Thursday, June 27, 2013
I was watching Iyanla Vanzant coaching a woman on TV last night. She was having difficulty in her marriage because she doesn't know how to stop focusing on her own self pity and sadness. Her husband poured his soul out to her and instead of acknowledging his trust and his pain, all she could do was associate his story with her own past experiences. Instead of focusing on self pity and sadness, Iyanla screamed in her face "MAKE A DIFFERENT CHOICE!" I love these shows because I can always find something to grasp onto. I don't have the problems that couple was having but I grew up in a family that tends to cling to the drama of self pity and hurt feelings and the whole "woe is me" attitude. In learning to be kinder to myself and become more selfish for the sake of improving my health and my life, I've realized that complaining about how much exercise hurts and how other "lucky" people get to eat whatever they want, gets me nowhere fast. I still complain and get frustrated, but over time I've noticed that I push through instead of giving up and that I look to enjoy the freshness of produce over the heaviness of a burger in the summer heat. Making a different choice with my thoughts and conversations in my head is so key. Some days its easier to do than others. I can repeat the great advice of the great masters very easily. Following it myself is the current plan of action.