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Learning How to Fail

Tuesday, July 02, 2013

June was not as impressive as I had hoped it would be. I only lost 2.6 pounds. My nutrition was a bit spotty. My focus was diluted. But I learned a very important lesson. I learned how to fail.

Not every month is going to gleam with success. Not every month will result in a perfect 8 pound loss. Not every month will be easy.

But I'm meeting July with a renewed resolve. I've learned that the only way to truly fail is to give up. And I certainly haven't done that. I'm very close to some major milestones.

Learning how to fail -- with grace, with optimism, with renewed commitment -- is not the same thing as giving yourself permission to fail. On the contrary, I'm throwing my heart and soul into seeing better results in July. But it's okay that June wasn't perfect. I don't need to carry that with me into July. I can let it go. I can move on.

In the past, a rocky month would have been the beginning of the end of my healthy lifestyle. But I don't feel that way at all. I wouldn't know where to begin if I did go "back" to my old ways (maybe with a pain au chocolat or some Thai take out?).

It isn't a matter of all or nothing. The only real failure lies in complete defeat.
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    Success lies in the attitude one carries into a task and with your positive one you are already a winner emoticon
    1720 days ago
    You are SO right!
    The only real failure is when you give up altogether!

    Also, it's possible that your rate of weight loss will slow down.
    Expecting to lose two pounds every week may be setting the goal a little high.

    You have a great winning attitude!
    1722 days ago
    I want to tell you how GREAT you have done ! Although many people set all kinds of goals, we know here on SP that this journey we are on is all about embracing a healthy life style of eating, exercising, and mental health. I think you have succeeded in all of these goals.

    On another note, for me, this time, although I want to lose weight and I weigh myself regularly, I have not set any weight loss goals like saying "I will lose 2 or 6 or 10# this week or month" etc. because every time I have done that in the past it has completely undone me if I failed to meet the goal I set. This time around I do know how much weight I want to lose, but I find I don't care how long it takes me just as long as I keep moving forward on this journey emoticon
    1722 days ago
    For what it is worth I don't think you failed but regardless I love your optimism and your great attitude. July is going to be awesome! Having been on this journey a long time I can also tell you that there will be months that you do everything perfect and don't lose and months that you slack off and lose more than you should. Life isn't fair but regardless, you are AWESOME
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    emoticon this was really beautiful! I wish I could bookmark your blog some how. I cannot say how much your blog speaks volumes to me RIGHT NOW!!!

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    1723 days ago
  • ZENXB!
    Great attitude! YOU ROCK!
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    1723 days ago
    love love love your attitude! emoticon emoticon
    1723 days ago
    Seems successful to me!! emoticon
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  • TEMPEST272002
    I'm with you - learning how to fail without letting shame overwhelm me has been a critical part of my journey towards a healthy life style. Only when I gave myself permission to fail could I try to succeed. Keep moving forward!
    1723 days ago
    Great perspective! Facing failure while maintaining a positive outlook is very important indeed. I agree completely. You only fail if you let the failure consume you and change how you feel about yourself. Saying to yourself well I haven't done as well as I set out to do but I will do better is so much more useful than labeling yourself a failure. That road leads to lack of confidence and ultimately, giving up on oneself.
    1723 days ago
    That is such a good attitude to have. I was terrified and became sad when I posted my first weight gain. I have learned how to deal with it and understand my body.
    1723 days ago
    I love your attitude. Way to turn a negative into a positive. It is true - you will only truly fail if you give up.
    We are all behind you - so let's turn July into something fantastic!

    1723 days ago
    You've got this! That's exactly the right attitude! emoticon emoticon Baby steps, and keep moving forward! I loved your statement that "you learned how to fail" ! There is a LOT of wisdom in that statement! Thanks! emoticon

    1723 days ago
    congrats on a great attitude! I'm so proud of you. July will be FABULOUS!!!
    1723 days ago
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