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Taking Things As They Come

Saturday, June 29, 2013

Received a $100 bill from the nutritionist yesterday. So much for my insurance covering the appointments. This latest info along with my husband quitting his job recently definitely puts an end to seeing her again. Oh well, such is life! Never did receive a referral from my doctor for a therapist and I guess it's for the best now as I won't be able to afford one.

I am planning to weigh in (my scale) on Monday. Haven't done so in what seems like forever (late April) so it will be interesting to see if anything mildly Earth shattering has happened. My clothing feels loser so I know I have lost something but how much is anyone's guess. I am preparing myself however for whatever number appears as I know there will be a difference between what the scale at the hospital noted back in April and what mine will be Monday. Nevertheless I will accept what is and move on from there!

Had a major blow out with the daughter yesterday over a choice of words. Mine not hers. She made a comment, I responded with what I thought was okay, and well, she didn't like it. So World War 6, 892,131 broke out with her basically flipping out on the phone and hanging up. Tried as I usually do to call her back and straighten things out but she wouldn't answer the phone. Later she texted her dad with a stronger worded synopsis of how horrible of a person I am and she much rather I die as soon as possible. She certainly doesn't hide her feelings, I'll give her that. For someone who said she would like things to be better between her and I just a few months, she definitely hasn't made many strides in that direction. Perhaps she goes a bit longer between explosions nowadays but she is as unpredictable and lethal as usual when it comes to me.

Between her tirade yesterday and disagreements this week with the husband, I am laying low this weekend. Staying as much to myself as humanly possible. My mood is not the greatest to say the least so it's definitely for the best. Wouldn't want to fuel the fire any further. I have family outings coming up this week on the 3rd and 4th, and right now I am NOT looking forward to either of them. Would cancel my appearance altogether if it weren't for wanting to spend a little time with the grandson.

On the home redo front, all the staining in the kitchen is now complete and I am moving on with painting the walls in the laundry room than kitchen beginning Monday. Over the range microwave installation, countertops, sink, lighting, and flooring are still pending. Will be adding them in the order they are stated in the coming months. I am hoping by Christmas the kitchen will be completely finished. We will see!

For now I am just taking things one day at a time and trying hard to stay focused on home projects, eating right and exercise. The only things it seems I have even a little control over.
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HEALTHYSLIM2 7/5/2013 4:31PM

    UGH. Hang in there Sallie!
You did make me smile with your "World War 6, 892,131" comment!
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At least we can still find some humor in the ongoing unacceptable behavior. Although I wish your daughter would wake up before it's too late. She is going to destroy so many good things with her unwillingness to be more accountable and responsible with her words and deeds.
A friend of mine's husband has recently started studying "non-violent communication" (also called NVC). Apparently it is an entire movement, as so many of us suffer from actual 'violence' in how we communicate. It sounds so interesting to me, so I am planning to read the book. I'll let you know what I think afterwards.

In the meantime, sounds like the kitchen is coming along nicely. I continue to admire your Martha skills and approach to life. Unfortunately, I am the exact opposite of you these days. But I am determined that by the end of July, my house will be in better order. With you as my motivation, I am committing to one project or area per day!!
Wish me luck... emoticon emoticon

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MOTHEPRO 6/29/2013 10:15PM

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GOLFGMA 6/29/2013 8:26PM

    So sorry, you have this stress. Try not to let it take over your thoughts. Good that you have plenty to do with kitchen remodeling. emoticon

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LKWQUILTER 6/29/2013 8:21PM

    Sallie, I reckon we need to join forces. I have 2 daughters that are angry with dh so I am involved indirectly. Like Nancypat1 said, play phone tag and let your answering machine do its thing on your end. Also, I just wait them out and let them call when they are ready and not "bother" them. I know that our son will let us know if they are really sick/something bad is going on.

Hey, with all the exercise and remodeling work you are doing, you are gaining muscles so that will weigh more but your body will be smaller--hence the loose clothes. You are doing GREAT!!!

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NANCYPAT1 6/29/2013 6:01PM

    My sons were both a little volatile (especially Ed) and I have been called everything from A to Z - sworn at and been told that I should die, they were going to kill me, each other, etc. My solution and one I have offered to others is to call when you KNOW that you will not get an answer, leave a loving simple message like, "I love you and hope all is going well for you." then when and/if the person calls back, YOU DON'T answer - simply play phone tag for a while with ONLY positive messages and eventually the drama dies down and one day you actually connect and all is okay again. Worth a try - it has worked well for decades for me and not only with my sons.

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BRENDABUNNY 6/29/2013 4:28PM

    Hang in there things will get better hopefully emoticon

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KBLASEN 6/29/2013 1:54PM

    For what it's worth my mom has been everything to me from my best friend to my worst enemy. I've had years where we talked every day and a year where I didn't talk to her at all. Right now, we're somewhere in between, not as close as we've been in the past, but I don't hate her either...so don't feel like anything is forever! It can change. All you can control is your end of the relationship and being open to change when it comes around. I hope your week goes better!

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FATASHNOMORE 6/29/2013 1:18PM

    One day at a time, hang it there.

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