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How to View the World, Part 1

Friday, June 28, 2013

You can see things from a lot of different ways. How you spin it can make a big difference.

I've recently taken on a trainer. I have several opinions about him, including he's kind of a jerk, he's hot, very fit, has a cool British accent, and he does things a little differently. and tonight, I discovered, he is also insensitive. But what is now more important to me than having a hurt feeling? Becoming a better me. He is the means to an end. He is going to help me make big changes. When the time is right, I will clue him in on his boorishness, but I can deal. I am seeing the bigger picture here, which is also nifty in my humble opinion.

Tonight, he decided to take my measurements. He did so with a length of rope. Ok, I am large, but seriously, a rope? Expletive, expletive, expletive. Maybe it was necessary, but it didn't seem right to me. I held it in, and trust me I wanted to cry, but I would not give him the satisfaction of it. I wonder sometimes, is he trying to push my buttons on purpose? I don't know. He might very well be, and oddly enough, in the right circumstance, I respond well to that.

Tonight, though, all it made me want to do is punch him. ha ha. I used that anger to
fuel my workout and I had a very strong performance. I kicked it hard. whew. I still felt like crying, but I did not and I pushed through.

The moral of the story is when I have my own gym, I will not measure people with ropes. I will know better. In the meantime, let's go have some dig deep workouts. We can do it!


Member Comments About This Blog Post:
GEORGIA_KAY 7/3/2013 7:13AM

    After reading this, I want to slap him too. HARD. But, I really admire how you used the entire situation to your advantage. I like how you saw the bigger picture and what the end result will yield. let him be a jerk--you can't change that...but, as you said, you did use that negative energy he created to fuel up the fantastic workout. That's pretty darn smart of you.

Give 'em hell, Mar!!!

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PATRISNA 7/1/2013 2:16PM

    emoticon I love your positive attitude!


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NORWOODGIRL 6/30/2013 10:48PM

    What a great way to turn a negative into a positive. Well done, Mar!

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RAINBOWFALLS 6/30/2013 6:53AM

    emoticon Great job with the workout

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SARAWALKS 6/29/2013 12:13PM

    Yes, jerky, but good for you for using it to fuel your workout!
A comparison here - learning to sing - some teachers are sensitive to your feelings and some are not - I've had several who were not, but one of the BEST was worth every hurt feeling I ever had.
And when I did my final recital, she was there with FOUR DOZEN roses.
So you just can't always tell...
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KEKEIKO 6/29/2013 9:33AM

    A fit outer shell of a man doesn't mean the inside is all together. It sound like you put the negative feelings of that uncomfortable situation to good use.

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LINTPICKER 6/29/2013 8:42AM

    people that have never had weight issues just don't understand! They don't think at all! I think that after some time passes you may want to explain to him how insensitive that was, he may not have considered that.

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MAGGIEVAN 6/29/2013 3:45AM

    You are so right. Use him... Get value for every dollar you pay. Let him keep on changing your program. Let him work for you! The little imp!

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MELAMA210 6/28/2013 10:27PM

    You are strong! I couldn't have handled that. Good for you for not flipping out on him! emoticon emoticon

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HEALTHY-SPARK 6/28/2013 9:21PM

    Geesh -- you are better than I am. I would have given him a piece of my mind. You are his customer, and if he doesn't recognize that you should know that there are LOTS of trainers out there who would want to work with you and will treat you with respect.

I don't have time for rude, disrespectful people. Getting in shape should be a fun positive experience, not humiliating.

I'm working with a trainer who he himself lost 60 pounds. So he gets it.

Hang in there and good luck.

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CARRAND 6/28/2013 9:20PM

    He does sound insensitive. Try to stay positive.

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MICKEYH 6/28/2013 9:15PM

    Ps.. Remember, you the Boss. Not him. emoticon

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MICKEYH 6/28/2013 9:12PM

    You did not cry and use that anger towards to hard core work out. So proud of you.
Hang in there...and no matter what, keep pushing. Show him you can do it and this way, you'll win him over !!
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MAVERICK59 6/28/2013 9:10PM

Good for you and your great positive outlook!!
I am so sorry that that jackass humiliated you like that.
I feel angry just reading it.
I always wanted to open a spa that catered to large women after being very humiliated while getting a pedicure/massage and having the woman complain to her boss out loud across the spa that my legs were too big and her hands were tired.
That was my last pedicure, to say the least.
Don't let the jerk get you down. He works for YOU. If not for folks needing help to get in shape he would not have a job.


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BLUBIRDY00 6/28/2013 8:42PM

  Good for you for adding a positive spin to an unsettling experience. You will go far for rising above his crudeness and arrogance and seeing the value that you can gain. emoticon

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