Thursday, July 04, 2013
So I'm about to get back into the dating scene. I haven't been on a first date since November 28, 2006. That's almost 7 years! I was 19 and about 60 pounds lighter back then. I've been single for almost a year now and oh what a year it's been. It's been one of the most stressful years of my life. I stopped getting child support, got diagnosed with PCOS, lost my health insurance, switched jobs, moved cities, broke up, switched schools and my ex lost his job and got sent to jail. Technically all that happened within 6 months. I was a wreck. I'm still a wreck. But I've moved on and I'm ready to start dating. Well...I'm ready to start thinking about dating. I'm not sure I can trust men at the moment or deal with dating just yet. I'm so used to doing everything on my own. The few guys I've talked to have had a hard time dealing with that. I'm not one of those clingy girls. You're hanging out with your friends? Cool, I'll talk to you later. Something at my house broke? I went to the store and got the stuff to fix it. I'm a big girl. I don't need anyone to save me or help me with everything. That seems to be a big problem. A few months ago I joined an online dating service. I met with two guys and both seemed like pretty great guys. Problems seemed to start when I didn't text or call them all the time. One got mad when I didn't call him when a pipe in my bathroom burst. Uhhhh ok. 1. He's not a plumber. What could he have done? 2. I called the maintenance guy at my complex and he came to fix it. 3. I can clean up the mess without being babysat. I really don't see the big deal with this. It's my apartment and I dealt with the problem. There was nothing he could have done. We had only been on a few dates (and by few I mean two.). So what was his problem? I would think most guys would be glad that a girl didn't call them over every little problem. Do guys really want clingy girls? Do they want the helpless damsel in distress? I don't get it!!! I'm a mom, I have to be the one to fix the broken Spiderman toy, kiss the boo boos and scare the dragon that lives under the bed. I don't have time to cry and whine about my life and wait for someone to fix it. I don't need fixing! I can fix myself! Is this why guys seem to always go for the stupid, helpless girls that can't drive a stick and thinks an Allen wrench is a dance move?
One thing I'm nervous about is the whole sex thing. Mostly about guys seeing me naked. I was with one guy from the time I was 19 til I was 25. I was also 60 lbs lighter when I attracted him. Now I'm fat, flabby with stretch marks and a kid. And breastfeeding didn't help me much in the boob area. Is it true that guys don't notice flaws or is that just something they say to get girls into bed? Do they notice stretch marks and sagginess? What about nipple size and flat asses? It's been so long since I've had sex that they might have changed it for all I know. If any guys read this can you please answer my questions? What do you really think about a girls body? Her flaws? And what's wrong with a girl that doesn't need to be rescued? Any advice?