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Harry Potter Challenge

Tuesday, July 02, 2013

Harry Potter Challenge.

Stage 1a:
A problem I'd like to address. My laziness. I don't know what else to call it. At work, I'm a rockstar in my ability to focus, physically get stuff done. I come home and it all shuts down. This applies to exercise, cooking, cleaning. Really my entire life outside work is about doing nothing. It's like my brain and body turn off. I'll let things go that shouldn't - this especially relates to cleaning. My car is a disaster of trash. It's not like it would actually be hard to clean. To take a trash bag out to the car and just throw stuff away. I just don't. I don't day after day. I think this is a symptom of my depression.
What stops be from addressing this laziness? I'd have to not be lazy. It's a simple solution and one which I struggle with a lot. It's like... I like a good vacuum, but I don't actually want to vacuum. I like a clean car, but I don't want to clean it.
Mind you, this doesn't apply to me at work at all. I am extremely hard working - from helping customers, to cleaning, to stocking. I work constantly - I get stuff done. I feel obligated at work. At home, I don't. I don't know how to change that mindset. If I felt a sense of obligation at home, it wouldn't be this way. I do what I am obligated to do.
Pros for addressing this:
-I'd be healthier
- I'd feel better
-I'd actually have to do more.
-Less time to do nothing (not sure why doing nothing appeals to me, but it does, and by nothing, I really mean just reading a book or watching tv/movies).

A Habit I'd like to adopt: Regular walking with my dogs.
We do go for walks nearly every day, but it's really a stroll and it's short.
-Dogs would be better for it
-It would give me more energy
-I enjoy counting the amount of miles I walk over time.

-I don't really have any real cons. I keep just thinking, I'd actually have to do more. It's a silly con, but one I fall back on. I just don't want to. And if I'm weighing pros/cons, my default will be to fall back on I don't want to really.

I hope this is how this is to be done.

Member Comments About This Blog Post:
NORWOODGIRL 7/4/2013 10:52AM

    I really like the web site to get a handle on cleaning. But none of her help will work if you can't get started.
Five out of 8 people in my husband's family have serious depression issues and are on medication. It really helps them! But they are depressed both at work and at home. Can you think of any issues around your home/home life that might be dragging you down?

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TATTER3 7/3/2013 11:15PM

    I'm working on generating new habits too..Just keep Sparkin'!!!

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IKACEY 7/3/2013 5:10AM

    The hardest part of being depressed is to want to do anything. If you are truly depressed you may need medication or seeing a health care professional to help you find the cause of the depression. But even so, a big thing that depression does is cause you not to want to do anything. You are not lazy you are depressed in that case and that is a great deal of difference. I don't think people are ever truly lazy, I think they haven't found their motivation for the task at hand. That being said, getting out of depression takes effort that you don't want to make. But "a body in motion tends to stay in motion." It is a very good idea to change your routine so that you break the habit of coming home and going couch potato for the rest of the evening. Some good ideas are suggested here. Take your dogs out for a walk first thing you come in the door. Or if you have a cleaning project like the car, put the garbage bag in the car and clean it out before you go into the house. Don't set long time limits on tasks. Promise yourself if you want to stop after doing a few minutes you will, but the likelihood is that you will feel good after starting doing ANYTHING and want to finish it. When you have done your activity then its time to slow down.
Of course you work so hard at work you could just need some down time and set your days off as time to get tasks done. Start before you get to the couch and the book or tv. It takes a strong will to get it going. But you have a strong will. Look at how strongly you've built up the habit you want to change! It takes time to retrain a habit into a healthy one and if you don't replace a bad habit with something new it is not likely that you will be able to break the old habit. Hope this helps emoticon
IKacey co-leader of the Chair Exercise Team

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CAREN_BLUEJEANS 7/2/2013 11:08PM is great resource for cleaning motivation. I also have a video I made to be a virtual cleaning buddy.

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CHERIJ16 7/2/2013 9:55PM

    I used to have that problem when I worked. Now that I am retired I have more time to devote to myself but I still struggle with getting things done. Exercise does not come naturally to me but the 10 minute rule that I learned from SP really helps me. I tell myself I only have to do this for 10 minutes and it usually ends up being more once I'm up and exercising. For me it's the treadmill or walking.
It also helps me to remember that I'm doing this for my health not for vanity. Good luck. Just do it! emoticon

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REBECCATKD 7/2/2013 9:50PM

    This is a reflection that requires you to face facts. You know exactly what you need to do. Even as you think, "I don't feel like it," get up and do it anyway. Just do it!

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LOSINGLINNDY 7/2/2013 7:18PM



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NEWCHINELO 7/2/2013 2:52PM

    keep pushing!

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REFFIE1 7/2/2013 11:16AM

    The less you do, the less you can do. The more you do, the more you can get done. It sounds hackneyed but it is true. I fight with myself many times whether to do nothing or go to spin class. Then I stop debating and go and afterwards feel great. When you find yourself debating whether to walk the dogs or do nothing just pick yourself up off the couch, grab those leashes and go. I bet your spirits lift afterwards and the dogs will love you for it!

Also, change your routine. If you have a routine that always makes you come home and hit the couch then change it up. Have your runners and leash by the door, take those dogs out before you settle in after work. Have cues that get you out the door and not back on the couch. emoticon

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-_CLARITY_- 7/2/2013 10:16AM

    ***Love*** this, Maggie. I answered on your *a* over in yer' TDR. You 'did' this assignment with FLYING colors, Gryffindor!! And look, there are others who can identify with and encourage you *here* too!!

Love what your friend GRANDMACOO said about the 'moving' and I think your puppies would too!! Don't measure your walks at first. Don't even, cuz' before you know it, you'll be into the measure of it all and lose the joy and fun of it!!
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TOGEMON 7/2/2013 9:26AM

    I have the exact same problem! I agree that it can be a symptom of depression. I'm on medication for mine, but it still affects me! I also need to start walking with my doggies. My excuse is the heat emoticon

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BARCONIUS 7/2/2013 8:41AM

    Get help with the depression. It will get in the way of everything else. Fortunately, activity is an excellent anti-depressant. I'd heard it, but it got so noticeable for me, that when I used to get cranky, DW would send me to the gym. Echoing GrandMaCoo, don't sit down when you get home. Once I sit down in the evening, it's very hard to get moving. I like to ride my bike in the evening and I usually pull up to the house, kiss DW, pet puppy, load up the bike and get right back on the road. Otherwise, I'm a lump.

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GRANDMACOO 7/2/2013 7:49AM

    I feel like you are telling the story of my (recent) life, so am very sympathetic. The only way I see out of this is to make yourself get up and moving - that's what I have to do. Can you walk in the morning? Get dressed as soon as you crawl out of bed, or if you're an evening walker, change into exercise clothing when you walk in the door. I have learned that if I am not proactive in my exercise (or whatever I want to accomplish), it is too easy to do nothing.

Good luck with getting yourself out of this slump!

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