Thursday, July 04, 2013
Kids left for a 6-day summer festival and DH - after dropping them off - is visiting friends in his home town.
So I'm alone and I'm enjoying it.
There is silence and peace.
Nobody comes home at dawn and makes loud clinking noise in the kitchen so I can sleep through the night.
I cleaned up the kitchen when I got home from work last night and it was just as clean and tidy as I left it.
I picked up some things scattered around in the rooms and put them back in their places and they are still there.
Don't get me wrong, I love my family dearly, and I wouldn't trade their loud and chaotic presence for living alone, but 3 days are quite enjoyable ; )
I would love to have a clean, tidy house, clean dishes and cutlery in the cupboards, clean and tidy rooms, but I'm the only one who cares for it. Kids and DH don't. On general principle leave all objects where they stopped using them: dirty dishes, glasses, work clothes, DVDs (disc and box separately), books, newspapers, whatever.
So I had to choose:
-accept the situation and decrease my standards (effect: untidiness, moderate and fluctuating levels of cleanliness)
-spend all my time cleaning and tidying after them (side effect: feeling exhausted, exploited and resentful)
-terrorizing family members into cleaning and tidying after themselves (effect: none, side effect: feeling exhausted, exploited and very very resentful)
I chose the first option. After all, having my family and loving them is more important than having a clean and tidy house. My mom always makes faces / remarks when she visits us, but I can tolerate that.
I'm very happy about the fair distribution of household chores, because I know in some families the mothers do most of them, even if working full time like I do.
DH does the washing and most of shopping, DS does the cleaning, DD washes the dishes.
I do the cooking, some shopping and do the odd jobs nobody does (like cleaning behind the washing machine).
I highly appreciate that they do their fair share, and I'm grateful for taking care of me and each other.