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What I did wrong the last time I joined Spark People

Friday, June 28, 2013

I became involved in SP several years ago and "it worked" but now, as I look back and am once again comited to SP, I can see some differences in the two times that really speak to me.

First, I see now that I did not truly commit to SHORT TERM GOALS, even daily goals that I am doing this time. I have literally stumbled across a daily goal spot that really makes me THINK about what I want to accomplish today and stays in my mind and I succeed.

Secondly, I never really got INVOLVED in connecting with other Sparkers nor did I get involved in groups . This time I am more involved with groups where I get involved, donating and in turn receiving back.

I was so focused on the SCALE and I neglected looking at the BIGGER PICTURE. This time, I have relaxed with the scale and instead am more focused on broadening my base with more parts of the bigger picture.

To sum it all up, I think back on my first attempt and I remember feeling panicky and all consumed. It eventually broke me and I walked. This time, I have looked at what Spark People is offering up. There is so much and it is fun to search in corners that I didn't do the first time. I am much more relaxed, seeing myself move through it in moderation.
Hope that makes sense to any reader.
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LOFLLAMA 7/10/2013 5:19AM

    Spark friends was what brought me back. I remembered how encouaging & inspirational so many were I knew they'd help me get back on track with exercise & they have!
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POUTINGPEGGY 7/10/2013 5:03AM

    I came back to spark people with a new name, I was so ashamed. I was a big loser and then I just put it all back on - all except 4lb. Even then the last time I came back I couldn't stick to it. I am still ashamed but I hope this time I will be able to see it through. I Agree with you all about spark people, it's a wonderful resource full of help, information and encouragement. Finding and reading this blog has meant a lot to me as I realise that I am not the only one.

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WISLNDR 7/2/2013 5:17AM

    The lessons never stop, do they? That's what so great about being here; there's always something new to learn!

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DWESTERM 7/1/2013 8:01AM

  It is just so hard. I keep falling down. But we keep getting back up and that is half the battle. Good for you for getting back up! I started reading the new Spark book. Start small; aim high. We'll eventually get there. Best wishes for your continued success.

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LIVEDAILY 7/1/2013 7:47AM

    Making and using short term goals and looking at the bigger picture are amazing lessons to have learned! I really like what 50sgranny says too, about changing your attitude, and what mirage says about it being a healthy lifestyle. It's ALL of that, and more!!
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BECCA315 7/1/2013 5:49AM

    Thanks for the gentle reminders of all SP has to offer, and what we can do for ourselves to help the process. Becca

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DEEGIRL50 6/30/2013 11:24PM

    Taking time and learning daily habits... emoticon

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MOSTMOM1 6/30/2013 10:49PM

    Sounds like you're on the right track!

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NEWME1027 6/30/2013 10:23PM

    Great blog! Ive been in your shoes. Like you I wasnt really using the whole site. Ive been a regular since November 2012 and Im still finding new things.

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PEGGYO 6/29/2013 10:02AM

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CATHEMARIE 6/28/2013 4:36PM

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Glad you came back ~ I've done the same, a couple times!!

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IFDEEVARUNS2 6/28/2013 3:10PM

    You're off to a great start! emoticon

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MIRAGE727 6/28/2013 2:49PM

    Here's the secret I found that helped towards my success....

"I embraced a healthy lifestyle!"

Portion control, ridding my nutrition of as many processed foods as possible, starting out with a small exercise regiment that grows, realizing patience and having fun with it! One more little tip , I use SparkPoints as my daily check list and guide. The self education alone has made life so much easier as well. I stay positive, focused, and never make excuses!

All the best on your journey!
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ROCKLAND2010 6/28/2013 1:39PM

    The lessons you learned are going to make you a stronger person.
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WAY2GOCAT 6/28/2013 12:01PM

    Some good lessons you've learned. emoticon back!

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50SGRANNY 6/28/2013 11:37AM

    I think it's pretty common to become too narrowly focused on a journey such as this. We come to this program because we need to lose weight, and that's what we focus on. When we don't see the pounds coming off in the way we had hoped, we get frustrated and quit. I have done that as well. Not once, not twice, but three or more times! But even then, even though I quit, I was still learning while I was here, and knew enough to come back again and again.

The first time I quit I had decided this just wasn't the right program for me. The second time I quit because it seemed that everyone on every team was losing weight, everyone but me. I would see those posts and just get depressed, so I quit. The third time it was just because I had gotten so off base, out of control, that I was too ashamed to face any of my Spark Friends. The fourth time, same reason.

Eventually I came to realize that my Spark Friends are not here to judge me, but to help me. I realized that I desperately NEED this, regardless of whether I lose weight or not...although it would seem that using this program diligently would have to result in weight loss, eventually. And I realize that that's good enough for me. The thing I needed to change was never the program, just my attitude.

You did well to learn this after just one time through!
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