This blog is really just a rant about stupid people. Nothing productive to say, just want to get this out of my system.
Why is it that during an argument, when someone has nothing else to say about you they resort to "ya, well, you're fat"?
My boyfriend has a friend, who has a girlfriend, who is a C word (I mentioned this in a previous blog). She is controlling, manipulative, a cheater, liar, and petty. She's 21 years old but believes she's God's gift to the earth, knows everything and is better than all other beings. She has been hurling some pretty nasty insults at my boyfriend, because he said he doesn't like her, and now he's becoming angry. I decided to send her a text to 1) say how I felt about her and 2) to tell her she ought to stop. Since that moment, yesterday at about 1pm, she has texted me every few minutes with a different insult. The main one is "well you're fat, your boyfriend is a chubby chaser, and I love watching your neck roll". Hmm.
My only response to that is "wow, I've really upset you haven't I? Get over it and stop texting me, I'm at work - I have a real job". What she doesn't understand is that I've been called names my whole life and it really has no affect on me now. All through elementary school I was called "The Beast". My mother has always commented on my weight. My grandmother has always said "why don't you have some water instead, you don't need to eat right now". My dad called me a "Lard Ass" on one occasion - which has stuck with me for 10 years. All through high school I was the fat girl. My entire life I've been the fat sibling. During every argument I can recall in my life, the one common denominator has been my weight. I truly do wonder why it is no one can come up with a better insult.
I know I'm fat. I know that I have 45 lbs to lose. I've already lose 9 of those 45 lbs. My weight has absolutely no impact on what kind of person I am. I would rather be a fat, kind hearted, smart, talented, caring, independent, successful woman than some cold hearted, cheating, lying, manipulating, freeloading, fake bitch! So while I take the high road and ignore her comments and respond with something like "are you still texting me? an hour after I told you I was at work and don't care to hear the insults you are trying to come up with to make me feel as pathetic as you feel right now?" and get something back like "at least I look good", it lets me know that I've won the argument.
The best analogy I can come up with is this:
She is like a mosquito. Small, pesky, blood sucking and hated by everyone. She swarms around you irritating you. You swat her away but she keeps coming back and nipping at you, doing no damage whatsoever to you, just irritating you. You know at any second you could squash her, because you're bigger, stronger, more powerful. But you think that just maybe she will learn to stop swarming and fly away so you continue to swat her away and let her live, hoping she'll learn the lesson. Note: Mosquitos will never learn the lesson. They will always be blood sucking, small, pesky, and hated by everyone. It's best just to squash dead in their tracks.