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Have you hugged a friend today?

Thursday, June 27, 2013

Who is a friend?? To me just about anyone I meet. There is something to love, in everyone if we really look. Now I don't necessarily mean a virtual hug, but a big smile and a hello, can mean so much to some one who is longing for the warmth that smile gives them. Having lived in an assistant care facility, it was so evident on the faces of some of the residents that they needed some love shown to them. The ones who were crabby, were that way perhaps because no one paid any attention to them, other than the care they received from the attendants. And I do have to say that 90% of those attendants were very friendly, but to a resident, that may have been taken as "they are told to act that way" and there fore could not accept the actions as real kindness.
That's why I loved my job as greeter, I got to meet all the residents and answer questions or try to solve problems for the new comers. One learns who wants to have attention paid to them, and who loves to be given a hug or just wants to talk a bit. (or left alone!)
In our daily lives we have so many opportunities to express love, kindness and perhaps some humor. Giving is more pleasurable that getting.
On that note, when I was still living in the facility, I took the shuttle bus to the store. I was so careful (I thought) to see that I had my purse on my power chair, credit card, and a bag to put merchandise in. I got up to the counter, and as the lady was checking the things I was frantically looking for my credit card. It was NOT there. I told the check out lady that I would have to go out to ask the driver if she could cover the bill. (she would have been glad to do it) I was so thankful that for once the bill was $18.+ not the usual $30-40.00. When I started to go out, the check out lady said, never mind someone paid your bill! I looked to the isle next to me and a lady was smiling at me and when I tried to thank her she said "just do the same for some one else who needs help" I was so thankful for her generosity and was able a month or so after, to give a $20. bill to someone who needed it. (I had taken the credit card out while I was waiting for the time that the bus was to arrive, so I could buy something on the Internet, and forgotten to put it back)
I wanted to write this to encourage those here at Spark to greet the newbies as they arrive at your team. Yes, many of you do, but to those who don't, think how thrilled that new person would be if he or she was inundated with mail. For some it took a long time to decide to come here for help, they would love to get a "hello" or maybe a goodie and a note.
I am so thankful for the friends I have made here and who check on me to see what i have been up to, etc. Some are close enough I can share my problems, one of which I share with you also, my oldest daughter is fighting to retain a liver that was transplanted in Dec. All seemed well but now her body may be rejecting it. She is in and out of the hospital so much as doctors scratch their heads, wondering why it is not working efficiently. Prayers would be appreciated.
OK go out and "hug" someone! I am sending love and hugs to you all, your Spark friend, Betty emoticon emoticon "Being kind is more important than being right"
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    Hi Betty,

    What a lovely post. you were the very first person to respond to me. Thank you so much. We hear so much about the bad people do. It's nice to hear about the good people do too. emoticon
    1693 days ago

    Thank you for the reminder to be kind to every one even if they don't return it. You make the world a better place. emoticon emoticon
    1725 days ago
    Thank you, Betty, for writing such a great blog and sharing it with us. It contains a message we all need to be reminded of from time to time. Kindness costs little, and gives so much. I remember when I was new here you were one of the first to greet and befriend me. I will be praying for your daughter, and remembering the wisdom you've shared.
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    1726 days ago
  • KERRYG155
    What a great couple. I have paid a bit of someone's groceries when they were short. It certainly isn't going to kill me. I remember an old saying of 'smile and make the world wonder what you've been up to'. LOL Smiling at people will usually get you at least a smile back and make that person feel better.
    1726 days ago
    Dear Betty!
    What a lovely story! How right you are about people needing loving attention and physical contact! emoticon for the wonderful reminder yo gave us all!

    So sorry to hear about your daughter! I am praying for her! emoticon emoticon I am praying for you, as well! It must be so difficult for you as well! emoticon emoticon

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    1727 days ago
  • DIETER27
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    Dear Betty,
    Your blog was wonderful and I thank you for sharing. You are so right about welcoming our new members and encouraging others. aord of kindness goes a long way and makes that other person feel special too.... emoticon Hooray for you!
    1727 days ago
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    Dear Betty,

    You are such a special person and your blog was wonderful! We all know how it feels to be the new kid on the block and we all know how wonderful it is to be acknowledged and welcomed. emoticon You are so right when you say we need to welcome our new members and show kindness, genuine kindness, to our fellow man!

    You are a winner Betty!! emoticon emoticon
    1727 days ago
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