!

Much Love,
Dawn



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JULIEPIZZ 7/6/2013 6:01PM

    I am in this place. I have been that person. I wont be anymore! I laughed because as I dashed about making everything perfect I looked like the farthest thing from perfect there was. I was focused on the experience...but didn't experience it. Its all the people txting at a restaurant but not talking to their friends right beside them...kind of moment!

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LILMISS40 7/6/2013 9:58AM

    This is exactly what I need! I get caught up in perfection and miss out on the journey. I have been trying to do as you and let go of some of that. It's tough tho when it is who you are. Although that drive for perfection is what has helped me reach my weight loss goals. I'm so glad you were able to let go a little and enjoy yourself! Hopefully I will get there too! emoticon

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STEFIGURL 7/6/2013 9:16AM

    Love this and I love you for sharing yourself and your journey so generously with the rest of us. And don't kid yourself, Honey...you'll ALWAYS be a ROCK STAR in my book!!! ;-)~

LOVE YOU DAWN VLINDER!!!!
your sister...

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LILLITH32 7/6/2013 6:37AM

    I've heard it said, many times, "no human being is perfect". So, enjoy yourself and clean up tomorrow. Even better, make someone else do it for you. Have a great weekend!

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UNSWEETMAMA 7/5/2013 10:00PM

    Sounds perfect emoticon

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MOTHEPRO 7/5/2013 9:50PM

    Good for you! I'm so glad you were able to let go and enjoy yourself!

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FELINEBETTER 7/5/2013 7:50PM

    I can very much relate this this! We have all heard that people are "coming to see you and not your house, etc" but until you really believe it and let go -- everybody loses! Sometimes I wonder how I got this far in life ... lol lol because really, I'm a slow learner in so many ways! But the important point is -- I'm still learning!

Have a great weekend, Dawn. And a perfect get-together on Tuesday. Most of all - Relax and enjoy it all! emoticon

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EMMACORY 7/5/2013 7:46PM

    Dawn, I have a friend that when she has a party that everyone gets a job. She has them pull out a strip of paper. There may be 3 blue, 5 red, etc. The ones that have the blue may pick up the trash, the one with red help collect and do dishes; another group might take care of the fire pit, etc. Everyone usually wants to help but as we know it doesn't help when everyone goes to the kitchen and the other stuff doesn't get done. In fact my friend even has people volunteer to vacuum. Your are right it is PERFECT not to be PERFECT! You rock! emoticon emoticon

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AWESOMECHELZ 7/5/2013 6:28PM

    That's a big deal when we grew up doing for everyone all the time and nothing was ever good enough. I am really impressed with your journey. Keep up the GREAT, imperfect progress. emoticon emoticon
Love, Chelsea emoticon

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SKINNYINMYHEAD 7/5/2013 5:21PM

    ahhhhh such an important lesson that I keep having to relearn! Progress not perfection...

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ROSAMARCELLE 7/5/2013 5:08PM

    I have learnt not to worry about being perfect. Life gets in the way of that. Just more important to do my best and not be disappointed if I don't live up to perfect. Hope you have a great weekend.
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MYKIDSRSWEET 7/5/2013 4:44PM

    Yeah...I am a perfectionist too and need to let go and have people over more often in a relaxed atmosphere...good for you!

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DEEGIRL50 7/5/2013 4:30PM

    Enjoy the journey and the parties. No worries. This is our life and we need to learn how to Live It!!

You have a great attitude! I hope you spend many nights with family and friends around that fire pit.
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SCOOTER4263 7/5/2013 4:22PM

    I forget now who said, "the Perfect is the enemy of the Good" but it's so true.

I can't tell you how many things I've not done because I couldn't do it perfectly, or how many parties I spoiled for myself by frantically trying, as you said above, to make everything "perfect."

It changed for me when I met someone who told me that the time to vacuum was *after* the party - and her parties had always, in my eyes, been perfect. It taught me that the fun is in the participation, not flawless preparation.

Now I've maybe gone too far the other way and am a little lazy when it comes to preparation - I'm much more likely to dim the lights than have everything sparkling clean, and I've been known to let other people bring a fair amount of the food - but I'm so much happier, having relinquished a bit of the control.

That's what "perfect" is, of course - our desire to control every aspect of an event. When you decide that it's an exercise in futility, you can let go and actually enjoy a little, and that's so much better for you and for the others involved.

I've also discovered that others *enjoy* helping, so backing off a bit is a gift for both of you. Who knew?

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