Who is a friend?? To me just about anyone I meet. There is something to love, in everyone if we really look. Now I don't necessarily mean a virtual hug, but a big smile and a hello, can mean so much to some one who is longing for the warmth that smile gives them. Having lived in an assistant care facility, it was so evident on the faces of some of the residents that they needed some love shown to them. The ones who were crabby, were that way perhaps because no one paid any attention to them, other than the care they received from the attendants. And I do have to say that 90% of those attendants were very friendly, but to a resident, that may have been taken as "they are told to act that way" and there fore could not accept the actions as real kindness.
That's why I loved my job as greeter, I got to meet all the residents and answer questions or try to solve problems for the new comers. One learns who wants to have attention paid to them, and who loves to be given a hug or just wants to talk a bit. (or left alone!)
In our daily lives we have so many opportunities to express love, kindness and perhaps some humor. Giving is more pleasurable that getting.
On that note, when I was still living in the facility, I took the shuttle bus to the store. I was so careful (I thought) to see that I had my purse on my power chair, credit card, and a bag to put merchandise in. I got up to the counter, and as the lady was checking the things I was frantically looking for my credit card. It was NOT there. I told the check out lady that I would have to go out to ask the driver if she could cover the bill. (she would have been glad to do it) I was so thankful that for once the bill was $18.+ not the usual $30-40.00. When I started to go out, the check out lady said, never mind someone paid your bill! I looked to the isle next to me and a lady was smiling at me and when I tried to thank her she said "just do the same for some one else who needs help" I was so thankful for her generosity and was able a month or so after, to give a $20. bill to someone who needed it. (I had taken the credit card out while I was waiting for the time that the bus was to arrive, so I could buy something on the Internet, and forgotten to put it back)
I wanted to write this to encourage those here at Spark to greet the newbies as they arrive at your team. Yes, many of you do, but to those who don't, think how thrilled that new person would be if he or she was inundated with mail. For some it took a long time to decide to come here for help, they would love to get a "hello" or maybe a goodie and a note.
I am so thankful for the friends I have made here and who check on me to see what i have been up to, etc. Some are close enough I can share my problems, one of which I share with you also, my oldest daughter is fighting to retain a liver that was transplanted in Dec. All seemed well but now her body may be rejecting it. She is in and out of the hospital so much as doctors scratch their heads, wondering why it is not working efficiently. Prayers would be appreciated.
OK go out and "hug" someone! I am sending love and hugs to you all, your Spark friend, Betty
"Being kind is more important than being right"