Friday, June 28, 2013
"Savor the 'good.' Most people are primed to experience the pleasure in special moments, like a wedding or a vacation.
Everyday pleasures, on the other hand, can slip by without much notice. Savoring means placing your attention on pleasure as it occurs, consciously enjoying the experience as it unfolds.
Appreciating the treasures in life, big and small, helps build happiness.
Multitasking is the enemy of savoring. Try as you might, you can't fully pay attention to multiple things. If you're scanning the newspaper and listening to the radio during breakfast, you're not getting the pleasure you could from that meal — or the newspaper or radio program.
If you're walking the dog on a beautiful path but mentally staring at your day's to-do list, you're missing the moment."
Positive Psychology: Harnessing the power of happiness, mindfulness, and inner strength from Harvard Medical School.
Hmmm.... I am thinking of how I did with this today. This morning at my husband's rehab I had many moments of "savoring the good." Hard to believe? I must have been in a good frame of mind because all of it seemed good to me.
-He was well taken care of --by a team of PT,OT,several aides to bathe and transfer him, and a nurse giving him his morning meds. At home I do that stuff. (Well, I pay an aide who bathes him and gives him breakfast.)
-while the aides were getting him out of bed, I was able to chat with a friend's sister who was also in rehab, I enjoyed talking with her so much! She had her stroke 15 years ago. She fell and broke her hip. She talks with great difficulty. Numbers skills have flown from her brain. But she has the sweetest voice and smile and attitude.
-the rehab people know me by now after a month of visiting. Two approached me and were willing to come work for me to care for my husband at home. We got along so well! I knew that they worked hard and they complimented me on the work I had done with my husband.
-I met hubby's current PT. She has the same sense of humor I have and we joked about him needing a cattle prod to do his exercises. I think he was the one who suggested the cattle prod so it was not like we were degrading him. But I loved her sense of humor!
So caregiving is not a barrel of laughs but it does have its moments of enjoyment.