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Focus on the positive

Sunday, June 30, 2013

Weighed myself this week. Not a happy time, but I decided to pick myself up and get back to eating mostly fruit and veggies. I don't need the gluten free versions of popular items. They just aren't the same and do not satisfy.

Can't believe it's almost the 4th of July. I need to figure out a way to make it special because once again the in-law's aren't doing anything and I know that bothers my husband. They used to have a party, but last year went camping instead and this year just don't care I guess. I also need to do something to make it special for me too since this was always a big holiday for my family and probably the hardest one for me to get through without my brother. He loved fireworks and was a bit of a pyro. In fact it was 2 years ago on the 4th when my brother's spirit came to me to reassure me that his accident was just that, an accident.

I used to be known for finding something positive to laugh about everyday. I guess I'm still known for that at work, but it takes a lot out of me these days. People here are just driving me crazy. I keep noticing how rude and selfish the people here tend to be. I can't change them, but can change how I react.

My husband did the grocery shopping yesterday and I am so amazed. If he comes with me he goes and hides while I shop and then stands there while I unload and reload the cart. He wonders why the cashiers always give him funny looks and keep explaining that they probably don't expect him to just stand there while I walk around him trying to get things done. So I was extremely shocked when he offered to do the shopping alone. He did pretty good too. The wrong brand of hummus, but he still got my hummus instead of just saying he'd let me do it later. He also forgot my apples, but did get me raspberries and I have some apple left from last week. He made an effort so I have to give him props for that.

Off to the wildlife sanctuary to give them some supplies I bought for the baby animals.
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KNYAGENYA 7/1/2013 6:54AM

    I need to start thinking in a more positive manner. You and hubby can start your own family traditions. My hubby and I do this and it is rather nice. So far our family tradition is to go to someone's house for the holiday. This works out great since I don't have to do anything and there is no stress.

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MEDDYPEDDY 7/1/2013 1:29AM

    It seems like there is a golden opportunity to create something new this year...go for it!

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AUNTIEANNE22 6/30/2013 5:54PM

  You can start making your own traditions for holidays. Obviously, it isn't a big deal for your husband's family. I was divorced from my husband and didn't have a lot of contact with my siblings. I had a young son who needed some traditions, so we started our own. Were they the same as in the past? Not necessarily, but my son looked forward to certain things every year and we had a ball. Peter ( my significant other) and I have been together for two years. We have started some new traditions, but we also maintain a lot that Tim(my son) and I started. Tim is 26 now, but he still lives at home and Peter respects his need for traditions to be maintained.
You can't change your in-laws, but you can change how much you let them influence your life.

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1STATEOFDENIAL 6/30/2013 5:06PM

    I might be wrong, but I get the feeling that the stress of having a lot of things not going as you'd like is getting to you and wearing you down. I know you've had plenty of issues with your husband and his family, and you miss your family a lot. I often get the feeling you don't speak up for yourself enough, allowing others to dictate what will happen. I hope you'll soon find the strength to put your needs at the top of your list and make others compromise more. You deserve things to go your way more often than they do.

Who do you want to make the 4th of July special for? Do YOU want the party? Do you want your husband to enjoy the day? Do you want to honor your brother's memory? When you know why you want to do something, it'll help lead to you to what you could do to make the most of it.

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