Wednesday, July 03, 2013
Last week SparkPeople removed a blog written by __________. It was a hurting, angry, and despairing blog. It had to do with abuse of all kinds by an alcoholic and prescription-drug-addicted husband. There was nothing inappropriate in that blog, unless, of course, a reader is offended because of being guilty of the same.
I was dismayed when I learned that the blog had been taken down. Among the comments was a particularly good one by someone who cared enough to list all kinds do possible help resources for this woman. I only hope that Sparker will send that information to her by SparkMail where it cannot be deleted by an unthinking and/or uncaring staff member.
This blog was about the pain of abuse, pure and simple. She did nothing wrong by writing this. She did not name names; she simply wrote about her own experience and suffering.
Until we who are abused can speak out witout fear of being silenced, this culture that covertly condones abuse even while supposedly being against it WILL NOT CHANGE.
It's similar to when a commanding officer looks the other way about servicewomen who are being raped. It is becoming clearer every day that the military brass foster the climate where rape thrives. It is no different with any other kind of abuse. Silencing the blog written by _____was flat-out wrong in my book. We who are victims of any kind of abuse are done a grave disservice by those who allow the climate of abuse to grow and flourish.
I have since learned that, although a coach from SP says it was not removed by them, it was. And not to silence the writer, but because she referenced a link that was against policy. (Not sure why, because I've seen similar links before)? So I need to tone down my diatribe in the above paragraph, but I still stand by part of it. It's still true that if we choose to pretend that abuse of any kind doesn't exist, we are (by inaction) supporting it.
Many of us who were abused in one way or another chose to keep silent for days, months, or years. We had our reasons. But when we are ready to point out what life is/was really like, we deserve to be heard.