Wednesday, July 03, 2013
Are you familiar with the stages of grief? The five stages of grief are used to describe how a person copes with a significant loss (usually the death of a loved one). They don't always occur in order and people spend different amounts of time in the different stages. They are: denial and isolation, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. So how does this relate to weight and weight loss/maintenance. For many of us food is and has been like a loved one....it brings us comfort, helps us cope in difficult times, something we turn to when we're happy, sad, angry, etc....sounds like a loved one doesn't it? Unfortunately for many of us we cannot eat whatever we want whenever we want AND be at our healty weight. We need to give up our loved one in order to get there. Obviously not all food but just our "trigger" foods...the foods we cannot eat safely, the foods we cannot enjoy in moderation, the foods that we know if we eat are going to bring us further from our weight goal. These foods have to go. Deep down we know it but we don't want to accept it (denial), we feel that's it unfair which may make us angry (anger), we make deals with ourselves and try to justify eating it or convince ourselves that one bite won't matter (bargaining), feeling really bad ourselves when we binge on our trigger foods and finally acceptance...acceptance that we cannot have it both ways. Acceptance that in order to maintain a healthy weight we need to do certain things (you know what they are) and there is no way around it. Acceptance is the difference between those who are successful and those who continue on the weight roller coaster. Accept the things you cannot change. Stop fooloing yourself. It is the only way.